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Well, I dont know about the entire cable channel, but Sex in the City is one racy show. 
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Most? Wishful thinking.
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Traditions remain the same, but the new generation's pattern of life is different.
It may have been intuitive to the older generation to encourage the kids to a) get educated (at least at a university level) and b) get married after. Then again, that generation got married in their early twenties. They had no idea how hard it actually is.
For the next generation, I advocate at the very least having a spouse chosen by university...which means possibly being engaged by the time high school is over.
Casual sex is out of the question, so it's time we change our traditions and make new ones.
I personally don't see anything wrong with being married while going to school, provided both partners are studying at the same time (more or less). Pregnancy is not such a big factor anymore, and the so-called "distraction" of marriage can't be any more distracting than the fustration of not being paired at all...
Dare we try something new?
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What’s with this haram fixation? Are you the legendary haram zadeh?
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Sure you can try something new, but like I said, practical matters also need to come into consideration. If you're marrying early while still going to school, just so that you can satisfy yourself, then ... what are you going to do when real practical issues crop up?
As a guy, would you want the responsibility of a family when you don't have enough money to support them? Or maybe just go marry a lady a lot older than you who can support you while you go to school? Or maybe marry someone straight from the pind who is happy that she has a dorm room to share with you as her first marriage nest?
As students, we study hard. That gets our androgens going. Which means, you will tend to feel horny, especially when studying. Which means you are going to think...
"Either I find someone to bang right now, or I get married, or I get toys, or I try that fasting technique..."
It doesn't mean you're necessarily ready for marriage.
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"Either I find someone to bang right now, or I get married, or I get toys, or I try that fasting technique..."
what toys? perhaps u should just pm the list to catwoman.
average man graduates highschool at 18, done by college 22 and has a career. the stoopid ones take longer and so do Drs. and lawyers but who cares about these losers anyways. so the reason men arent in a rush to get married is not cuz we spend our twenties getting educated or looking for a career... there are other reasons which are more inline with why an average american male is afraid to marry. its just a hassle.
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one reason men wont wanna marry is coz of the whole lopsided divorce laws :D
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other reasons which are more inline with why an average american male is afraid to marry. its just a hassle.
I think that's one of the bigger reasons as well. Also for females, believe it or not. Most girls I know or have met - they're scared silly of marriage. Too many horror stories. There's just no guarantee that you're going to find a good partner. And then, most girls who want to make something of themselves, they're afraid that their partner will block them from doing things they want.
So I don't think men are the only ones who find it a hassle actually. Isn't it natural to be scared of something new?
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that is so true in US…that is why “Its cheaper to keep her”…but Sara there is nothing funny about it.
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Marriage is no guarantor of (good) sex. On the contrary, it can result in the loss of libido. Don't get married just because you're sexually frustrated.
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damn that sucks even more for me.. already hitting 25, and 4 years for law school, 1 and a half year for articleship (bar). Marriage will be thought about after being done with school. :(
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^^ u telling me :D
four yrs of med school....:(
But then still have 4 yrs of FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEDDDOOOOOOOOOM!!!
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Muzna, those communities largely do not pursue careers after highschool if the families are well-established. But increasingly the trend is to get a degree atleast, and more and more of these families are producing law and medical graduates. Sometimes the feminazi movement does seem like a curse, but I think they have some validity as well. It's important that every woman be educated within her means - no question about it.
Dope, bursting the banks of the Hoover dam? lol Whatever are you going to do with this new 6-year degree you're pursuing? Someone once told me you have to "channel your sexual energy", that is if you can't you use it for the intended purpose, channel it into other creative habits. I still haven't quite got my head around that one.
PCG, thanks and you make some very valid points with regards to education and marriage. At the age of 18 I thought I was ready for marriage - blame it on my naivite, because now I am scared ****less of marriage, especially when you hear all those horror stories around you. So I dont know whether its a curse or blessing to have waited. In time I'm sure I'm going to think back in retrospect and say I'm glad I waited since I'd be mature enough to make the wiser decision, have a better understanding of life, and therefore be a better wife and mother.
Man with a plan, no I don't believe in toys - not unless you have someone to play with them with you.
And as much as I'd like to say I'd like to be a housewife, the importance of education is so deeply entrenched in me, that I'd probably want to continue to study or work after marriage and encourage my kids to do the same. And anyway, nowadays all guys in the west expect their wives to bring in a second income.
Why is it a hassle for a male in the US to marry?
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Oh Catty, why are you wasting away your life just for perfection? No body is perfect, no body has a perfect life...it is just a fantasy like dragons. With a dismissive attitude you might ignore the next best thing. You can be married and pursue your career or education....just need communication with your spouse and things work out in the end.
I know in our society sexuality is taboo and a person who is sexual is mostly downgraded. If you waste away your 20s you gonna miss a lot - and I mean a lot.
It is just marriage not dating or living together and in our society majority of the time when you are married you are married for life so why wait?
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^ Someone was tellling me the other day, Muslims are not meant to enjoy this world. :(
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Those people are stupid I am telling you go ahead with your parent's permission, in the end everything will work out.
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Everyone has their priorities. And not everyone’s the same. When ambition over comes emotions, physical or any other pleasure becomes secondary. A balanced way is a good way. Many people manage many things at the same time. Older epopel could. Many people still do but some just do not have the stamina. And then as I said when physical/sexual pleasure is not a priority then it becomes secondary.
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A very interesting thing I’d like to relate here.
Was listening to a talk show on the radio. They said the energy created in a body has to be let out. Intentionally or unintentionally blocking it causes complications inside the body in other ways. Like causing trouble with other organs of the body. I found it especially interesting bcz… my father told me a very similar thing long time ago.
He said that those people who let their anger out by smashing things and shouting or in anyway. When they let it out, that’s very healthy for themselves but not too pleasant for the others around them. He said that to me cz he said it is a good thing that I dont let the anger stay inside me so it does not cause further stress inside me.
It’s funny how it all has changed. Now when Im angry (always cz of work), I have to let it stay in me. I cant let it out. I have to keep a tight control over it. So, I think that’s the cause of my depression and other complications. But Gupshup has helped me alot in this. I dont smash things anymore or bang stuff. I think I hit the keyboard hard while typing on gupshup 
I think, maybe this is why it is my addiction. Hmm… makes sense.
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^ you wanna fight bibi? hmmm