AOA Friends, Need ur help plz. My hubby is totally dependent on his family. And he cares and listen them a lot. According to him what his family said is always right. He is specially attached with his mom. Aur unki mom un k kan bry achy se bhr dyti hain.. istrah k usy kan bhrna b na kaha jaye lakin bety ki himayat b hasil hojaye. Before shadi who bht achi lgti thin bt jesy jesy time guzr rha hy im feeling k msla bhr rha hy. Aur husbnd apne ghr walon k khilaf specially mom k khilaf kch b krny ko tyar nhi hoty. And totally un pe depend krty hain like a pamper guy. I want him to be totally mine. I dnt want to go 4 any taweez and kala jadu type cheez 4 this. I knw abt Ya WADOODU and YA WAHABU are the Islamic words for affection betweeb husband and wife. I request k agr kisi ko husbnd ko 100% apni trf krny ka koi amal ata hy (within Islamic bounds) to plzzzzzzzz share… :(… Thanks in Advance
He is totally yours as long as being hubby is concerned. He is totally his mother's, as a son. If you are trying to take over the son part too, then there is a problem, is not it?
Why would he not trust his mother more than you? She has been his mother for longer than you are his wife. Trust needs to be earned. You can't demand it. Give yourself couple of years. Yo will get there with the right effort.
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You're implying that your husband's mom wants him to be 100% dependent on her and you want your husband to be 100% in your control. In that case, tum dono auraton ki soch main koi faraq nahi.
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aap jadu taweez karle … In sha Allah afaqa hoga …
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your husband is dependent on his mother/family financially or otherwise ? .........
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Mehboob (i mean shohar) aapke qadmon men.. Bolta jadoo Gogia Pasha .. (sorry i forgot to note his number from wall-chalking)
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He is totally yours as long as being hubby is concerned. He is totally his mother's, as a son. If you are trying to take over the son part too, then there is a problem, is not it?
Why would he not trust his mother more than you? She has been his mother for longer than you are his wife. Trust needs to be earned. You can't demand it. Give yourself couple of years. Yo will get there with the right effort.
escuze me, howw how dare you? Zannay Mureed is the best mureed.
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Hmmm...simple answer: aisa nahin ho sakta
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He is not dependent financially. Even unki pay se pura ghr chlta hy. And no doubt he should trust his mother. But mother should nt tell each and everything 2 his son 4 creating fights and misunderstandings between us. Giving u a simple example. (One day I locked my room 4 sleeping when my husband left 4 office. And when he returned he said room na lock kia krowesy drwaza bnd krlia kro koi pochy bgair nai ayega. And obviously yeh bat unhain unki mom ne btai qk who to ghr thy ni). So istrah choti choti batain who un k kan main bhrti hain jo hmari married lyf ko effect krti hain... ;(
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Qk its natural u all will accept k jb b 2 logon k drmiyan koi b 3rd person ho chahy parents chahy friends ya chahy koi b aur to misunderstandings bhr jati hain.. q u never knw k ap k kis act aur kis bat ko kia rang dia gya.... :(
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What you need to understand is that you are an outsider who needs to fit into an already working family. You can't demand things to change just because you want it, or you think it needs too.
the example you provided shouldn't effect your married life at all, unless you make it a problem. If you aren't comfortable leaving the door unlock, thn tell you husband i am not use to it but inshAllah will work on. But if you assume that your MIL is trying to put things in btw you two...your married life will be effected.
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Its not an assumption.. I wish I could explain... :(. Well Thanks 4 ur replies friends.. :). Do pray 4 me. That is the best thing u can do 4 me.. :). Thanks
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ChilLa kaat lain ge aap?
It worked for my wife
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One day I locked my room 4 sleeping when my husband left 4 office. And when he returned he said room na lock kia krowesy drwaza bnd krlia kro koi pochy bgair nai ayega. And obviously yeh bat unhain unki mom ne btai qk who to ghr thy ni). So istrah choti choti batain who un k kan main bhrti hain jo hmari married lyf ko effect krti hain... ;(
i don't see what the praablem here is.
y u lok dr n slp? y u no brtn mnjing n cukking?
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Amal kay leay ullu ki ankh chaheay ho gi.
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Just chill and let these little things slide.They dont seem worth getting all huffed and puffed about it. You need to realise that your husband is most likely trying to keep the peace. Maybe ur MIL is a controlling type who wants everything her way and your husband knows this, so is trying to avoid any arguements by requesting that you do these things.
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:( qk yeh shadi k 1month ki bat hy. thts y I was not brtn manjing and cooking dear. And I don't knw k sb Mazak q uraty hain.. :(. Im surprised k itny bry forum pe waqai koi aisa nhi hy jisne aisi problems face ki hn aur mjy solution bta sky jo main pochna chah rhi hn.... :( :( :(
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AOA Friends, Need ur help plz. My hubby is totally dependent on his family. And he cares and listen them a lot. According to him what his family said is always right. He is specially attached with his mom. Aur unki mom un k kan bry achy se bhr dyti hain.. istrah k usy kan bhrna b na kaha jaye lakin bety ki himayat b hasil hojaye. Before shadi who bht achi lgti thin bt jesy jesy time guzr rha hy im feeling k msla bhr rha hy. Aur husbnd apne ghr walon k khilaf specially mom k khilaf kch b krny ko tyar nhi hoty. And totally un pe depend krty hain like a pamper guy. I want him to be totally mine. I dnt want to go 4 any taweez and kala jadu type cheez 4 this. I knw abt Ya WADOODU and YA WAHABU are the Islamic words for affection betweeb husband and wife. I request k agr kisi ko husbnd ko 100% apni trf krny ka koi amal ata hy (within Islamic bounds) to plzzzzzzzz share..... :(... Thanks in Advance
lols, you want your husband to be TOTALLY yours and 100% on your side. and you are asking us to tell you something within Islamic boundaries to achieve your wish?? you will not get any amal for this within Islamic boundaries as Islam doesn't teach us all this and discourages such wishes.
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:( qk yeh shadi k 1month ki bat hy. thts y I was not brtn manjing and cooking dear. And I don't knw k sb Mazak q uraty hain.. :(. Im surprised k itny bry forum pe waqai koi aisa nhi hy jisne aisi problems face ki hn aur mjy solution bta sky jo main pochna chah rhi hn.... :( :( :(
Shadi ke 1 month baad bhi you were not involved in household chores and were sleeping in morning time (which is supposed to be the mainstream time to get done with housework in most families) and yet your MIL only complained to his son about you sleeping with room locked!
your MIL doesn't seem to be witty enough to "Bharofying the Kaans" of his son that BahuRani sleeps all day and doesn't do any work and poor me have to take care of all the stuff. :D
Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
Guys what she is saying even Parents need to understand his son is married and the couple needs privacy. They have no right to interfere about little things in their life. At this time, their relationship needs strength and love not further fights and misunderstandings..
I understand what OP is trying to say. Keep him busy in things that he likes and develop a passion in those things and then in this way you will both enjoy talking about topics you both like n share.