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Someone was asking my husband recently if we were expecting a child yet. Hubs said no and then they told him it took them 3 years to have their first child. Hubs had to tell them to give us some time too since its only been less than a year :D
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Ummm....me and husband were close to each other emotionally and mentally already before marriage so on the wedding night, none of us were nervous. We were just so happy and content that we were finally together forever AH. Maybe i was a lil nervous inside but i just lay in his arms and fell asleep. You will be tired and just want to be with your partner and just enjoy that moment with each other....beautiful!
Same here. If the mutual understanding is there and you two feel comfortable with each other, then nervousness is not there. Obviously if your spouse is a stranger, you would be a little uncomfortable and nervous, and that is completely understandable.
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I think it's weird when couples who are complete strangers are expected to (and do) have sex the first night. All your life you've been sheltered from such things and suddenly you're expected to put out? I've even seen girls having arranged marriages get really stressed because their period came at the wrong time, and consider taking hormone pills to screw with the cycle, just so that they won't disappoint the random stranger they are spending their lives with.
I think that's weird. But that's my personal opinion, do what you want, as long as choice is involved and there's no external pressure.
Some girls just wanna do it. They get horny too, and if you can't do it wiht your husband, on the first night, without people thinking you're somehow bad or a whore for actually wanting to.....then that's the sad state of pakis.
i mean its all comfort level, of course its not bad if u dont want to, but why do ppl look down on the girls who do?
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What I don't get is how do other people know whether a couple had sexual intercourse or not? Unless you announce it or provide proof for it, but that does not happen in normal families. If you did not consummate the marriage, there's no need to act weird about it. Just get up in the morning, nod and smile to people's freaky meaningful smilies, take the darn shower and get it over with. What's the big deal?
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^ I don't look down on them. I just don't like that they are often expected to, despite how well they know each other.
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What I don't get is how do other people know whether a couple had sexual intercourse or not? Unless you announce it or provide proof for it, but that does not happen in normal families. If you did not consummate the marriage, there's no need to act weird about it. Just get up in the morning, nod and smile to people's freaky meaningful smilies, take the darn shower and get it over with. What's the big deal?
That'd be one interesting wedding video.
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I can imagin wht my MIL’s expressions would be if I ever say something like tht:rotfl:
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That's really sweet. But I think you should keep info like this to yourself...it's personal. Remember it and Cherish it.
yeh i know dear.....
jus helping out the rest of the single gurls here that its a romantic night to look forward to.....and yes the male species can be romantic if they put in the effort...:D
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what is the real name of this topic? "present your suhaag raat ki movie"?
you r so horny now, suhaag raat meyn kiya hoi gaa phir? is it allowed to discuss such things in public?...freedom of speech and blablaba I don't care...
I think everyone knows that this is a special night...a very special night...that's all...
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^ EW That is just disgusting!!
On the other hand, one of my relatives got pregnant on the wedding night (or very soon after) and her MIL yelled at the guy saying it was too soon and asking him why he didn't wear a condom etc etc!
People need to realize what is and isn't appropriate for them to discuss and expect of the couple, and how and when to broach the topic.
aaaaaaaahahahhahahah REALLY?? Swell!!! aaaaaahahahahahah :D
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haha these comments are so funny. i'm getting married in august and me and my future husband have decided not to have kids for atleast the next 3 yrs. anyway, as everyone knows how nosy paki aunties can be, they start asking right away if ur pregnant. i was recently speaking to a married friend who said that she's also not having kids for a few yrs but gets very irritated when people ask her when shes having kids or if shes pregnant. she said all i say to them is 'hum kaushish kar rahe hain... bas dua karein.' hahaha, im definitely using that one with my sister in laws
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^ no, with your sister in laws, u should use 'he is trying hard, just keep praying' .... i m sure they won't ask you this question again :D
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what is the real name of this topic? "present your suhaag raat ki movie"?
you r so horny now, suhaag raat meyn kiya hoi gaa phir? is it allowed to discuss such things in public?...freedom of speech and blablaba I don't care...
I think everyone knows that this is a special night...a very special night...that's all...
true!
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lol.
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lol hahahaha
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girlss ur talkingg boutt after shaadii... im so stuckkk.... im gettin engagedd to my khalas son in junee so basically in few weeks tym seen as its april already.... he had asked for ma rishtaaa bout 5 years agoo n it got refusedd and shud i say kismattt dat after all refusin we are gettin engagedd... he lives in pak n im in london.... he has startedd all da sayinnn i have waitedd 5 years for dis tym blah blah abhh nahii tehroongaa... im scaredd sooo muchh he propaa kinky and i aint even got der...i told him ill stick to ma mum and he goes for how longg u gona do dat.. once i have u by ma sidei wont let u goo... he already talking bout havin kidsss.... now wah will be more scary dan dat,,,, wah can a girl and guy do after mangniiii... jus hold hands right??? :o
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k i have a qs that i am surprised no unmarried girl has asked yet ... our grade 9 sex ed teacher told us how horrible and painful the first experience is for the girl, and then a girl who had done IT used to tell us how she bled a LOT when she did IT. i googled it, and many people say that first time is always painful. i wanted to know just how painful it really is? like i don't even know how long it will last, but is there really a LOT of blood? and how long does it take for the pain to completely subside?
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It's painful for some, just a bit uncomfortable for others. For most women, it's bearable, and when you relax, it's better. For a few girls, it takes a few tries because of their own structure.
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that's exactly what i was wondering miicha..uncomfortable is fine..but pain i just can't take..i'm really freaked out about it..