Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
Some of the answers here are damn funny 
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Not healthy being Mamas boy, some day you have to wear big boys pants.
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Lol at what khatti said. Randomly reminds me of what I went through when I was pregnant. My mil would constantly tell me not to look at our servant (who is tawwa kala) and yes she is educated :p.
wow... how politically correct of you
to the OP, yikes... too much starplus maybe?
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Lol at what khatti said. Randomly reminds me of what I went through when I was pregnant. My mil would constantly tell me not to look at our servant (who is tawwa kala) and yes she is educated :p.
and I dont think someone calling a person tawwa kala learnt anything from his/her education either.
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AOA Friends, Need ur help plz. My hubby is totally dependent on his family. And he cares and listen them a lot. According to him what his family said is always right. He is specially attached with his mom. Aur unki mom un k kan bry achy se bhr dyti hain.. istrah k usy kan bhrna b na kaha jaye lakin bety ki himayat b hasil hojaye. Before shadi who bht achi lgti thin bt jesy jesy time guzr rha hy im feeling k msla bhr rha hy. Aur husbnd apne ghr walon k khilaf specially mom k khilaf kch b krny ko tyar nhi hoty. And totally un pe depend krty hain like a pamper guy. I want him to be totally mine. I dnt want to go 4 any taweez and kala jadu type cheez 4 this. I knw abt Ya WADOODU and YA WAHABU are the Islamic words for affection betweeb husband and wife. I request k agr kisi ko husbnd ko 100% apni trf krny ka koi amal ata hy (within Islamic bounds) to plzzzzzzzz share..... :(... Thanks in Advance
kill your mil and his family. seriously ! Why do you want husband to do anything against his family of 30 years for someone who stepped into his life few months back ?
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Wow 3 pages of criticism and jokes for the op. and people wonder why we have problems..
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kill your mil and his family. seriously ! Why do you want husband to do anything against his family of 30 years for *someone who stepped into his life few months back *?
Nay not taking OP under consideration.
Considering the amazing line. So wives are supposed to live as second grade plebeians all life and then someone can tell the same thing to the wife's dil who posts on a certain forum. Rewind, replay.
Family of thousand years or wife of 1 day. Everyone's rights are well-defined. Nobody could take over each others position. Yes things are striking balance. Whether it is practiced on our side, or by any community or not, we ought not display such polarized thinking.
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...... Aur husbnd apne ghr walon k khilaf specially mom k khilaf kch b krny ko tyar nhi hoty.
.......I want him to be totally mine..........
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Family of thousand years or wife of 1 day. Everyone's rights are well-defined. Nobody could take over each others position. Yes things are striking balance. Whether it is practiced on our side, or by any community or not, we ought not display such polarized thinking......
Do wife's rights cover;
- asking husband to do things against his family;
- total 'ownership' of husband
?
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Nay not taking OP under consideration.
Considering the amazing line. So wives are supposed to live as second grade plebeians all life and then someone can tell the same thing to the wife's dil who posts on a certain forum. Rewind, replay.
Family of thousand years or wife of 1 day. Everyone's rights are well-defined. Nobody could take over each others position. Yes things are striking balance. Whether it is practiced on our side, or by any community or not, we ought not display such polarized thinking.
no they shouldnt, but should she expect the whole susral to vanish and the husband to turn against his parents and siblings and obey her sir jhukaa kay the moment she steps into the family leaving the 'palaa palaya larka with all his business and the house' so the wife can get hers 100% ? There has to be a reasonable demand about the whole issue, no ?
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Now reverse the genders in the question, the responses will be even more great.
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Come on!! Not like any of you here know me or our servant and neither would I ever say this to his face Or to anyone who knows us. Just wanted to depict how dark he is or maybe I should have just said he is pretty dark.I don't hate him or diss him for his color :s
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OP when u say that ur husband is completely dependent on his parents and not financially what do u mean exactly. Some specific examples with respect to the family members would be good. That way we can think up some good advice and also tell u if we think might be over thinking everything too much.
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Do wife's rights cover;
- asking husband to do things against his family;
- total 'ownership' of husband
?
