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why r MILs so EVIL?! hmphhh!
saas bhi to kabhi bahoo thi? do they forget that when they plot these evil schemes against their DILs?!
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^ they are answerable to Allah. some MILs are too much 
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^ yes they are answerable to Allah ! But sometimes you really want them to face justice .......day of judgement is yet to come and they get away with everything they do.
Bahu is also someone's daughter. MILs manipulate their sons by saying maa kay paro talay janat hoti hai aur wohi janat hasil karnay kay liye they put some one else thru hell..........if MIL is a maa Bahuu is also a maa to her children.
Really I really hope to see atleast one MIL to pay for her deeds (I know thats very mean of me) but they don't just destroy a person but whole families.
This thread is full of sad and scary stories.....Is married life that horrible??
Thank you Syraa, for your beautiful blessings
Time has really made me like a hard core stone now. I literally have no passion for romantic dinners or sensual nights
I am as said living only for the sake of my kids.
I was ill yesterday, had food poisoning over the weekend so could not come on GS. I missed writing on GS, as GS is the only frnd which i have, whom my husband cannot take away from me
I love the way all my dear girls have responded to my life story. I cannot thank you all better for the moral support I have got over the past few days
TO ALL MY DEAR GIRLS 
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Married life is never meant to be horrible but it becomes...
In most cases if the hubby is good the MIL and SIL will be evil or vice verso
Its really difficult to judge your life ahead, once u r married
I have started counseling ladies now, who come to me and ask solution to their problems and i feel so grateful as i know for some of them do not have anybody to talk to almost anything and they share their selves wid me
:)
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Dont know why people treat others daughters like crap when they too have their own daughters and want the best for their own i.e wanting for their daughter to live separately, their own damads are string puppets of their daughters and yet when it comes to their dils,all they have are rigid rules and plain negative thinking...and top it all a husband who has no backbone to standup for his wife even when shes right but everyone expect her to keep quite and tolerate the abuse ..husband and his family can abuse the girl and her family but when girl tries to show husband and his family their true faces all of them get defensive and start calling the girl badtameez...dont know why ppl married off their sons when hes not capable of fullfiling his responsibilities towards his wife and children...
^ I agree with you radiant light. I too think that why do people get their sons married when they want to pet them for the rest of their life. Why do they destroy someone else's daughter life ?
Type of inlaws u have mentioned above have khot in their neeyat and they think of everyone else like themselves. They are evil and they think everyone else is evil too. That's why they start fearing for their sons. They very well know what their own daughters have done and they are afraid of becoming victims themselves too.
They call bahu batameez because truth is bitter , they don't want to hear that they are doing wrong. They think of themselves as superior because they are larkay walay and they cant be wrong.
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very true
You know what I have heard from some ppl, MILs and men (husbands/sons) that Bahu/Wife is always a ghair. The prob lies right here. they never accept her from the day one as their family member. They do not give her her right position at home to begin with. This is sooo low if you ask me. here this woman has left everything for you and your son and there you do not accept her rather always consider her as an outsider. rubbish rubbish and rubbish 
makes a woman only your son’s bed partner and babies producing machine
When my grand parents died, their children started to discuss the property matters. All of my phupoos and uncles decided to sit in one room and sort out the issues regarding division of property. They had just started when my aunts (chaachi and taiees) also joined to participate in that meeting. There my phupos raised eye-brows and said, “why they are supposed to sit in this family meeting? This is our Personal matter.” Just imagine 
thanks god one of my uncles said, “accept them now as part of our family. They are not going anywhere, they will sit right here and they are allowed to input their ideas/suggestions.” 
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^ and this obviously proves that aurat ki sab se bari dushman khud aurat hi hai…
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You know what I have heard from some ppl, MILs and men (husbands/sons) that Bahu/Wife is always a ghair. The prob lies right here. they never accept her from the day one as their family member. They do not give her her right position at home to begin with. This is sooo low if you ask me. here this woman has left everything for you and your son and there you do not accept her rather always consider her as an outsider. rubbish rubbish and rubbish makes a woman only your son’s bed partner and babies producing machine
i agree with you…but still some in parents in laws says…hamari bahu hamarai beti jaise hai but when it comes to family issues then they dont let the DIL know so why the hell at the first place they tell they DIL that you are their daughter…
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^ that is called LIP SERVICE :) zaban hilanay main kuch nahi jata
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may allah grant you all ladies jannat for the sabr you have endured.ameen.
