so sweet 
I know this girl who lived in Pakistan and a rishta came for her from England......... well the guy and his family went to go see the girl and they liked her and her family and said yes..... after a few hours they got engaged..... and had three days to prepare for the wedding because the guy had to go back....... so they got married after 3 days and spent a couple of weeks together and were totally in love the girl adored her husband............ after 3 to 5 months she went to England and had a good time with her husband and was dead in love with him.... and she talked about him 24/7! well recently i found out that she was having a really hard time because she found out that her husband is an alcoholic and he beats her up..... and his family is pain in the A** they support him and dont care that he beats her up............ well she got pregnant after a few months and while she was pregnant her husband beat the living S*** outta her but she never complained....... her family told her to come back but just because she was sooooooo in love with her husband she didn't care what he did to her......... well she finally took a step and moved out while she was pregnant.... she didn't tell her husband where she lived but he found out and went over her house crying and apologizing..... well you know how girls are........ she forgave him and after a little while she had a baby boy.......... her husband told her to come back but she wasn't ready yet so he started beating her up again and this one night she got a call that her husband was drunk and got in an accident and died......... she had nobody there to hold her and take care of her she was all alone and had to go back to her husbands house........ she was in such a difficult situation her husband died and his mother was torturing her.......... now shes waiting for her son's paper's so she can go back to Pakistan........
poor girl went through soooo much and she's still suffering! shes actually my sister sister in law! and i just pray that everything turns around and she has a better life ahead of her! When ever i talk to her she cries sooooo much that my heart starts to melt!
I just hope that nobody goes through what she went through!
That's so sad, may Allah bless and protect her and the little baby.
Is her hubby ure hubby's bro??
Is it just me or there is a trend here - England is to be avoided at all costs!
u are sooo right!! All these or most stories atleast prove it!!
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ok, my turn.
this summer when i went to pakistan, my aunt wanted me to meet a guy and his family for my rishta. at first she said she will invite those people at her house so i can meet them, but later she changed her plan, because she said her saas would be at home too, and she will try to find out why those people came and my phoppo didn't wanted any gossips. so instead of larka walay coming to our house to see me, i wen to their house to see the guy and his family. and that was the funniest and most interesting time of my life.
u know how the girls are always complaining that they feel awkward blah blah blah, guy feel that way too. we were sitting in the drawing room with his mother and sister (very nice people) and i sorta nottice the guy is trying to take a look at me, while passing by the door. and at one point my uncle was standing at the door to ask my aunt to go home and i saw him behind my uncle on his toes peeking at me (my uncle is really tall and he was a bit short). it got so hard for me to not laugh because i found all that so funny. i wan't not embarace or awkward at all for some reason. and he was acking like a shy girl.
anyways, the rishta never happened, even though they liked me and even i thought they were a nice family but due to his family problem they excused.
ha ha - I love how oblivious mothers are when it comes to their sons… hai mera bacha!!!
Is it just me or there is a trend here - England is to be avoided at all costs!
who's post are you referring to?
lol!!! OK this isnt a rishta story but something similar happened. After school, I moved to another city for work and decided to go to the mosque there in ramazan. So as I went in, there were these 15-20 uncles in their 40s, 50s and some in their 60s. First they gave me a top to bottom stare with glaring eyes. Then they welcomed me and made me sit down in the center, as if they were conducting some sort of gruelling job interview. They started asking me all sorts of questions, about what I do, how much I make, what my parents did, where I lived, how I lived, if i had a gf, if i was a shia or sunni etc! They still do that to any newcomer and I always get a kick out of it!!
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i actually have couple of stories
the first funny one... I was studying in London at that time, was passed many friends and family addresses contact details so I dont feel home sick. but its hard for me to see people that I dont know. one of my friend from Pak and his family was interested in a rishta. they asked me to go to their home in london and see them. after about 6 months i didnt bothered. but i got a call from a lady at my hostel room and she was that aunti and mother of the girls, had a chit chat, and then i promised i would visit them somtime soon.
so on a weekend i went to there place, soon i realised they were getting very less interested in my friend and wanted to know more about myself.. girl was nice, aunti was bit too chaty, i was confused and embarrased over this situation and it went to hype....when aunti actually asked the girl to show her room to me... well actully trying to make converstaion between us. I asked about her and noticed a keyboard in her room. on asking she said she knew how to play and started playing... a bollywood tune kuch kuch hota hey... mind it girl was very soft spoken, educated, and very down to earth. if i had gone to see for myself, i would have gone for her. but that was for my best friend ever, even if i wanted i couldnt have proceed.
wihtout making situation more embarrasing, i cut my visit short and went back to my uni room thinkin about all that ... on enquiry from my friend, i just said they are not interested at the moment and dont want to go through sponsoring etc from back home.
i did get calls from them after that and sometime from the girl. but i didnt want to mislead them.
it wasnt funny but strange!
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second one
i was asked my father to see a rishta myself, went there, meet the parents, had intro discussion, they asked the girl to come and have dinner with us. ... parents embarrassed as she declared loudly she aint coming downstairs, may be because she liked somone else or didnt like the idea of arranged marriages. parents excused and said thanks :) !
Well I will start with one! My father was enganged to a girl before he got married to my mother. She (they) were quite modern for that time. Well my father's family used to live in a farm, where they had no toilets at that time and people used to go outside to the land to relieve themselves. My father was working in the city and living there alone and quite a stunning gentleman at that time. (have seen his pics) I think they did the rishta, coz of his looks and job.