You sure love to miss lines you want to in all threads. I thought that was acidental in philosophy forum. nonetheless
I wrote in my post not considering OP's case.
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^ Please accept my humble apologies.
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I think this is enouf 4 critisim purpose. I guess all in the forum are MIL. There is no DIL facing such issues. Ab zra tasali se sb hazrat meri bat sun lain. shyd kisi ko smj ajye... hmari shadi ko 3 mnths huwy hain. aur shadi se phly meri khala ne mjy apny 4 srdiyon k suit diay thy 4 my honey moon. Qk tb srdi k kpry market main nhi thy. aur un k pas unstich suit prhy thy last years k. so she gave me. maine unhain apny hisab se stich kra lia. coz my khala is as slim as im and can share clothes. Shadi k bad ek din meri khala mere ghr aai and I said her k apny kpry ly jain. bt tb tk mere hubby ne mjy sardiyon ki koi shopping nhi krwai thi. my khala said abi tm rkho I wil take them afterwards. Unfortunatly yeh sb meri MIL k samny ki bat hy. usi rat mere husbnd ne mjse bar bar israr kia k yeh kpry tmhary hain tm inko jan bojh k khala ka bta rhi ho. I said nhi mere nhi hain maine hony moon k liay liye thy unse. Anyways jb main apni ami ki trf aai to meri MIL ne mere suit nikal k meri nand yani apni beti ko dy diay. jb main wapis gai to meri nand un mainse ek suit pehny huwy thi.. Jo k obviously mjy acha ni lgna tha.. maine MIL se 2 3 bar kaha she said k tmne kia suit suit lgai hui hy. hmain pta hy who kis k hain.. maine who choty kr k nand ko dy diay hain.. and I was really shocked... maine unse kaha k anti who mere nhi thy main apko kesy yaqeen dilaun. she said khala k thy ya ni mjy pta hy. main khud bat krlngi.. By chance after some days khala visited my home. aur qk saas ne kpry liay huwy thy unhne puri try ki k hmain akela na chora jaye. kbi saas kbi nand bari bari hmary pas byth jati.. khair maine khala ko btaya jo k unko b bura lga. she talked to my MIL k apko aisa nhi krna chahye kisi ki chee bgair ijazt to islam main b lyna thek nhi. jiska saas ne bht bura manaya k yeh kon hy hmary ghr k mamly main dakhl dyny wali. Sham ko jb hubby wapis aye to maine unhain sari bat btai. even he was nt believing k who kpry mere thy ya khala k. Anyways iss bat pe jhgra hua and he said shukr kro k maine abi yeh nhi kaha k khala yahan na aya kry. qk jo shkhs hmary ghr main fasad create kry uski koi jgah ni.. isbat pe hmara jhgra hua and he hitted me. Jis se kafi larai hui. And he ran away 2 his mother and unko larai ki kahani bta k aye. Thn his mom came and hmain smjhya k khala ki wja se q larai rhy ho.. usne mjy jo jo kaha maine wesy wesy jwab dy dia bat khtm yeh who. Meanwhile mere husbnd ne kaha I subh apna borya bistro pack kro aur mjy yahan tmhari skle nzr nhi aani chahye.. anyways rat jesy jesy kr k guzri. and subh un k office jany k bad I called my father told him the situation and requested him k mjy convaince bhej dain. unhne mjy rickshw bhej dia. maine ek do zruri cheezian li aur main agai. aany se phly mjy meri MIL ne roka k ghron main jhgry hoty rehty hain aisy ni jaty etc etc.. pr main agai. (Which I admit was my biggest mistake). Tbse ab tk issue create hua pra hy. ek to unhne khud mere kpry churaye upr se ab khud shrtain lga k bythy hain k khala is ghr main nhi ayegi.. ek yeh bat and 2ndly yeh k yeh Prda krygi... Prdy wali bat k liay btana zruri smjhngi k unki family typical gaon ki hy and mine shehri.. aur unki family main abaya plus niqab kia jata hy. shadi se phly mere parents ne unse yeh bat clear ki thi k shadi k bad isko b to ni krna pryga. to tb they said k nhi wesy to hmary khadan main hy lakin ispe koi bandish nhi hogi... lakin ab qk shadi hogai hy aur tb unhne sirf lrki phnsany k liay yeh kaha tha k ni prda yeh na b kry to koi msla nhi