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oh you work also fulltime? 24 hours? 
*In the West, full time is not 24 hours. Im not going to explain this one to you because I dont want to. *
Who is by the way saying that both sould go to work? I never said it is a only WOMAN DECISION. WHO NEEDS DAYCARE? YOU MATURED PEEPS NEED DAYCARE!
*Again Numb, since you have not been through the same experiences you have NO understanding of this. Im not trying to be offensive here or hurt you. Where I live, most couples work full time jobs. They sustain themselves on a joint income and prepare for the time when wifey will be home to have a baby. Thats how my sister and her husband did it and they are fine! Mashallah they have a beautiful baby girl. *
If I have shown you how it is done, will you follow me then? Even you don’t buy that!
I’m already in the Uni, have a wife and insha’allah soon a baby. I will set the example, don’t tell me IMPOSSIBLE, nothing is IMPOSSIBLE, it is you who makes it impossible by setting up the bar so HIGH to the MOON.
*I love kids so please feel free to reproduce as much as you want as long as you can take care of them. *
*Im not saying its impossible at all…I said its difficult. Why would you do something right now when you can wait a couple of years and make it easier for yourselves? Allah ki di huwi aqal istimaal karna gunah nahin hai Numb. Soch samajhke kaam karne mein koi harj nahin hai. Family planning is important now. You realize how much it will cost a family to send their children to college by the time our kids are ready for school? Almost a $100,000 for a college education from a mediocre school! We pay less than half that right now. These things become a reality when you have a child, not when you are simply talking from the comfort of your own home with no child to tend to. *
What is right for you is not right for everyone.
Islam has given the duty to the mother and the father to raise the child, not to send it to day care.
*EXACTLY! So, instead of sending their babies to daycare couples save, plan and prepare to make sure the wife can stay home to tend to the children. This is the smart way of doing it. Islam has given us a duty but also a brain to use with it. *
*Islam also teaches us not to judge other people because only Allah (swt) can do that. *
Where is the need of a child if you BOTH even want to work fulltime when the child has reached the elementary school age? lol…
Ask those who never had parents, parents who wanted to give their kids materialism instead of LOVE.
Parents who wanted to give their kids everything on the Earth by working their ass off except LOVE.
*I think you are trying to say some parents overwork and neglect their kids. Sure, I agree. But that happened in our parents era too. We’re not talking about how to raise children here - separate topic - feel free to open up another thread on it. We’re discussing reasons why people wait. *
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