What are the REASONS for wanting no childs or waiting more than 3 years?

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Says Allah Ta'ala: And do not kill your children out of fear of poverty; We shall provide for them and for you. Truly, the killing of them is a great sin. (17:31)

Can we attribute unnecessary waiting for the sake of financial stability as indirect killing ?

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Wow, what a way to twist such things around!!

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aiwaiin..nakhray and bahaanay !! Allah already decides 'rizq' for every soul before it is sent on the earth..

what is the LIMIT of 'financial stability' btw ? the greed for money (ok..call it financial stability) is an infinite one and has no ending !

mOdrEn kitChen Utensils ,,CreatIvE!
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prevention is not killing so no, we can not consider unnecessary waiting as killing.

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It might be a nakhra for you but not for those who are struggling to pay rent and making the ends meet. Everyone wants to provide their children with the best they can and it is ok for them to wait if they want before they are ready in whatever way they want to be.

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i am sorry..but this is really funny!!

you think waiting to have children is "killing"???

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By this logic, girls and boys should start reproducing immediately at the onset of puberty, otherwise they are killing hundreds and thousands of babies.

In fact, for girls, it's just roughly one baby per month they have killed. But boys kill thousands on a regular basis. Hurry up and start reproducing! Aren't you ashamed at all the murders you have committed?

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Ladies … my amiable and gentle GS ladies .. there is no need to jump up and down so ferociously .. A little learning is a dangerous thing; drink deep, or taste not the Pierian spring….

I just planted a simple question .. What’s the point acting mad as hatters :D

I comprehend if waiting is done for some valid reasons such as health issues…. and many other valid concerns , you know them better then I do  .  But I don’t see a point of making your financial instability as an archaic excuse .

No one is asking here some one to have a kid every year .. But once you are married and have no other solid reasons beside this so called financial instability , unnecessary ( please read it dispensable excuse) waiting is like queering the pitch of a health marriage

I hope ya understand what I mean 

Madam instead of me acting as mad as a march hare , I would kindly suggest you to go back and read the argument again …

My argument consider the situation of a couple in a marriage agreement not going for a kid , just for the sake of financial stability .

You did well to twist it .. but kindly consider the fact that my argument revolves around humanly actions while the girly thing you mentioned is an act of nature , no one has control over it ..

Btw I have always consider you a quite well behaved sort of person .. Therefore it was indeed strange , I say rather eerie to see you getting personal and pointing fingers towards fallow Guppies .. :)

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Well you have each and every god given right to be amused .

I don’t mind it as you just walked the plunk and missed the actual point of my post as it is some riddle wrapped up in an enigma.

A1 at Lloyd’s , isn’t it ?

Well I clearly asked , Can we attribute unnecessary waiting **for the sake of financial stability as **indirect killing ?

Where you just read what ya wanted to .. what can i do in such case :D

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im just curious.....wat do u have to say about people who just dont wanna have children for no reason at all?

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^ Mass murderers!

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First of all Kevyan, you do not have the right to declare someone's financial problems as unnecessary.......there are many issues/obstacles involved when it comes to becoming a responsible parent(s)...especially when you are just starting off with your life as a newly married couple...for example, student loans, graduate studies, job lay-offs, responsibilities of parents or siblings etc!! so it may be easy for you to say such things qualify as unnecessary..but for people in such situations...it is not a joke...its LIFE!! and life does NOT necessarily throw things at you chronologically...ie marriage-honeymoon-kids---the end--!
2ndly...why would you even judge!! the couple knows better what situation they are in, how much help they have...when to do what...all based on THEIR lives!!! why put every couple under the same lens and have such expectations??? think about it..and be considerate to their problems...only then you will be able to understand and stay quiet..instead of pointing fingers at them..and making the couple feel as if they are committing a crime!!

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You're right. I rarely react the way I did to your post. Perhaps that should give you a clue.

And if you read mine carefully, you will see that I was employing the same twisted reasoning that you were in your question. That is all. So it wasn't me being personal, but rather showing you what your logic suggests.

It has nothing to do with "the girly thing" (adults call that "menstruation," thank you). And though you say that you are referring to a married couple, I'm saying why hold off on marriage? Why not get married off and start reproducing at 12? That's what waiting=murder suggests.

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^ Ju Go sahar!

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when i said 'try out' i was directly quoting my cousin thus the quotation marks...nothing negative about the phrase.

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vidpk - Sania Saeed & Vaneeza Ahmed in Marina Mornings P-3

i hope the link works…i thought this related to the topic very well.

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what a beautiful answer by sania saeed and marina khan. I believe a child is a God given blessing and unless we are sure that we are going to honour that blessing by giving our 100% to that child, one should not have children just for the sake of having children. It is a huge committment and undertaking, not to be taken lightly, see it as a privilige not as a right.

~*~ Time Pass June 2012 ~*~
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^^ Agreed! Thanks for the link of the show...totally loved it :)

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*No point Carrying coals to Newcastle ............
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Exactly. The way people are talking here, it sounds like you are some saint when you reproduce. Not true. Too many people have children for the following reasons:

-boredom
-girls want a toy to cuddle, and a being to call their very own
-hope for a better relationship with their spouse/partner
-everyone else is doing it
-greed
-vanity
-accident

Others have children because it is the right time, they are ready (according to their own perception, or Allah's). But don't tell me Jamie Lynn Spears is a better woman than I am, just because the condom broke.