hy.. isliay shadi hoty hi yeh msla bn gya hy... ab last over a mnth main apny parents ki trf hn. aur mere MIL aur FIL ne ek bar b mjse haal nhi pocha... wesy they says k hmari beti hy.. hubby ka kehna hy k khud gai thi khud ajao. and 2 3 batain aur yeh k jb main aai us k 2 din bad mere father ne unko call ki. aur mere FIL ne intahai badtameezi se mere father se bat ki.. us k bad 2 week gap rha thn unki call aai aur yeh shrtain (prdy aur khala nhi ayegi) lga di. now 2 week aur hogye hain.. hubby se drmiyan main meri on and off chat hui hy. he said khud gai thi khud ajao msla hal hojyega. I said him k ap lyny ajao. thek hy main khud gai thi mjse ghlti hui bt ap ajao lyny to msla khtm hojayega. ustrf who nhi aty.. 2ndly he said me k main ghr MIL aur FIL ko phone kr k kahn k main apny apko ap k mahool k mutabic dhalongi jesy ap kahainge krngi tb who lyny aainge.. and also he said k parents ki ijazt k bgair who nhi askty...... Plz forum walo insaf se btao chahy kpry mere thy chahy khala k kia meri MIL ko yeh hrkat zaib dyti thi? Kia mere FIL ko mere father k sath us andaz main bat krna bnta tha? kia jo cheez unhne shadi se phly clear ki thi uspe unka issue create kr k be tukki shrtain rkhna bnta hy? Kia khud kpry chura k khud khala k bary main kehna k yeh hmary ghr fsad dalti hy yeh yahan nhi ayegi (sirf isbat pe k unhne unki ghlti pe bola usy point out kia) bnta hy? hmari ek mutual friend ne b mere hubby ko smjhne ki koshish ki. she and also I felt k unpe ghr walon ka pressure hy jiski wja se who lyny nhi aty. kia mere MIL aur FIL jo mjy apni beti kehty thy unko nhi chahye tha k iss 1 mnth main ek bar apni beti ka b haal poch lyty? kia bry hony k naty unka frz nhi tha k mamly ko khtm krty aur mere hubby ko bhej k mjy ghr ly jaty? kia mere hubby ko apny parents ko nhi kehna chahye tha k mamly ko khtm krain aur ja k ly ata hn main... :( :( :(. Ya jo who krhy hain ek churi upr se seena zori who sb thek hy??? aur us k bad b yeh na kahn main k I want my husband to be totally mine?????? tell me???? :( :( :(
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I think this is enouf 4 critisim purpose. I guess all in the forum are MIL. There is no DIL facing such issues. Ab zra tasali se sb hazrat meri bat sun lain. shyd kisi ko smj ajye... hmari shadi ko 3 mnths huwy hain. aur shadi se phly meri khala ne mjy apny 4 srdiyon k suit diay thy 4 my honey moon. Qk tb srdi k kpry market main nhi thy. aur un k pas unstich suit prhy thy last years k. so she gave me. maine unhain apny hisab se stich kra lia. coz my khala is as slim as im and can share clothes. Shadi k bad ek din meri khala mere ghr aai and I said her k apny kpry ly jain. bt tb tk mere hubby ne mjy sardiyon ki koi shopping nhi krwai thi. my khala said abi tm rkho I wil take them afterwards. Unfortunatly yeh sb meri MIL k samny ki bat hy. usi rat mere husbnd ne mjse bar bar israr kia k yeh kpry tmhary hain tm inko jan bojh k khala ka bta rhi ho. I said nhi mere nhi hain maine hony moon k liay liye thy unse. Anyways jb main apni ami ki trf aai to meri MIL ne mere suit nikal k meri nand yani apni beti ko dy diay. jb main wapis gai to meri nand un mainse ek suit pehny huwy thi.. Jo k obviously mjy acha ni lgna tha.. maine MIL se 2 3 bar kaha she said k tmne kia suit suit lgai hui hy. hmain pta hy who kis k hain.. maine who choty kr k nand ko dy diay hain.. and I was really shocked... maine unse kaha k anti who mere nhi thy main apko kesy yaqeen dilaun. she said khala k thy ya ni mjy pta hy. main khud bat krlngi.. By chance after some days khala visited my home. aur qk saas ne kpry liay huwy thy unhne puri try ki k hmain akela na chora jaye. kbi saas kbi nand bari bari hmary pas byth jati.. khair maine khala ko btaya jo k unko b bura lga. she talked to my MIL k apko aisa nhi krna chahye kisi ki chee bgair ijazt to