I met him in 2002, got married in 2005… almost 6 years now!!! 
i also met my husband online :P. we actually met on naseeb.com and no, it was not love at first site. we just got along REALLY well and clicked to the point where we finished each others sentences and completed the others thoughts, alhamdulillah! all this led to L.O.V.E :) and our parents finalized our rishta 2 years after we met. we had our nikkah 3 months later and inshallah will have our rukhsati on our 3 year annivesary in december 2008! alhamdulillah X1,000,000...i couldn't be happier.
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i met my soon to be husband while i was in junior high school but never actually spoke to him. then we ended up in the same highschool together and thats when i began to despise him. i was very good friends with his sister since she is my age and was in a couple of my classes. but he always hung out with the white kids, and stayed back in school for extracurricular activities (nerd and showoff), and i was like, he just hates his culture since he only had white friends... dont know why i felt that way about him. i finally started speaking to him once he had graduated, and i was graduating, i needed help filling out college applications. and one thing led to another and now 8 yrs later, after being apart for 3.5 yrs (i moved to khi and he was still in ny) we really only dated for 2.5 yrs, we are finally getting married inshallah in aug this yr.
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love is the only reason one should get married :) no obligations..... no drama....no nothing...
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^^ Love comes with its own set of obligations, drama etc. Just a different kind. Nothing is with out its downs.
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well you do things out of love..when you are in love with someone....
you are not obliged to love someone just because you married them....its more like....adaptation...but again..there are exceptions.....in terms of arranged marriages...some people actually do fall in love with the person...while some are ok with just adapting...such relationships are bound to have inhibitions...reservations..etc...though I dont want to go into the discussion of arrange vs forced marriages...
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lol, "arranged vs forced" hahhaa! I love how you put that:p
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yeah its wrong to call it a marriage..when the word itself is full of love.....yet there is no love in it.. i feel sad for them.
oh common!! who talks about love vs arranged????? if there is no love? what then? whats the big deal if someone actually falls in love with the person they want to get married to? no logic in that...right???? even our prophet (saw) and hazrat khadija fell in love...THEN got married..people talk like its 'haram' or something...and things that should be considered wrong..like jahez..extravagance/showing off..and badmazhagi at shadis..should be haram..not LOVE for god's sake...
we should all be really careful when we make statements about the Propet SAW's life. He didn't "fall in love with Khadijah r.a before marriage and then marry her" (I have never come across any such material, if you have, could you plz forward it to me). Hazrat Khadijah was impressed by his character, his good name, his honesty, and that is why she sent her trusted friend Nafisa with the proposal. The Prophet SAW accepted and sent his Uncles to Hazrat Khadijah's house to talk through details. A bit different to what we refer to as "love marriages" these days ain't it?
yeah its wrong to call it a marriage..when the word itself is full of love.....yet there is no love in it.. i feel sad for them.
yes, me too. i feel like on all the things you should compromise on, you should never be in a position where you feel your only option is to "settle".
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^^ True. I agree.
Love marriage is just such a funny way of putting it...lol
like all other marriages are hate:p
lol
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^^ hugsssss :p
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"love marriage" is a completely filmy term i think :p
i was sat on a train with my best mate with 10 mins left before our train set off in 2002.......... i was looking outside the window on the platform and noticed this guy and i said to my best mate...............look at him, he's gorgeous...........expecting her to agree and then move onto our next discussion.............she looked at him and said oh yes he is and he studies with me, so she ran off the train and just went to speak to him, they were talking on the door of the train and I was panicking that our train might leave and came to the door and told her to hurry back in! he saw me, my friend never said anything to him, as she knew i'd kill her and we went back on the train and the train set off..................
..................few days later he called her and asked my best mate 'who i was', I was never the type to approach ppl, so when my best mate called me to tell me I was over the moon............lol...............we went out for a meal and 6 years later got married!
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^ awww, your story made me smile :)
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i was engaged to sum1 else just three weeks ago...
i knew he wasnt the right person and the right person had always been right there but coz of family issues i had thought it wud never work....my cousins pushed me to ask one last time from my parents and i did.....and the rest is history..... :)
we got married in court two weeks ago....our nikkah was last weekend and the wedding reception is in August, IA... :)
my husband waited 5 years to be with me.....everything happened so quickly that i still pinch myself from time to time to make sure this is all real lol
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^^omg! That is the sweetest story. It must've been very hard for you knowing he was right there and that you couldn't be with him :(
But all's well now MA!
That is wonderful!
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silsila, thats such a cute story! marena, you go girl! and props to your cousins for pushing you one more time!
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Wht a sweet story!! You two were meant to be together:)