Re: Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly
OP...
I don't think I'd like being married to someone like you.
He's a great guy...appreciate him please because no one else will put up with this.
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Oh and BTW in pak its common for a lot of men to not have typical 9-5 jobs I've seen it very often. Esp people with land.
Not saying he shouldn't work bit you make it seem like he's some weirdo
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Oh and BTW in pak its common for a lot of men to not have typical 9-5 jobs I've seen it very often. Esp people with land.
Not saying he shouldn't work bit you make it seem like he's some weirdo
Oh so men are weirdos if they do love their wives and care for them and also if they beat them up? Why do you guys marry us then? Why not become monks and put nail polish on your feet all day save us the head ache.
Cries because can't cook food
Re: Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly
Hi...I'm extremely worried about one thing in my life which ladies usually find quite lucky about me. My hubby is unable to take his eye off me and it pisses me off terribly. It's been 8 yrs since I'm married. The things between me and my hubby are fanatically upsetting. I'm not at all a house hold kind of lady. Don't take interest in house chores; can cook to a simple level not at all 'saleeqa mand'. On the contrary, my hubby even cleans the washroom when he takes bath, he cleans the whole kitchen when he makes a cup of tea. Even he makes for me as well he is a very responsible house man and I'm a very successful job do-er lady. My hubby and me has been living home jobless for like about 6 years and we had 2 kids but he never did any serious job he had savings. We just eak out the life i was compromising for all the good habits and caring nature of his. Since 2 yrs i have started job I have been so successful in my job promotions and increments made me have a swelled head though his saving looks (((tincy vincy))) to me now.
Both of my children are studying in The City School. I'm paying their fee . My hubby can't. Still he doesn't do any job but early morning he wakes up in a romantic manner which pisses me off. I have started telling him that you are sick. That puts him off, he tells me off badly, becomes angry and use harsh words but after the quarrel he makes breakfast for me; drops me to work and children to school. I don't understand what is wrong.
If I say I'm living an abnormal life, I tell myself that I'm being thankless to God, but then still I know it's abnormal. When we return home me and children he makes us food. Again he try to be romantic and I use harsh words then again a quarrel but right in evening a cup of tea in bed. At night we go out for ice cream or a drive but still I'm very unhappy. He doesn't let me go to my mums place. I only see her in day time, can't stay if sometimes I do stay he comes early next morning it's quite irritating to me. Sometimes even when I do a fight with him he leaves me at mum's place with a bad mood saying, "If you want divorce you can ask for it". But, next morning he comes again to my mums place pretending nothing happened and I for the sake of my children can't leave him. And trust this BIGGEST thing that he is jobless makes me go CRAZY. Is it because I'm doing job. Am I wrong? What should I do. Is it a normal life? /
your spelling is atrocious. no paragraphs, either! LOL at tincy vincy :P
Sorry dude. My grammar nerd took over.
I think your husband wants to be romantic with you but you don't want to. I think it's your own notion that it's because of you're job. What you've written points to him being lovey-dovey and even forgetting or pretending to forget your arguments and your husband sounds like omg! awesome! too excited to write properly for some reason. this thread is nuts!
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Is this a joke? Or are you just being a retard of a wife?
Damn, feel sorry for your husband. Cant believe he is putting up with your nonsense attitude.
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I'm not just surprised by her. I'm surprised by all the posters who are calling the husband's behavior lazy and suspicious. If a woman was doing the same things, being an attentive stay-at-home wife/mom, she would be lauded for all her efforts. I don't get this. Are our standards so low for women? Why this double standard? Are we that narrow-minded?
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No, it won't. Cuz his family will give him hell for it and that won't bode well for you either. :/
You don't know that!
MIL might want a partner to watch desi dramas with! pfft
Re: Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly
Today While offering all the namazain of the day I cudnt concentrate lyk always...The Views of u ppl were revolving in my mind...May b I m living with an abnormal family n society around me including my hubby's parents..who make me feel so bad abt him .. May be I m the one who is wrong and every one on dis forum is quite rite...May b those who ask me ..why does he come to pick u up daily doesnt he have anythng else to do?..ur hubby is a chipkoo type( real words of a colleague)...are insane...may be my parents ,his parents, his siblings n the entire family of us, is insane , materialistic and superficial as dey alwez keep on telling me dat its only u dat dis marriage is successfull else any 1 wud hv left him( his mums words)
And One thng for sure...when i hv written all his gud attributes and my weaknesses ...means I know wot shud dat b i need to thankful on ..but last word In Pakistani society Out of 100 if u see 1 case different...ppl call it abnormal..and dats my case coz all around me every family has a dad as a guardian not a mom...
2ndly its not dat i dont do any house chores on weekends when i m home ...there is no way I let him do kitchen work...froom cooking to cupboards I take care of every thng ..after all I m a lady born wid dese attributes...
Last but not the least...The wordings I hv heard from my hubbys mouth are the most harsh ones in my entire lif..he calls me most clumsiest, most irresponsible, most swelled head(since like abt few months), and wot not...
N The number of tymes i hv told him dat i luv u are infinite n when he told me ? never ..even i ask him do u love me?...he goes like "kia bachkana baat hay yaar...yeh sab films mein hota larkon ko tu sirf ek cheez chahye ..wyf se nai miley gi tu pakistan main commonly khareedi b ja sakti hay chahy masi se hi q na ho?
