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^ my A$$, show one thing in the above 40 posts, that says oh and we bought this for the guy.
there is nothing for a guy. and then where the heck are you gonna wear all those joora thingies. i mean yo guys will just put it away and go buy new ones.
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i meant the joray for your wifey were probably so she coudl look good in em for you 
well what do u want her to do? Wear the same thing for the rest of her life? Styles change, peopke change, figures change and us poor women have to keep up. According to the other thread, if you dont keep up your looks theres a 100% chance your husband will be ogling someone else. SO, all this hassel is because of men. ITS ALL YOUR FAULT!
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i feel so bad for IORI, 
i really do. he is gonna listen to “ITS ALL YOUR FAULT” everytime something happens which is not his fault.
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In response to the original post, do not go overboard and buy too many formal wear outfits. I agree with 10-15 being enough. In the old days, when people made ek sau ek (101) outfits for the girl, fashion would not change. That same dumpy zari shalwar kameez would be worn forever. Nowadays, the fashions are changing so fast. One minute you have short shirts, then long, straight pants, then patialas, etc. You don't want your desi wardrobe to be wasted and out of fashion after two years. You can always add more later.
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haha DS, good to see u r accustomed to it upfront 
Being the groom u have to take initiative in organising ur own side of the affair. You’ll have quite a time getting ur baraati’s together. Other than that wear a big smile at all times. you will be too bsy drooling once then bride get there to do anything else anyway. Oh and please don;t be a miser when it comes to the joota chupai or whatever rasm ur brides family does. Try to keep things under control. Its good if ur friends participate but don;t let them run their mouths too much warna things can get ugly. We negotiated the figure upfront and had an idea of what to expect. We didnt want to ask for an amount he couldn;t afford and him giving us 1/5th of what we asked would be embarassing for him aswell as us. So we sorted that out upfront to avoid any sourness at the wedding. He actually surprised us by giving more than what he had said. Such a cutie 
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i’m a spoiled girl…i have already all i wish:
if i need clothes, perfume, jewels i buy it with my earned money…
…poor future hubby does not have anything else to buy me except a wedding ring :halo:
do working woman also enjoy that wedding shopping???
to me it sounds as a waste 
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He does alraedy, its going to be a clause in our nikhah-nama :o
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i have no idea about these things you speak off. i m gonna sit in the car and wait for this thing to be over. then i will pick her up and go home.
simple aint it.
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danial I think chameli was asking for her own list. Her wedding shopping list would comprise of stuff she may need and should have. besides everyones response tells her what to buy for herself not what her in-laws should buy for her! 
u shouldn;t be complaining.
The guys stuff is usually taken care of by the girls parents. In our family the guy usually gets a ‘CHEQUE’ so he can go and buy a wedding outfit of his choice and size, he doesn;t have to put up with what someone else, who had no idea what his taste was, like chose for him. In desi families usually the bride has to put up with someone elses outdated choice Besides brides may still wear soemthing they don;t even like just to please he in-laws but u cannot expect the sam e from guys.
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As long as u don;t send in a proxy…
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^ you scare me with your ing
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HAHAHA, thanks for the idea. 
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okay, okay…now I get it.
you mean kapRay taNkna
literally meaning “stitching clothes” but it actually means preparing them for viewing so that they look all nicely folded and packaged while still showing all the desirable parts.
gift wrapping in clear wrapping…sort of
Aside to Fayz,
If you are shopping here you can expect to spend close to $10K for a decent bari.
If you are shopping in Karachi or Lahore, you can cut that back.
This does not include a large number of joRay. Perhaps 11 (ammi always did odd numbers).
The estimate includes one appropriately sized gold set, 6 gold bangles, 2 gold kaRay and perhaps a light gold item to be used as “munh dikhaee”.
If your family, or the one you are marrying into, is accustomed to giving and/or taking for the immediate family of the bride, then those costs have not been considered in this estimate. (Sometimes gold gifts are given to the MIL and one joRa to each immediate family member. This can add up.)
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I thikn its tacky :o
Femme I want a one of those temp credit cards for my wedding shopping :o
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Miss Fatale, how about some ballpark numbers..jooti choopai, cheque, wedding suit, 10-12 jorre etc.
I really don't understand how desi wedding work in the west. I'm thinking it takes around $50k from shadi to honeymoon.
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Fayz for a HS project, i had toplan my wedding, i.e. call caterers and booking halls n stuff..a 3 day wedding cost me about 20K 
.. other grlz had weddings (western of course) at like 50, 60, 70 even 100 K (n thas all for one day wedding :halo: 0
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Fayz, it all depends. For clothes and shoes only, ranging from buying the material and getting it stitched, including simple shalwar kameez and fancy party wear, 50,000 rupees is enough. I am talking about 18 dresses in total. Not sure about jewellery prices though.
In North America, considering how expensive desi clothing is, estimate with about 50-100 for casual dresses each and 100+ for formal party wear. Then add up shoes, makeup etc and it can add up pretty high.
Again it also depends on the girl involved i guess. If she is happy with a few dresses and lesser amount of jewellery, i am guessing 5000 would be enough. Then add the cost of food, venue, honeymoon etc. Does 10,000 sound unreasonable?
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Well for joota chupai it all depends upon how well u negotiate and how rich/poor u r known to be We got $1000.00 which was not bad. Sometimes the guys family does not spend lavishly so the cost really depends upon how much u r willing to spend. I’ll give u an idea of how much my sisters stuff cost. Now if u shop for ur bride as she would for herself () the following should give uan estimate. By the way my sister didn;t not spend extravagantly, one can go wayyy over that.
if ur shopping for ur bride in pak
wedding outfit: rs.30 to 50,000 . u can get a great one within that range unless u want to go for designer then u need to be able to spend closer to rs. 100,000 or above.
wedding jewelry, man gold is tooo expensive now. sisters gold bangles cost about rs. 125,000 so lets take that as our price. the wedding jewelry set was about rs. 200,000 I believe. Add another rs.50,000 for other outfits.
Now stuff that u will buy. u’ll probably buy perfumes, shoes, handbags from canada i assume so add about $1000.00-1500.00 for that i guess if ur not going prada and hermes and LV that is maybe another $200.00 for body washes/body lotions, soaps etc. Most of this stuff u would be buying if ur family is involved in the wedding. if u r a single guy u probably won’t be expected to buy a lot of this stuff, well upfront atleast, later on she can burn holes in ur pockets
now ad the cost of ur valima hall and food, DJ ($500/day) photographer and movie guy probably close to $1000. Now add it all up and when i get home we can calculate the amount in dollars and then add the honey moon cost
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Oh wow, femme, that jewellery prices and all, is that in dollars? 
no wnder not a lot of guys are able to post in this thread.
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All this money spent, no wonder desis are against divorce