wow, this was an interesting and fun thread to read.
here’s my share:
a few years back there was this one rishta someone told my mom about. the guy was religious, was finishing up his masters and was from the same state my family lived in. his mom called my mom- they discussed stuff and felt that the next step should be for us two to talk before anything else. so both moms exchanged our cell numbers and i was told to expect a call from him soon. great. i was used to my mom doing this, so i was open to it.
a few days later i get a call…some auntie is on the other line. turns out it is his MOM and the cell number she exchanged with my mom was HER cell, not her sons! sooo she interviews me over the phone asking allllllll kinds of questions. trying to be polite, i answer and try to wrap up the phone interview. she’s chitty chatty and i guess impressed with my answers so she tells me she will pass on the info to her son and have him call me next time. yippeee…i couldn’t wait! (::sarcasm:
next phone call- "jee beta…this is auntie ____. here, talk to my son _____. "
son comes on the line. he sounds very timid and shy, which is fine. i already figured he is a momma’s boy. we exchange hellos and how are you’s. i guess he must have been very nervous or inexperienced or did a bit too much research because he straight out read off a list of questions he had for me.
him: “can i ask you some questions?”
me: “sure”
him: “ok, number one… number two…number three…blah blah blah. ok i don’t have any more questions right now, but can i call you again when i come up with more on my list? do you have any questions on your list for me?”
i’m thinking WTF? seriously? you don’t even conduct a job interview in this manner, yet try to talk to a potential candidate.
he did call back again with follow up questions :). lol, my mom wouldn’t let me say “NO” based on his and his mom’s interviewing skills so he arranged to fly down and meet me. i was more worried this meant his mom would fly down and bring a video camera to record our meeting and take back home to show her son…lol.
long story short- we met for lunch one weekend. he was nice and shareef, but just too reserved and wierd for me. the conversation was really unnatural. he didn’t know how to talk unless he had some sort of list to follow. my questions resulted in yes or no answers. no laughs, no jokes - just pure interviewing questions. i guess he was really impressed and went home and gave his mom the “thumbs up” to proceed with wedding planning. lol. shortly thereafter i had my mom call his mom and tell her it wasn’t going to work.