Korn, I literally cried with tears while reading your life story. Allah aap ko khushiyaan aata farmaa'e, (Ameen), and May He give you and your family success in this life and the hereafter, (Ameen), and May He forgive your unkind in-laws and husband, (Ameen!). shukeriya apki duaaoun ka :)
I have a few questions for you though:
How old are you, and how old are your daughters? 3 and 4 years old
I couldn't figure out the main reason why your in-laws didn't get along well with you, even though, as you said, you were by nature a very nice happy person. May you tell us what was the main reason for which you went through all this? I was out of family and from a very well educated family. My father is a PhD and my mother is a Masters degree holder. Whereas my in-laws mein say aj tak kisi nay 8th bhi paas nahi ki, except from my hubby.
As you have said, you and your husband are living together now, right? Is he a better man now, like does he treat you well now, or does he still try to abuse you? Does he try to get along with you and reconcile for his past behaviour? no, we only live like 2 bachelors in a accommodation. he loves his daughters thou, aur haan, i have threatened me kay ab agar mujh per haath uthaya to tumhari maa upnay baitay say haath dho baithay gi"
Re: What have u suffered at the hands of ur In laws
well dear from Thursday till now my daughters have been very ill, food poisoning (both of them) and he as usual, was the weekend so was out, but at least i can give him credit that yesterday all day my lil daughter did not eat anything and at night after 10 when her father came, she sat and he feed her
that was a very beautiful sight sweetie
mein to bilkul under say marr chuki houn yaar, bus meri betiyoun kay liye zinda houn :)
but at least i can give him credit that yesterday all day my lil daughter did not eat anything and at night after 10 when her father came, she sat and he feed her
that was a very beautiful sight sweetie
Good to know that atleast he's a loving father :). How are your daughters now dear friend?
You hit the nail on the head Korn.. It is hard to live a good life when communication is so limited
May ALLAH bring you happiness
Ameen at the dua for you Korn.
Well said.
Korn, I would advise you to try to engage in conversations with your hubby about whatever he would like and appreciate. This may make him appreciate you and find goodness in you. Though, be careful, don't say something that will make him angry. Once you mentioned, he even said at a time that you are a good mother. Maybe you can appreciate him too for what he did when your daughter wasn't feeling well. He may see that you are trying to build a happy relationship with him, and do the same in return.
Just an advice, do as you wish :)
I really don’t know how to and where to start from…
if i ask him roti paka doun ap kay liye, he will go like “zayada achi bunnay ki zaroorat nahi hai” then i still make for him, whether he eats it or not
everyday bila naga i go home, clean wash and cook food, kabhi is admi nay aik lafz appreciation ka nahi kaha
and to top of it all jub bhi koi baat ho then he starts talking so loudly hehehe
I am like y r u shouting, r we in an argument? then he keeps quite… ab bunda kya bolay…
i try as much as i can to talk to him, per her waqt itnay gussay mein wo jawab dayta hai jaisay meinay uskay saray khandaan ko goli maar di ho
Korn , I know how you feel when he behaves that way ! I have been there , I also just wanted to tell him that "itnay akhen bahar mat nikalo gir jaye gi neehcay " thats how he used to talk with me , anken nikal key , cheek kay as if he is doing some taqreer and sometimes like when jhail women fights "haye haye " like that !
But Korn your husband is nice with his daughters . Wohi dekh kar sabar karlo. Baap bura nahi hai. Kuch to insaaniyat hai us main thats why he didn’t abandoned his daughters and didn’t forget him like they never existed. Allah app ko apkay sabar ka ajar dega Insha Allah one thing I tell you that you can never change anyone’s fitrat.
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absolutely diamond THAT’S FOR SURE
i know he will be the same for the rest of the life
at least hes good to the girls, yehi kaafi hai meray liye and as i said and still say i am a happy person
quote: tum her waqt kyun khush rehti ho, kya koi lerka phansaya hua hai jo tumhari tareef kerta rehta hai" unquote
at that comment i start laughing and say, God knows better
he actually does not like me laughing and playing wid kids
sometimes he comes in room and like
“kya shor machaya hua hai tum nay, pagal ho gai ho kya!!!” phir meri beti kehti hai “papa, y r u angry, mom is only playing wid us” then he leaves the room
quote: tum her waqt kyun khush rehti ho, kya koi lerka phansaya hua hai jo tumhari tareef kerta rehta hai" unquote
He never dared to say such a thing for me. If he had , either I myself or the men in my family would have punched him in his face & uskay ek do daant toot chukay hotay. (sorry to sound to barbaric but no man should say such a thing about any woman esp his wife)
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you are rite...kuch admiyon ko do lafz taareef ke kehte hue takleef hoti hai...but Allah sees and knows your good efforts...inshaAllah aapko aapki achi aadaton ka ajar milega...
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This is absolutely ridiculous. Almost 99% of the MILs and SILs here seem to be evil. I am sure your mothers and yourself are part of the evil group when looked from the other side. So at the end, just blame yourself. You more or less deserve this treatments as a gender overall.
one thing I tell you that you can never change anyone’s fitrat.
@ diamond