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Please don’t come with **“I can’t handle a child, I’m not able yet”…That’s absolute ridiculous.
Have Fun writing down your reasons. Meet you later.
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When I'm a mother, I want to be devoted to my child. I think that requires a great deal of maturity and sacrifice. I want us to be financially stable enough to give up my job so that I can raise my child. I want to feel satisfied with what I have done with my education and career, so that I can give up the job for a few years, until the kids are school, and I can work part-time and full time. I also wanted to have developed a stronger understanding between my husband and myself, so that we would be better partners in raising children. We needed time alone to get to know each other's needs and desires, without giving them up immediately for the sake of our children.
We got married in July (31) 2006 and had Maha in August (18) 2008. Although we didn’t wait for more than 3 years, but our main reason was that wife was still finishing up university and she was going to graduate in December 2007. We did not want to get pregnant where it will affect her education. So we planned our first baby accordingly and Maha arrived last month…and she just threw up milk on my shirt as she was laying on my chest 
. Had we not known each other for 5+ years, perhaps we would’ve waited for another year or so for the reasons that Sahar mentioned, but since we already knew each other very well and we both love children, we waisted no time after her graduation was confirmed.
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^ I think you mean August 18, 2008 :D
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I don't know what you are talking about :whistling
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we waited cuz we wanted to be able to understand a bit more about each other, i had to get some understanding of the national tongue here... and we just didnt feel like being tied down and responsible for a little one
we thought we were gonna wait for a few yrs.. but then i got better at danish... we are at par with each other .. and well.. there's nothing left to wait for...
financial stability was one other factor that we thought we wanted to overcome but then u will never have enuff... and the kid does bring its naseeb with it and we just realized the power in God's promise with husband finding a new job and a better salary with the news of me being pregnant...
so its all worked out mashallah :)
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cuz babies are annoying and a lot of work :o
I am just kidding same reason as everyone else, getting used to married life, having that time alone and financial stability and I think we need to mature a lot too :D
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Me and hubby have been married for a year and 9 months now but we don't want to have kids yet because I need to finish up my studies plus we want to be fianancially stable as well. I want to work for a bit too so we have some money saved to make a down payment on a house we buy. Other than that we are very much looking forward to have kids of our own and we are very eager!!! :)
i dont wanna have a kid coz i know i cant go threw all that pain its simply scary n terrible n this is a very valid reason
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^ Yeah, actually, to be honest, I have been very afraid of this all of my life. It's only now, 3.5 years after the wedding, that I'm even getting to feel like I can live through childbirth. I'm still not sure.
It's all fun and games for the guys.
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^ It's fun. You will enjoy every second of it. As for the actual process of birth, take epidural and you'll feel a little relaxed compared to pure natural birth. Don't think I am making this up, I asked my wife and she said that the pain is there, but by that time your body has slowly adjusted and gotten itself ready to give birth, so it's not as bad as you may think.
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Waysay... that "I can't handle a child or unable to handle a child" should not be considered lame excuses. I have seen so many couple who have no clue how to handle children nor they are interested in children but just have them for the sake of having children. So if someone say that they cannot handle children should be taken seriously and should not be bugged or forced to have children.
my 2 cents....
Thank you for your opinions, much appreciated 
When does a “mind” think it’s mature and stable enough to have childrens?
Does it mean when you have the money to raise a child or are there other reasons behind that as well?
I know, it’s different from person to person. Every human being has a different view, no question. That should be appreciated, but sadly many people forget that as Sahar said in another topic that these people may have a boring life and see the need of chit chat to get some excitement in their life.
Nowadays it is a must to be stable enoug to have childrens, but what does stable mean? I have nothing - why should I - against couples who study and therefore wait to have childrens, nothing against couples who want to know each other first, but my main question is what stable means according to your view?
The question would be, what do you think when you are really ready?
Share your opinions,
Thank You 
Umar
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Every person has their own defination of stable.
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I guess we could have waited a bit longer, so that we had enough time to understand one another. And go through all the fun stuff that young couples go through.... But we had our bubloo pretty much straight away.. we wanted to wait at least 6 months after being married to try.... we were both pretty financially stable, lekin we wanted to knwo we were on the right track before actually trying..
We ended up not waiting much at all (and at times i feel bad for hubster), lekin right now, coming to three years of marriage, i dont think we made such a bad decision. The way we see it, we can do all the hard work now while we're young and the go enjoy life once bubz is a good age... so do all the travelling and adventurous stuff then..
Sahar02, trust me.. I was sooooo scared about having a child too. Infact, i thought i just wasnt capable of having one and going through the pain. Lekin, now that i look back on it, i think.. blah.. i could do the labour again... (not too sure about the all night feedings though! hehe)
And yeah, its not all fun and games for the guys.. i think they go through a lot too. My hubster cough cough is a darling about looking after my daughter. I get soo much help from him that sometimes we end up fighting.. LOL
i love life
how about if you share your definition 
I think that is what I asked for
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to better prepare for the child to come :>
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Education, financial aspect, stability, maturity and some of the couples develop issues after getting married which creates tension and distance.. alot of them might want to resolve those before starting a family.
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I think for me stability is most important. I only knew my husband for about 3 mnths before we got married.. so for me to know him and make sure that he can take care of himself when we have kids is important for me. I want him to be able to do things himself, laundry, dishes and cook a few meals incase I cant..
Other than that I want to be able to finish my goal education and career wise and also have enough time to enjoy my life with my husband, travel and go to disneyland before we have babies!
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wanted to grow up first