First of all Thank You for completely misquoting my opinion. It is not your fault, though. This is a common behavior in our culture and in our failed system. Thank You once again for making me look like a donkey in the eyes of the people who are participating in this thread. May Allah lead you to the right path, though.
Do you EVEN have the slightest Idea of what I mean by mazbi or are you just judging me and my view of the world by that word mazbi? Let me clarify first what mazab means. Mazab has two meanings. The first meaning is Path and connected to that is Religion. When we investiagte the word Religion we come to the conclusion that this means Path. This is the only path which makes your life easy, enjoyable and you can live your life to the fullest. Complied with Allah and his - if you are ready to apply them - attributes.
You’re absolutely right when you say it is the business of a couple and not of a stranger. No doubt. I’m against people who BOTHER you 24/7 asking you “where is the kid, kid, kid?”. Count me in your boat when it comes to this issue. I’m same with your opinion to that.
You come with counter arguments and say that our Rasool (saw) said that it is none of our business to interfere in people’s business. That is true, but some people like your parents and the parents of your spouse have the right to know when the offspring is coming. THIS IS THEIR ABSOLUTE RIGHT! It is none of your business to answer these people angrily. You are told by the Prophet (saw) to use a mild and polite language. BUT this is where your mistake begins. Instead of saying in a harsh manner it is none of your business you could’ve said Insha’Allah soon. BUT we don’t this and the effect it takes is that people feel attacked by these kind of answers and THEN they try to put some salt on your wounds. They keep bothering you as it becomes their business now, because you were HARSH, you were angry, you come to the boards - what they don’t know, but what would happen if they knew? - and cry your poor soul and innocent soul out. You give them the opportunity to act like that. Think about it. What about if you pray for these people instead of crying around?
A marriage is not only a alliance of 2 human beings. It is more to that. To be exact, the future and survival of mankind and you cannot prevent it. Do you remember the Blog of a brother/sister who wrote predicted stuff about the latter times? Therer will be a time when a man will have 10 wives. Why is that so? People will opt for a career instead of the future and survival of mankind. People will opf for their Motto live life to the fullest. Life will become more expensive in future, will that mean couples will wait 10 years now or never ever have kids? Great solution. I applaude.
Having a job, having a apartment and money is important I know, BUT no car doesn’t mean you are not a good father or mother, having no house neither. Our Rasool (saw) said the best thing you can give your childrens is Deeni education and I see that the majority failed to understand what is meant by that. We expect each other to have the better worldy education, the better houses, the better cars, the better clothes and forget in the meantime what our real task in this world is. We have become way too materialistic. Sure you need a base to provide your kids with a good education, but if we give and give, the more they expect. If you want to wait for more than 3 years, do it, do you think I care? I only asked for the reasons. Did I commit a sin or do the people do something sinful when they ask you once in awhile where is the baby?
Mazbi means to me being humble, respectful, like brothers and sisters in arms. It means to me understanding the values of life, sharing the goods with each other, educatin each other, supporting each other. Live for Allah, not for you own. This is what Allah expects from us. It is the duty of man to provide his family with food, not the duty of a woman. Sure a woman shall educate herself, but that doesn’t mean she or both shall delay the birth of a human being.
Here is an Intellectual speaking and please don’t blame me for your own expectations of life. Expectations will show you the tongue in the END.
And please don’t tell me I preach Religion for laziness. Don’t you know that Islam encourages you to be active or are you talking about your own materialistic Religion which preaches laziness? I have tried to understand what you wrote after that, but sadly I’m not possible to. I could ask you now is my family your business? No I won’t, I don’t want to be in the boat you are sitting in after thinking twice.
I’m not judging, it is a fact, but in the end it is your business.
and that is GOOD, very very GOOD. Otherwise this board would’ve been flooded with unimportant stuff.
graduating from studies. Would be fine, would give me more strength to do something, not for me, but for my child.