As long as its good i'm assuming.....otherwise ! :D***
If the relationship is good then sex automatically follows.
sheyn whoz kismat is phooting that ur interested in shadi :D:D:D
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Wife threatening to take full custody of my unborn child is holding our marriage together.
:D
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It took us 2 years to develop the trust and love, and I totally agree with TLK and Nikki, its mainly commitment that makes a marriage successful, even if its just one-sided.
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First five years..
sex, trust & understanding
rest of the life...
kids & commitment
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ugly guy + rani-sangeeta.
:D
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^JK… you’re not even married 
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But I like the subject. :(
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Trust, honesty and very open conversation coupled with compassion, acceptance = recipe for a good relationship. Marriage, I can't speak for.
It is in learning to trust someone, learning to be completely honest about yourself and your feelings/opinions, being forever compassionate and fully accepting of someone do we grow into better people, and spouses.
Acceptance obviously takes the longest. And it probably should. Don't pretend like you accept them fully when you don't. Take your time. Let the relationship run the way it is supposed to. Just be honest with yourself and your spouse.
But remember real truth requires real courage. Courage is worth nothing without compassion.
Check out Five stages of Committed relationships. Google it.
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He changed.... changed alot to save this marriage
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You can sugar coat it with a million different things, but ultimately people remain in dead end relationships because they don't want to leave their comfort zone.
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ONLY
trust and respect
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People are forgetting something very important here. As far as i have seen in marraiges and in most of relationships, at least one of the two needs to be more Patient and Tolerant than other. No one is perfect and you are NEVER gonna find a perfect partner for you. So there where he disagrees with you, you need to be tolerant.
Other than that the main thing that keeps a Wife with her husband is the fact that she has accepted this man with whole heart and handed over her everything to this ONE man (i.e. physical relationship). Its highly unlikely for her to think about 2nd man. no matter if this one person has not proved himself to be a very good husband.
Sorry men but I cannot say the same for you guys. Men keep on thinking about so many ladies.
Kids plays another most imp role. A married friend of mine told me this, that FT if there were no kids in marriage, many marriages wont last for more than few yrs.
My affair saved my marriage.
how ??
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i like maddy's answer...so true. physical affection is important.
- Say "i love you" often
- talking/communicating with each other about everyday things..things you don't like that the other person did..things that you DO like that the other person did
- when I first got married, an aunti told me that the biggest mistake one could do is complain about ur spouse to other people...it makes ur spouse look bad in front of these people, and it might come back to him.
- never go to bed angry..(even if he's wrong, what's worse? ur bruised ego or the contempt for each other?)
- don't have high expectations of each other....she is not ur maid and he is not your money making machine
- stop comparing! no need to compare urself with the other bhabhi, the nand, the hubby and devar, blah blah.
- alone, independent time is also good..u don't have to do everything together all the time.
- do things for the spouse because you want to, not because you have to.
- and the usual respect, be honest and truthful is also very important.
- also have faith in Allah, be humble and grateful for giving you an amazing life partner , in this duniya and the next.
A couple that prays together, stays together. :)
I personally think no marriage is perfect.. yes some are very close but I think every marriage has to put a lot of work in it. I have seen many couples that come as being perfect and never fight or argue but it's completely different when they are alone. So my marriage is a lot of work sometimes.. we both understand that we need to fix things because divorce is not a solution on our table. We argue but we work it out, we do things for each other and above all we respect each other. I think having tolerance of each other privacy and respecting each other's needs makes married life easier.
Another thing I always tell young girls is not to have high expectations because sometimes setting high expectations causes you to miss on things that you would want to enjoy!
My affair saved my marriage.
I've heard it has been the case Chavy where people have had an affair and got close to realising that they were an inch away from losing everything that mattered to them inc spouse/children/family respect
People should realise this before going into affairs though
Ok so everyone keeps going on and on about how difficult things are and how hard it is to cope ........and yet they are still in that marriage .So i'm assuming there must be a greater good that's holding it together !
Share what the positive things are in your marriages and how did you or your partner adjust or adapt to make things work out ?
What makes your marriage work ?
What would your advice be to a couple starting out ?
compromise,trust and communication makes our marriage work, as well as being good friends and having a laugh!
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Majboori....main us k baghair nahi reh sakti aur wo meray aur hum saath na hoon tu her waqt kis se larain gay???