I thnk u all are wide awake now..Or ay b I m Really the biggest UNGRATEFUL person on plat EARTH..
Re: Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly
Now youre the romantic one before it was him
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This thread is classical example that women only consider their husbands as money making machines (A.K.A. ATMs). The more you earn the more respect you get in the eyes of your wives. This is one of the reasons, why we have so much rampant corruption in our society. From a gatekeeper to the president, everyone is involved in making money by any legal/illegal means, to become darling in the eyes of their mistresses, relatives, family, children.
For OP
which one would you prefer from these two options
1- An earning husband who comes home to find that due to your non-existing cooking skills and ability to manage the house, you could not cook anything for him and he beats the hell out of you routinely.
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^ There's a flaw in the above option. It's an extreme. There are many earning husbands who don't abuse their wives for this deficiency. It doesn't make sense to associate "earning husband" with physical abuse as an absolute....especially when we all know of working husbands who would not resort to violence.
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We cannot change anyone mentality, however what your famy (you, your husband, and your children) need to do is start respecting each other. From your posts I feel there is an atmosphere of disrespect in your family. You need to find a way to get your family together, create an atmosphere of love and respect for each other.
Re: Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly
Today While offering all the namazain of the day I cudnt concentrate lyk always...The Views of u ppl were revolving in my mind...May b I m living with an abnormal family n society around me including my hubby's parents..who make me feel so bad abt him .. May be I m the one who is wrong and every one on dis forum is quite rite...May b those who ask me ..why does he come to pick u up daily doesnt he have anythng else to do?..ur hubby is a chipkoo type( real words of a colleague)...are insane...may be my parents ,his parents, his siblings n the entire family of us, is insane , materialistic and superficial as dey alwez keep on telling me dat its only u dat dis marriage is successfull else any 1 wud hv left him( his mums words)
And One thng for sure...when i hv written all his gud attributes and my weaknesses ...means I know wot shud dat b i need to thankful on ..but last word In Pakistani society Out of 100 if u see 1 case different...ppl call it abnormal..and dats my case coz all around me every family has a dad as a guardian not a mom...
2ndly its not dat i dont do any house chores on weekends when i m home ...there is no way I let him do kitchen work...froom cooking to cupboards I take care of every thng ..after all I m a lady born wid dese attributes...
Last but not the least...The wordings I hv heard from my hubbys mouth are the most harsh ones in my entire lif..he calls me most clumsiest, most irresponsible, most swelled head(since like abt few months), and wot not...
N The number of tymes i hv told him dat i luv u are infinite n when he told me ? never ..even i ask him do u love me?...he goes like "kia bachkana baat hay yaar...yeh sab films mein hota larkon ko tu sirf ek cheez chahye ..wyf se nai miley gi tu pakistan main commonly khareedi b ja sakti hay chahy masi se hi q na ho?
I thnk u all are wide awake now..Or ay b I m Really the biggest UNGRATEFUL person on plat EARTH..
Re: Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly
He won't resort to some maasi armed with a jharoo and pocha....cuz she'd be stealing his thunder.
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I don't think it is fair for some people to make fun of writing or English of the OP. At least she can write and communicate in two languages which is better than most of that can just write in English, therefore it does not mean that we are any better than she is or should look down on her.
I think she married the wrong person or for the wrong reasons and now has to make the best of the situation.
Re: Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly
I think she married the wrong person or for the wrong reasons and now has to make the best of the situation.
I agree
Re: Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly
May b I m living with an abnormal family n society around me including my hubby's parents..who make me feel so bad abt him .. May be I m the one who is wrong and every one on dis forum is quite rite...May b those who ask me ..why does he come to pick u up daily doesnt he have anythng else to do?..ur hubby is a chipkoo type( real words of a colleague)...are insane....
Why are you letting everyone make you feel bad. When someone here said something about your hubby, you were annoyed and asked them to mind their language. Why are you not stopping the rest of the people who live around you to stop giving you their opinions.
Also whats so bad about someone saying he is a chipkoo type ?? If someone said that to me , I would be like "so !!!"
And I just find this comment "why your husband picks you up every evening and does he not have anything else to do" very odd and rude. First of its none of their business and secondly people do that, whats so weird about it.
It does not require any more effort to type “this” rather than “dis”… “Like” instead of “lyk”…“with” over “wid”
It’s not about looking down on someone…it’s about being taken seriously and not murdering the English language with ignorant sounding short hand 
And yes, I agree that the OP has most definitely married the wrong person for the wrong reasons
Re: Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly
I don't think it is fair for some people to make fun of writing or English of the OP. At least she can write and communicate in two languages which is better than most of that can just write in English, therefore it does not mean that we are any better than she is or should look down on her.
I think she married the wrong person or for the wrong reasons and now has to make the best of the situation.
There's a difference between spelling words incorrectly or grammar mistakes.
If you can type "thnk", is "think" so difficult? If you can write "or ay b" why not write "or maybe"? Spelling and grammar mistakes are easier to deal with than text typing.
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Lol
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Also, he smothers you with affection but doesn't reciprocate your attention? It sounds like you need to reflect on what is actually bothering you before you decide on how to fix it.