put you off a potential husband/ wife??
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I cant stand self absorbed people, who think their a lil better looking than they actually are....BIG turn off.
Gold diggers - their usually psycho and very prone to cheap values IMHO
Hairy women - sorry, but if her mooch is moving as she talks, im out the door!
Coloured contact lenses - odd occasions, fair enough. Full time, thats too pretentious
Spendaholic - considering we have third world connections as Pakistanis, and glocal connections as Muslims, any woman who spends hundreds on a handbag, isn't wife material for me...It's narrated even in Islam than a woman who over spends is like a miserly man, both destroy their Iman.
Perfume shop - the ones who bathe in perfume in the morning and destory my sinuses. A date, fair enough, spending your life with em? Heeeeell nope.
Star plus drama head case - yep, you know the type, the ones who either let the world run all over them, OR are the saas killers. Both stink and need psychiatric counselling...
Liers - ofcourse, we've all met em...the types who are secretaries for a solicitor firm or a doctors surgery but allege to BE a GP or Solicitor. They get found out eventually lol!
Baggage - dont get me wrong everyone has some to a certain extent. But if she's teasing multiple blokes at the same time, she's clearly got self esteem issues/insecurities. Old BF's that are still in the equation etc. Divorcees are a different matter, and I dont think society should stigmatise them as much. Everyone deserves a 2nd chance, and for me thats not baggage, that's a survivor.
I could go on forever, but to be fair, wifey material is different from GF material. Sad I know, but it is the case. Though as you grow older, you kinda want a synthesis of both.
I cant stand self absorbed people, who think their a lil better looking than they actually are....BIG turn off.
Gold diggers - their usually psycho and very prone to cheap values IMHO
Hairy women - sorry, but if her mooch is moving as she talks, im out the door!
Coloured contact lenses - odd occasions, fair enough. Full time, thats too pretentious
Spendaholic - considering we have third world connections as Pakistanis, and glocal connections as Muslims, any woman who spends hundreds on a handbag, isn't wife material for me...It's narrated even in Islam than a woman who over spends is like a miserly man, both destroy their Iman.
Perfume shop - the ones who bathe in perfume in the morning and destory my sinuses. A date, fair enough, spending your life with em? Heeeeell nope.
Star plus drama head case - yep, you know the type, the ones who either let the world run all over them, OR are the saas killers. Both stink and need psychiatric counselling...
Liers - ofcourse, we've all met em...the types who are secretaries for a solicitor firm or a doctors surgery but allege to BE a GP or Solicitor. They get found out eventually lol!
Baggage - dont get me wrong everyone has some to a certain extent. But if she's teasing multiple blokes at the same time, she's clearly got self esteem issues/insecurities. Old BF's that are still in the equation etc. Divorcees are a different matter, and I dont think society should stigmatise them as much. Everyone deserves a 2nd chance, and for me thats not baggage, that's a survivor.
I could go on forever, but to be fair, wifey material is different from GF material. Sad I know, but it is the case. Though as you grow older, you kinda want a synthesis of both.
Chances of you getting married seem thin:p
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Yep....thats discounts 90% of the known female world lol!
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I might have been enumerating attributes here, if i were not already committed. Now i can just say, i would perhaps try to rectify such things in him that put me off.
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Good point...what good attributes would make you overlook the usual 'put offs'?
Janjua Raja, alot of these would also apply to men too!
A few I can think of (which could equally apply to both men and women):
People that put on a facade and pretend to be something their not;
Egocentric people - its all about "me, me, me"
For me personally, personal hygiene, bad teeth and bitten/ long fingernails
Janjua Raja, alot of these would also apply to men too!
A few I can think of (which could equally apply to both men and women):
People that put on a facade and pretend to be something their not;
Egocentric people - its all about "me, me, me"
For me personally, personal hygiene, bad teeth and bitten/ long fingernails
Ofcourse! But a dude who wears perfume and coloured contacts as well as overspend on handbags, maaaay not be looking for a wife....most likely another guy lol :-p
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Though to be fair....I personally think a lil bit of 'i think im special' in a woman isn't a bad thing (not too much, just enough to induce a mystery and be charming), just like a little very mild arrogance in a man (just a self assured confidence) isn't a bad thing.....
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That's why I said alot lol
Change *perfume to *aftershave or what ever they use. If you're on the tube first thing in the morning on London Underground, it makes you want to gag;
Coloured contacts - I have seen men wear them and do they look awful - yes!
lol @ handbags - spendaholics in general...!
Agree with that, confidence is a good thing, arrogance is not :)
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if after having healthy physical relation one start turning other down :D
Oh it was respect factor first of all. Then giving me importance, understanding me, being with me in one of the worst patches of my life added to it.
:halo:
-Chauvinistic behaviour - the whole women should be chained to the kitchen sink brigade
-Mannerless/rudeness
Personality traits are more worrying than physical ones, they can be changed, personality traits/attributes cannot.
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loony men
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fuzool ka ghussa , aur apnee ghalti naa maan na :k:
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Here are some that were on my list:
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Arrogance about personal/family wealth: one can have money and not brag about it
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Insecurity in regards to wealth - The type that feel the need to spend alot so that they can prove something to the world: these are the types that have issues saving money and can potentially be the worst type of spendaholics.
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Drinking/Smoking: :nono:
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Laziness in every regard (career, taking care of themselves & family, household tasks, etc.)
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Detached from culture and religion completely
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Lacking manners and refinement: there is a time and place for everything… one should know how to behave in particular situations. By a certain age there should be no excuses of knowing how to behave.
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Baggage: Exactly what Janjua wrote above.
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“King of the world mentality”/“know it all’s”: thinking the world revolves around you is bad. You dont know all and you don’t know best.
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Chauvinistic Behavior: the whole women can’t have any say or opinion and should only be a baby-maker/personal chef mentality does NOT fly with me AT ALL.
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Liars: anyone that lies about being married before, having children out of wedlock or from a previous marriage, lying about your education/degree/jobs: truth ALWYS comes out…
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facial hair (personal preference)
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Guys that spend more time than girls to get ready and it LOOKS like it … aka the “metro-sexuals”: Please leave your skinny ties, vests, overly spikey hair, and colored contacts at home. Thanks.
i don't like people who get impressed easily by someone's wealth, looks, lifestyle etc.
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lack of intelligence
lack of confidence
arrogance
male chauvinism
metro-sexual (please don't use more hair products than me or wear colored contacts or be in touch with the latest trends....I actually like guys who live in their sweats and clean up every now and then for a special occasion)
quiet, shy (I like guys who can carry a conversation with anyone and are outgoing)
inability to realize that YOU are the breadwinner and whether I choose to work or not is my prerogative.
:)
Now THAT sounds like perfect marital material. Anyone can share the good times, it’s the ones who share your bad times, throughout, that are the ones you wanna keep.
Something as simple as a really good deed can make you overlook so much negative traits in person, so really it’s what’s on the inside that counts 