Mutual trust, respect, and genuine love/affection for your partner. Compromise, don't try to win every battle and trust me, there will be battle. If there is a conflict, figure out how important the issue is to you, if it's more important to your spouse, let it go.
Marriage gets easier as you go along too. Marriage is a good thing, if you go into it with apprehension and negative instincts, you will doom your marriage. Just Remeber, not everything is a competition.
I dunno sheyn, there's so much to marriage than what can be written in a forum, just us your judgement and instincts, inshallah you'll be fine. You're a great catch, you'll find a cool pathan guy with a big gun, wink wink.
our andey ka funda has been when im screaming he shuts up n when hes screaming ill scream more…works perfectly!
*p.s sheyny i do believe in fate n somewhere scared of it like u are but tht dosnt mean i wont take the next step cuz i know myself & the person i have grown up to be. If god forbid something wrong were to happen in my marriage ill be devastated but not break into pieces, ill still face challenges and go on with life as it comes..ur fear cant stop u from living a full life..go on n take the plunge after all there is a risk involved in everything!
I personally think no marriage is perfect.. yes some are very close but I think every marriage has to put a lot of work in it. I have seen many couples that come as being perfect and never fight or argue but it's completely different when they are alone. So my marriage is a lot of work sometimes.. we both understand that we need to fix things because divorce is not a solution on our table. We argue but we work it out, we do things for each other and above all we respect each other. I think having tolerance of each other privacy and respecting each other's needs makes married life easier.
Another thing I always tell young girls is not to have high expectations because sometimes setting high expectations causes you to miss on things that you would want to enjoy!
If you're not fighting (read: disagreeing) with your partner, something is wrong with one or both of you. Fighting/arguing and working it out IS the way it should be, provided you are generally happy with the relationship.
Communication: It's really the glue that keeps a marriage together. If you can't talk to your partner about anything and everything then it makes for a difficult situation. I communicate with him about what I feel and we discuss our issues in a friendly and respectable manner. Sometimes we fight but it never takes too long to get resolved.
Plus like we all want someone who accepts us as we are and who understands us. We should know them almost as well as we know ourselves, maybe even better. He listens to me carefully and I also try to do so. He accepts me as I am, he doesn't gets me into trouble for anything.
Speaking from my observation, for most i.e 85% its the kids.
that shouldnt be the reason though.
We should love one another more to stay together for each other than just for the kids.
Kids are a blessing and most definately a binding force, but if they are the only reaon a couple together... that's not good. It creates more issues than needed.
Good advice aahmed…and its true what you say about it becoming a competition . I’ve noticed quite a few coupleswho try to trump one aonther instead of tackling things as a team…
I see a lot of couples making marriage into a game with 2 teams instead of playing for the same team.***
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