Well anyway, the girl and her family used to come to the farm to visit my father's family on occasions.
His sister (my phuppos) were asked to carry a lota for her as she went to the land. (imagine them going behind her with a lota in the hand for her!!) LOL!
That and the talks bothered my phuppos so much, that they canceled the engangement.
Funny
Wowwwwwww at carrying the lota! That's so funny! Did they did the hole as well?
Years ago in my village there was no toilet so when we would go to visit we would all have to go out into the fields...only prob' was girls were only allowed to go at night time!
Wowwwwwww at carrying the lota! That's so funny! Did they did the hole as well?
Years ago in my village there was no toilet so when we would go to visit we would all have to go out into the fields...only prob' was girls were only allowed to go at night time!
LOL at someone who found it funny also! I still smile over it!
I dont know about the hole on the ground, do they do that.
Wow it must be bad to wait till night time.
When I was a kid we (my sis and I) would also go into the fields, it was fun at time and we would go anytime, and come back after hours of exploring and what not, we had a girl cousin with us .... now its a big no no and there are toilets!!
ps. it was scary at night, have u not heard of snakes and wild dogs!!
My bhabhis distance cousin got married to a guy living abroad. The rishta was done through family friends and the girls family had some family living in the same country as the guy - and they said good for the rishta as well. On the wedding day .. after all the hungama .. when the bride came at the guys home .. the guys nephews came in their room with the phone saying "Mamu .. mami ka phone hai" .. the girl wondered a bit and asked who it was .. the whole truth came out .. guy was married abroad to another girl .. the cousin of my bhabhi didnt wanna stay anymore, so she called her family right away .. at the end she was convinced to stay for Walima since they had invited so many people .. - they are now divorced.
My mums cousin got married a few years back to a lil older guy from Norway. They didnt know the family well or anything. After the wedding, they applied for Visa till Norway, but it got declined. Reason being: The guy had already a wife and kids in Norway. My mums cousin is still married to him and they have a lil daughter as well .. I'm not sure they guy went back to visit her in pakistan after she got to know about his first marriage .. unfortunalty.
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^ omg...thats sad.
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This one is sad, I will only say that it is a distant relative and I won't reveal which character in the story I am actually related to for the sake of privacy.
So there was a man living in the US who was a bit older (30ish) and was receiving pressure from his family to get married. However, he was involved in extra-marital affair with another Pakistani woman. This woman had a love marriage, or marriage by choice, and was married for less than five years. He was tall, darker skinned and handsome. No one was sure why he couldn't find an unmarried woman. She was of the some complexion, attractive in her heyday, but had since then gained a lot of weight due to health related issues. Everyone was under the assumption she was happily married, after all, it was not forced, no one knew why she was cheating on her handsome, successful husband. I believe the affair started out of convenience as they both lived in the same apartment complex and saw each other frequently.
The woman revealed to her husband that she was having an affair and wanted out of the marriage. The husband, prideful as he was, said he would not grant the divorce and apparently, would rather be cuckolded. They stayed together, despite the affair and everyone thought the wedding was restored.
Shortly thereafter, the man who was having the affair decided to marry. Everyone considered it a good rishta. She was from Karachi and he quickly applied for her visa and she emigrated from Pakistan. I remember people saying that she was much better than the married woman; younger, slimmer and with fairer skin (all totally superficial presumptions, but you know how the chatter goes). I'm not sure what her life was like when she got here but I imagine that she was excited and nervous to be moving to a new country with a new husband and a new life.
Meanwhile, in the household of the married woman who was involved in the affair, there were new developments. The husband found out that his wife's boyfriend was now happily married, so he agreed to finally grant her a divorce. His intent was to keep them apart and since the guy had secured himself with a new wife who was seemingly better than his own, the man followed through with the divorce.
That's when the poop hit the fan. As soon as they were divorced the boyfriend dropped his newlywed wife and went on to continue his relationship with his mistress. He had only married the Pakistani girl to fool the other man into granting the divorce. The poor Pakistani girl quickly divorced him, packed up her belongings and left to stay in Canada with relatives.
The two that were formerly involved in an affair were now, surprise, surprise, newly single! They eventually married themselves and I have not heard of any discord. Both have lost touch with their families. The guys own mother is treated improperly in her son's house, and as such she no longer visits him although she lives in the US as well. The woman's sickness has compounded and she is infertile as a result. They have no children and no ties to their family. I am told, though, the woman's mother now lives with them.
I was visiting their state 7 or 8 years ago, in my teens. I was out to dinner with some friends and cousins and ran into them at a restaurant. They knew who I was but I hardly got a hello. I rarely hear anything about them, and it is probably best that way.
second one
i was asked my father to see a rishta myself, went there, meet the parents, had intro discussion, they asked the girl to come and have dinner with us. ... parents embarrassed as she declared loudly she aint coming downstairs, may be because she liked somone else or didnt like the idea of arranged marriages. parents excused and said thanks :) !
that was best of all, am sorrry if i offend u but i find it funny !
i was so glad my ex decided to walk out on me. That guy could not even be anywhere near how good a man my husband is, ALhamdulillah.
Sweet, whatever happens.... happens for ur gud !
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Somehowcollide- thats so terribly selfish of the two of them... what sick people we have in this world :(
I feel so bad for the the husband who divorced the cheating lady and the new bride who discovered her husband wasnt really hers.....
Karma. Its gonna come to those two sinners though one day. It always does.