islam main b lyna thek nhi. jiska saas ne bht bura manaya k yeh kon hy hmary ghr k mamly main dakhl dyny wali. Sham ko jb hubby wapis aye to maine unhain sari bat btai. even he was nt believing k who kpry mere thy ya khala k. Anyways iss bat pe jhgra hua and he said shukr kro k maine abi yeh nhi kaha k khala yahan na aya kry. qk jo shkhs hmary ghr main fasad create kry uski koi jgah ni.. isbat pe hmara jhgra hua and he hitted me. Jis se kafi larai hui. And he ran away 2 his mother and unko larai ki kahani bta k aye. Thn his mom came and hmain smjhya k khala ki wja se q larai rhy ho.. usne mjy jo jo kaha maine wesy wesy jwab dy dia bat khtm yeh who. Meanwhile mere husbnd ne kaha I subh apna borya bistro pack kro aur mjy yahan tmhari skle nzr nhi aani chahye.. anyways rat jesy jesy kr k guzri. and subh un k office jany k bad I called my father told him the situation and requested him k mjy convaince bhej dain. unhne mjy rickshw bhej dia. maine ek do zruri cheezian li aur main agai. aany se phly mjy meri MIL ne roka k ghron main jhgry hoty rehty hain aisy ni jaty etc etc.. pr main agai. (Which I admit was my biggest mistake). Tbse ab tk issue create hua pra hy. ek to unhne khud mere kpry churaye upr se ab khud shrtain lga k bythy hain k khala is ghr main nhi ayegi.. ek yeh bat and 2ndly yeh k yeh Prda krygi... Prdy wali bat k liay btana zruri smjhngi k unki family typical gaon ki hy and mine shehri.. aur unki family main abaya plus niqab kia jata hy. shadi se phly mere parents ne unse yeh bat clear ki thi k shadi k bad isko b to ni krna pryga. to tb they said k nhi wesy to hmary khadan main hy lakin ispe koi bandish nhi hogi... lakin ab qk shadi hogai hy aur tb unhne sirf lrki phnsany k liay yeh kaha tha k ni prda yeh na b kry to koi msla nhi hy.. isliay shadi hoty hi yeh msla bn gya hy... ab last over a mnth main apny parents ki trf hn. aur mere MIL aur FIL ne ek bar b mjse haal nhi pocha... wesy they says k hmari beti hy.. hubby ka kehna hy k khud gai thi khud ajao. and 2 3 batain aur yeh k jb main aai us k 2 din bad mere father ne unko call ki. aur mere FIL ne intahai badtameezi se mere father se bat ki.. us k bad 2 week gap rha thn unki call aai aur yeh shrtain (prdy aur khala nhi ayegi) lga di. now 2 week aur hogye hain.. hubby se drmiyan main meri on and off chat hui hy. he said khud gai thi khud ajao msla hal hojyega. I said him k ap lyny ajao. thek hy main khud gai thi mjse ghlti hui bt ap ajao lyny to msla khtm hojayega. ustrf who nhi aty.. 2ndly he said me k main ghr MIL aur FIL ko phone kr k kahn k main apny apko ap k mahool k mutabic dhalongi jesy ap kahainge krngi tb who lyny aainge.. and also he said k parents ki ijazt k bgair who nhi askty...... Plz forum walo insaf se btao chahy kpry mere thy chahy khala k kia meri MIL ko yeh hrkat zaib dyti thi? Kia mere FIL ko mere father k sath us andaz main bat krna bnta tha? kia jo cheez unhne shadi se phly clear ki thi uspe unka issue create kr k be tukki shrtain rkhna bnta hy? Kia khud kpry chura k khud khala k bary main kehna k yeh hmary ghr fsad dalti hy yeh yahan nhi ayegi (sirf isbat pe k unhne unki ghlti pe bola usy point out kia) bnta hy? hmari ek mutual friend ne b mere hubby ko smjhne ki koshish ki. she and also I felt k unpe ghr walon ka pressure hy jiski wja se who lyny nhi aty. kia mere MIL aur FIL jo mjy apni beti kehty thy unko nhi chahye tha k iss 1 mnth main ek bar apni beti ka b haal poch lyty? kia bry hony k naty unka frz nhi tha k mamly ko khtm krty aur mere hubby ko bhej k mjy ghr ly jaty? kia mere hubby ko apny parents ko nhi kehna chahye tha k mamly ko khtm krain aur ja k ly ata hn main... :( :( :(. Ya jo who krhy hain ek churi upr se seena zori who sb thek hy??? aur us k bad b yeh na kahn main k I want my husband to be totally mine?????? tell me???? :( :( :(
