i had a love marriage to a guy i knew for 6 yrs. firstly my MIL tried to jeopadise the wedding but it went thru without a hitch.
shes always been so sweet on my face but behind my back has turned everyone against me. according to her the reason her son, my husband, doesnt associate with his family is all cos of me. anythin that goes wrong, apparently its me that has done it.
ppl in the area dont talk to me, i have no acquantances with anyone, cos according to evryone im a ‘bad’ girl.
when i was pregnant i never got any help. when my daughter was born, referring to my birth story in parenting section, i got no help.
she doesnt even pick my daughter up. everythin is about her other sons kids as they got married to her nieces and im an outsider. Her close friends dont even look at my baby, cos she’s bad mouthed me off to everyone.
i dont care if she is like the way she is with me, but why treat my daughter, her grandchild, like that. what has she said to anyone.
I'm sorry to hear your story but at least your independent from now and living with your husband. Your children mashallah have you and your hubby to love them so don't you worry about a jealous mother in law.
I have similar story but not to that extent. I'm pakistani and fiancee is bengali so his parents I cant say have exactly made the process simple. Theres been alot of fussing, family debates, the prospect of a pakistani girl taking away their son forever lol jeez. They have never really warmed to me and always create an issue out of something.
Because of the antics before us we decided a long time ago we'd be independent. We got our mortgage a while back but weve now decided to leave the country straight after the wedding :K337:
Re: What have u suffered at the hands of ur In laws
for me, all iz well
for my wife, she has occasional problems with my mom (and vice versa) and they both talk to each other in such event. Most of the time its misunderstanding and rest, they clear out. I have told both (mom and wife) they both are educated, career oriented women and should be able to solve the problem without involving myself.
No big issues yet during last 9 years (or I think so? )
was your husband there for the birth of your 2nd baby?
NO
Not only i paid from my pocket for both the babies, his mother refused to see my daughters faces and told him, if he goes to the hospital. We are dead for you!!!
Re: What have u suffered at the hands of ur In laws
that really is sad... that a mother can behave like that towards another mother and be cruel towards their own grandchildren... oh well its their loss!
Nahhh I’ll tell u a FUNNY story… of how I keeled my MIL with rat’s poison and never got caught… IF she’s mean to me… wha’ else did I go into forensics for…
Re: What have u suffered at the hands of ur In laws
Wow…
Seriously? I thought this stuff only happens in movies now. Ridiculous.
I’m so hypersensitive about MIL’s now because of these stories.
I’ve seen in-laws make trouble for my mom, but its more my dad’s sister and brother, both of whom who don’t have decent jobs, and are still reliant on their older brothers for some income and help around the house. I don’t fault my dad and my uncles for giving to their mother’s home (whereby their sister and brother benefit, who still live with the mom). But I think sometimes the bahus (my mom and my chaachis) get miffed and paranoid when it comes to inheritance issues. My mom thinks that as soon as my dad dies, we’ll all be in the dog house. It’ll come to my sister and I to take care of our mom…when really, my dad’s inheritance should come to her as that is what he wants.
One of my uncles doesn’t tell his wife where his money goes and she doesn’t get to control the finances. Which sucks for her. She gets offended that he sends his brother and sister money behind her back, asking what kind of marriage are they in that she has no idea where the money is all going. Meanwhile, she’s gotta have a tight hand for her own clothing etc. Friggin git. We’ve told him not to do that, but he doesn’t listen.
The other uncle is the polar opposite. His wife controls EVERYTHING and God forbid one penny be spent without her awareness of it. She lets him donate to his family of course.
My mother and both chaachis live in a different country from their in-laws, and they have their own jobs, so they have their own pocket money to spend on themselves and could care less what the husband is doing with his money.
But no one has ever refused to see us or are unfriendly with us as their nieces and grandkids. Regardless of what they think of my mom and their other bahus.
Whatever. I told them all to their faces that they all approved of the bahus prior to marriage, and in some situations, the marriages were totally arranged.
So why complain about the girl now if YOU were the one to choose her. Go kick yourself in the butt.
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I am single 
and 5 yrs down the line u might be back with ur own MIL horror story 
