Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
What makes you think your mil brainwashes him? Does he care for you? If yes, I don't really understand why you would want him to be totally dependent on you. That's so sissy in my opinion.
Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
AOA Friends, Need ur help plz. My hubby is totally dependent on his family. And he cares and listen them a lot. According to him what his family said is always right. He is specially attached with his mom. Aur unki mom un k kan bry achy se bhr dyti hain.. istrah k usy kan bhrna b na kaha jaye lakin bety ki himayat b hasil hojaye. Before shadi who bht achi lgti thin bt jesy jesy time guzr rha hy im feeling k msla bhr rha hy. Aur husbnd apne ghr walon k khilaf specially mom k khilaf kch b krny ko tyar nhi hoty. And totally un pe depend krty hain like a pamper guy. I want him to be totally mine. I dnt want to go 4 any taweez and kala jadu type cheez 4 this. I knw abt Ya WADOODU and YA WAHABU are the Islamic words for affection betweeb husband and wife. I request k agr kisi ko husbnd ko 100% apni trf krny ka koi amal ata hy (within Islamic bounds) to plzzzzzzzz share..... :(... Thanks in Advance
You need help! Psychiatric. ASAP!
Good-luck.
Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
You need help! Psychiatric. ASAP!
Good-luck.
Best advice. Shrink work needed
Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
Next time he tells you room lock kar ke mat sona tell him Ji acha nahi karoon gi. Don't forget to bring obedience walay expressions on your face while saying this, really important. Albata next time jab bhi sona ho kamra lock kar ke hee sona. Jab dulha bhai inquiry karain tou pooray confidence se Jhoot bolna ke nahi ji kamra lock tou nahi tha, bus darwaza hee band tha. Main ne bilkul wese hee kiya jese aap ne bola tha. After saying this try to look as sad and obedient as you possibly can, jese dramay main mazloom biwi shakal banati hai na bilkul wesi shakal banani hai.
Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
Say no more child. You need Peer Saeen Amil Ghair Siyasi Bawa ™.
Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
He is not dependent financially. Even unki pay se pura ghr chlta hy. And no doubt he should trust his mother. But mother should nt tell each and everything 2 his son 4 creating fights and misunderstandings between us. Giving u a simple example. (One day I locked my room 4 sleeping when my husband left 4 office. And when he returned he said room na lock kia krowesy drwaza bnd krlia kro koi pochy bgair nai ayega. And obviously yeh bat unhain unki mom ne btai qk who to ghr thy ni). So istrah choti choti batain who un k kan main bhrti hain jo hmari married lyf ko effect krti hain... ;(
How come you know she is bharing his kaan about door being locked ? ....... may be your husband came & found the door locked hence he just told you not to lock the door? ...... why you are assuming that your MIL is kaan bharing ?.....
If there is no issue then you ladies have to create one .... God knows why ???
Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
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one can only hope that this lunacy is the product of excessive reliance on primetime television for life lessons. the alternative is too depressing to contemplate.
his trust, Lady. gain it. use it. well. no shortcuts to that one, sorry.
Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
If I were princessofparadise I’d want my door to remain locked at all times as well, lest my inlaws dark skin and small eyes somehow penetrate my womb and my child not turn out golla golla gora gora 
Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
I am sorry but this is HILARIOUS 
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Lol at what khatti said. Randomly reminds me of what I went through when I was pregnant. My mil would constantly tell me not to look at our servant (who is tawwa kala) and yes she is educated :p.
Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
i cousin's mom told her not to have any animals around (not even toy animals,) because thn the child will be a animal lover. Never understood whats wrong with being an animal lover. oh but she was not very educated.
Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
Learn to be independent. It's not healthy to completely want to depend on ur husband. You said he takes care of you, and I'm sure seeing as you want him to be 100% yours you take care of him well. These things are good but you need to develop other interests also. Get a job, start a course, engage yourself in a project like I don't know, making a duvet cover? It sounds like you have too much focus on ur husband wwhich is not healthy. By having other interests/projects in your life your time won't be spent thinking about what MIL is doing or how husband is reacting to things
Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
And the Unkind mankind Understand that the SUPREME ALMIGHTY ALLAH in Wisdom created a COUPLE --HUSBAND AND WIFE ----------------------------------
How difficult could have been for ALMIGHTY ALLAH to Create Mother --Son --dad and a Daughter ----and create all Family in One shot ------------
Now in Great Supreme wisdom --created a couple in LOVE HARMONY AND CARE ---and I wish the vicious cycle of Hate ends some where --If a person just understand causing Discord --Misunderstanding ---Unbalance --misconceptions---fear ----between Husband and wife is grievous Sin ---be his mother brother father sister ------------None ----------------
A harmonious marriage is a blessing and anyone causing or in other simple words causing imbalance to a destabilized a union of man and woman --cause lingering ripple effects --having said that ---
ALLAH have Created boundaries in every relation --Mother Son--father Son Father daughter --- etc uncle nephew --friends------ neighbors --ALLAH iS ALL WISDOM AND MERCY ALLAH WANTS HARMONY AND LOVE --that leads to inner peace along with external peace around ---------everyone especially a MAN must control and protect the boundaries it is not an insult that if he speaks to his mother and explain that how it effects his relations and is causing unwanted undesired effects on his relation--
Give Mother Rights to Mother Give wife rights to wife simple a Man must be JUST ---and honorable and to have courage to speak the truth and wisdom to understand who and what is violating the Rights and boundaries of others-----
I have seen many marriages destroyed --dysfunctional---and chaotic marriages bcz of MIL --and DIL --baba thsi one is not heart wala DIL -but awwwwww she is na ---but I learn over here MIL=Mother in law and DIL --oye again not heart wala DIL=Daughter in law--man it took MOI 2 days to figure it our MIL and DIL- --sorry for late lecture ---
RESPECT OTHERS AS U WANT TO BE RESPECTED BE AN ELDER OR YOUNGER ------------Rights are rights of every person and must be protect and honored -------------------and assumptions leads to confusion to doubts --be wise and try to avoid all that -
pls sit with him ---Now i hope i dont have to tell U a GOOOOOOD time --that is up to U main ttu point out keeaye baba --at that time Men are very understanding and compassionate --------------and speak softly and to the point --If IMOI wink karangaye on timing shiming ttu misunderstanding hojainagye ----app try maro -----------------ALL THE BEST TRY UR BEST -----------and Leave the REST to the ALL UNIQUE BEST------ HIGH ABOVE----------------------------
May the wisdom Guide him----------------------
Oye where is Preview button ?????? No preview chance before click submit ??? AYE LO JI hogaye today lecture
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If you really love and care abt ur husband...and ur relationship in general...u will seek the help of Allah. Pray namaz.. be nice to him...and whatever his mother says...don't over think it..and let it affect ur relationship with him. If you are living in his parents house...follow their rules. Don't take small things so seriously...
Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
I don't know where you girls come from...when I was visiting my in-laws, I would be up and running with my husband, never slept late during the day. When I am at my parents home or they are visiting me, I am up and running when they are up.
Some of you girls really need to work on fixing some of your sleep habits especially if you are going to share a home with other relatives.
Secondly, it is selfish of you wanting distance your husband from his family. He is not mistreating you nor ignoring your needs. Learn to respect him by showing respect for his family.
Finally, engage yourself in productive activities, this will hopefully keep your mind occupied in productive/positive thoughts.
Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
A human being is not a possession. He should not be a 100% yours ever. That is not a husband's role.
He should be your partner in life, but he should have his own mind/feelings.
Also, please remember that love is not some finite quantity that needs to be divided amongst several people. His love for another does not lessen his love for you. You do not need to destroy his relationships with others in order to have a better one with him. In fact, I'd say learning to love and feel compassion toward one person helps to increase our feelings for others.
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I don’t know why the mama boyz marry, their moms can provide them with all the company they need, most of them don’t accept the dil as daughters and start competing for attention and treat them like slaves, older people need to have social skills and hobbies and stop the manipulative attention seeking behavior and abuse towards dil, she is the one that will procreate the future generations.
Re: Want my hubby to be mine-Help plz
Its matter of time.... Mamma's boy will one day become your boy...
and the way you sound, looks like one day your son will grow up to be a Mamma's Boy...