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sweetie. you are destroying your marriage. I don't understand why you barrowed clothes from your khala. Your khala shouldn't have let you barrow clothes, she should have gifted them. You Khala should stay out of your family matters. She has no rights lecturing your MIL like a child. Thats very offensive. You shouldn't have left your house.
Instead of trying to contol your husband, why don't you work on excepting your inlaws as family first. If you MIL gave an outfit of yours to your SIL...thats not stealing. Sisters share, right? They haven't called to check up on you, but did you call to check up on, don't you considered them parents? I am shocked that your parents are allowing this behavior. Please stop acting like a child. If the whole family does coverup, why would you think they wouldn't ask you to do it later on.
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But Rabia, if she borrowed something from her Khala, how is that anyone else's business? She has the freedom to live her life, if she needed something she went to her own family right? And MIL taking something out her drawers without asking is okay and it becomes ops fault? Leaving no, but her husband hit her for something his mother started and its still her fault?? Wow, no kind of a abuse is tolerable and MIL is the one behaving like a child. Isnt it her husbands duty to create a balance if he is keeping his wife in the same home. All over her borrowing her aunts clothes.. That's so petty and op I feel really bad for your situation. The worst part in all of this for me is her husband hitting her. Had anyone's father heard their daughter being slapped around for such a petty issue, would also not tolerate it. My father would not tolerate it if I went to him and nor would my husband tolerate it for our daughter. just wow when I read statements here sometimes. I really don't see ops fault in this except for leaving.
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How can you barrow fabric, make it into your own outfit and still give that consider it barrowed. Sorry i don't see the logic behind that type of barrowing, the fabric was given to her before the shadi, she brought it over as her bari and now she is trying to return it. The husband slapping her was out of line, but he prob. slapped her not because of "barrowing" but because op probably disrespected his mother...by saying stuff like "she stole my outfit," etc....NO SON would be able to handle that. A father should have evaluated the situation instead of jumping in, but of course rescue his daughter first. Then think over the situation with a clear mind and put some sense into his daughters head.
Sorry OP i think you put yourself in this situation...and your making it wrose by staying longer at your inlaws house. Call you MIL and DIL and apololize, call your husband and ask him you pick yo
u up or take a rikshaw to go back home.
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^ oh come on, who cares if it's not the right way to borrow it? the behavior she's described is crazy!
OP, unfortunately you're describing behavior that is both petty and dishonest. You can try to talk it out, you can try to reason through it. But at some point you have to accept the fact that some people never accept responsibility for their own wrongdoings, are not interested in actually resolving issues or mending relationships; rather they are interested in getting their own way and behaving like victims in the process. If that's what you're dealing with, don't invest so much energy in getting upset and causing other issues. Work on mending and building relationships that are respectful and worthwhile. Let the others just be. Just avoid making yourself vulnerable to people who show little care or concern for you.