^ I agree with you radiant light. I too think that why do people get their sons married when they want to pet them for the rest of their life. Why do they destroy someone else's daughter life ?
Type of inlaws u have mentioned above have khot in their neeyat and they think of everyone else like themselves. They are evil and they think everyone else is evil too. That's why they start fearing for their sons. They very well know what their own daughters have done and they are afraid of becoming victims themselves too.
They call bahu batameez because truth is bitter , they don't want to hear that they are doing wrong. They think of themselves as superior because they are larkay walay and they cant be wrong.
Yes the inlaws have insecurity and inferiority complex tht prevent them to let go of their sons...no girl in her right mind will ask her husband to leave his parents but just want from her husband tht he should mantain the balance which is so important in a relationship....donoon taraf barabarii ka salook hona chahiye....ager eik taraf bhi jhukaoo ziyada hoga tau wahein problem start ho jaye gi...
ager husband apni biwi ki respect karey ga tau uss ke maan baap bhi karein gay otherwise they will treat their bahu like crap ke hamara beta hi iss ki izzat nahin kerta tau hum kiun iss ko ghass dalein...
ladkey waley bus samajhtey hain ke hum jo chahey ladki waloon ko kahein,jitni chahey in ki be-izaati karein aur jo chahey salook in ki beti se karein lekin na ladki boley na ladki ke maan baap koi hum se sawal karein jaisey ladki waloon ne beti bechi huwi hoti hai....
My heart goes out to all girls who have been suffering at the hands of their inlwas...may ALLAH(SWT) gives all of u patience and perseverance to deal with such people and give u all HIS special blessings...Ameen!
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^ when I was going thru my situation and my parents were being forced to compromise sab kehtay thay thora aur jhuk jao then my dad said main aur jhuk jaoon agar meri beti ko izzat aur pyar milay but agar hum jhukay bhi aur badlay main uskay sath aisa salook ho to hum log aur nahi jhuk saktay. he said same thing to our relatives kay mainay apni beti beechi nahi hai unko kay woh jaisa chahain uskay sath salook karlain.
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Dear...wht ur father has said is absolutely right....
ager kisi ko buhat free hand de diya jaye tau woh samjhta hai ke its his right to do tht ke zulm kartey jao aur aagey wala bardasht kiye jaye....bardasht aur jhukney ki bhi had hoti hai.
Ladkiyaan tau pyar ki bhooki hoti hain,sab kuch apna chorr ke eik insaan pe bharoosa ker ke uss ke saath chali aati hain aur aagey se wohi insaan ager uss ko na samjhey,ussey thokar pe rakhey aur sahi waqt pe uss ka saath na de paye tau ladkii tau raiza raiza ho jati hai...doosrey samajh hi nahin paatey ke ladki bhi insaan hai ....she got feelings too and she gets hurt too but ladki hi jhukti jaye ...kahan ka insaaf hai...
per ALLAH bara insaaf karney wala hai....
ALLAH(SWT) tumhey tumharey sabar ka phal de,tumharey dil ko sakoon anayat karey aur tumhey hamesha khush rakhey .Ameen!
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Korn, I literally cried with tears while reading your life story. Allah aap ko khushiyaan aata farmaa'e, (Ameen), and May He give you and your family success in this life and the hereafter, (Ameen), and May He forgive your unkind in-laws and husband, (Ameen!).
I have a few questions for you though:
How old are you, and how old are your daughters?
I couldn't figure out the main reason why your in-laws didn't get along well with you, even though, as you said, you were by nature a very nice happy person. May you tell us what was the main reason for which you went through all this?
As you have said, you and your husband are living together now, right? Is he a better man now, like does he treat you well now, or does he still try to abuse you? Does he try to get along with you and reconcile for his past behaviour?
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I hope all evil MILs rot in hell...together.
I also hope Allah swt grants all of you women sabr and reward you for the sacrifices you are making for your children and families.
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^Amen!