yea, alhamdulillah i found out before he made his way out to meet me and my family. he did continue to send me emails for a few months and told me of his upcoming trip to my state and wanted to meet just "as friends".
HELL TO THE FREAKIN' NO!
this was about 3 years ago. just out of curiosity i googled his name again this morning...and his name STILL pops up on an adult site. :(. so scary and sad!!!
I REALLY WANT TO MAKE SURE NO GIRL IS TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF BY THIS CREEP, BUT AM AFRAID TO DISCLOSE HIS NAME :(.
here's the excerpt from google without giving away his name:
(34), looking for partner good looking, educated guy looking to make love prefer college grad girls, Middlesex, New Jersey, US
GenderMaleAge34SexualityStraightEthnicityOtherHeight6ft (183 cm)BuildAverageHairBlackBody HairNaturalBody DecorationDrinkI will tell you laterSmokeNoDrugsNoneCock/Breast sizeLargeLocationMiddlesex, New Jersey, USTownwoodbridgeTravelWill travelSafe Sex **Always*Paid ServicesNoContact infoContact this member*
Anyone ever get a rishta after getting married/nikkahed?
I had gotten my nikkah done to my hubby (who was in Pindi at the time). I remember attending a wedding of cousin and this one aunty was very interested in me for her son. She told my mumani to ask for my hand and was told I am already married. I dunno why I got evil glares from her. I think she had tried to ask for my rishtha before a while ago, but my mom just politely refused then by saying we don't plan to marry her yet...something to that effect.
Previously we were at a masjid event and she made some comment about my mom, dunno how to translate, but like my mom wont let me get married...wont give them a chance...etc....they were not bad people, just her son was too strict religous and it wouldn't have worked. I think she expected that since her hubby was really good friends with my late mamoo, my mom would have given it a chance. Oh well just funny she would persue so much. She had even come to my house once with m ymumani back when I was like a 2nd year college student. I had no idea why she was there....I was just being normal and friendly...etc...and talking up a storm...only to realize later...hehehe
back in my single days (ahh..the good life ;)..i kid!)..i had plans to go out with a friend of mine, and on the day of, my mom informs me that some guy is coming over. This guy works for my dad and is religious dude that wasn't a fob (phew), so my brother and parents thought we would make a good match. Well I didn't want to cancel my plans with my friend, so I went out anyways. The whole time, my mom is calling me constantly and telling me to come home because the guy is here. I'm like "I come home when I'm done watching the movie" (yes, I was ticked). So I get home, and the dude is still there talking to my brothers, dad and my sister's hubby - who "happened" to come over that night (ha! yeah right!). I barely looked at the guy, but I knew he was trying to check me out.
So obviously, that didn't work out. But what my parents didn't know that I had my set my sights on another guy (my friends brother lol - yes the same friend that i went out), and was thinking about telling my parents, but this brother dropped by...grrr.
well long story short, I married the man of my dreams, and found out that the other guy got married as well. So Alhumdulillah for the both of us. lol.
^ why does it embarrass you ? your uncle did the right thing. he really cared for you hence did so much investigation , there is nothing wrong about it. From what you have written I can see that your family did investigate and you made quite many 1st moves for this rishta. things didn't work out and that is just fine. I think if any of his family member would have tried to come to US to meet your family your decision would have been different. But I don't see any efforts on their part. Don't regret. You have the right to say NO to a rishta . Regarding his dad being in jail , I don't think he should have been blamed for his dad being in jail. We all are responsible for our own deeds and no body else's. Plus I remember reading somewhere on GS too that not all the people who have been jailed in Pakistan are culprits or criminals , we all know stories of innocent people ending up in jails. So really would not judge his father , may be he was at fault may be he was not.
anyway I hope you get loads of happiness in your future ameen
thank you so much! My dad said the same thing that we will not judge him based on what his father has done. I think he made me feel like I should be embarrassed. Khair you are right I just hope I am not punished with an busive husband because I let someone I liked slip away.
After reading this thread, I’m kind of put off marriage. wow, so many lies, dhokay, all for what?Also, so many of the stories involve a guy already married form abroad going back to Pakistan to re-marry, like why??
Anyhow, I have two stories.
One is a girl I know. Girl was form Paksitan, got married to a guy in England and came here. Once she was here, she found out husband was an alcoholic, unemployed and mama’s boy. The guy’s family was even worst. They needed a maid, so they got one. Meanwhile, they didn’t get her British Nationality and took her passport off her. She walked out on the guy a couple of times, but everytime they would apologise and take her back. In all of this, back and forth the girl wasted 10 years of her life and not has been to see family even once.
Now she’s waiting for an English divorce but the idiot won’t even divorce her. She got her muslim divorce and is remarried to another guy Alhumdolillah. But she still can’t go to Pakistan or declare her other marriage because of the legal issues.
The other story is quite amusing and a typical Bollywood style.:jano: LOL. It’s about my dad’s mamoo. So this mamu used to live in Lahore and was studying there. In the summer holidays he came home to attend a girl cousin’s wedding. It turns out on the wedding day, the girl cousin’s dad sent away the baraat because they brought fake gold. SO now they have no dulha and everybody was running aorund like headless chickens. ANd suddenly, they pulled dad’s mamu and got him nikkahed to the lady. Mashllah they spent 40/50 years of a happy marriage and sadly she passed away a few months back. May Allah s.w.t bless her soul.
Astaghfirullah and then people wonder why I have nothing against people who drink? Atleast they’re honest and straightforward about things unlike this hajee dude
BBQ don't get me wrong what i'm saying is that this guy described in the extract turned out to be the cpmplete opposite. Whereas, you already know what to expect from the others. From namazi, religious people you usually expect something else...
This guppan was shocked because she was told he's religious (a hajee and a namazi). She was expecting him to be a decent guy which he wasn't. After reading her second post it seems like he was involved in the porn industry.
BBQ don't get me wrong what i'm saying is that this guy described in the extract turned out to be the cpmplete opposite. Whereas, you already know what to expect from the others. From namazi, religious people you usually expect something else...
This guppan was shocked because she was told he's religious (a hajee and a namazi). She was expecting him to be a decent guy which he wasn't. After reading her second post it seems like he was involved in the pron industry.
Now it makes sense. And I agree.
My sister's jaith is one of those bearded muslims and he turned out to be an askhole and I was really disappointed just because I wasn't expecting him to be like that. I blame lack of education and manners!
That said, neither do I have much of respect for muslims who won't eat pork but will drink away!
Also, so many of the stories involve a guy already married form abroad going back to Pakistan to re-marry, like why??
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