Re: Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly
...never ..even i ask him do u love me?...he goes like "kia bachkana baat hay yaar...yeh sab films mein hota larkon ko tu sirf ek cheez chahye ..wyf se nai miley gi tu pakistan main commonly khareedi b ja sakti hay chahy masi se hi q na ho?
wow! he said that?????
send him my way! i'll sort him out!!!:ASA:
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There's a difference between spelling words incorrectly or grammar mistakes.
If you can type "thnk", is "think" so difficult? If you can write "or ay b" why not write "or maybe"? Spelling and grammar mistakes are easier to deal with than text typing.
Perhaps she is typing into a phone instead of using a computer. Perhaps she is more used to sending sms as opposed to writing in English. I agree that her writing can be improved and made easier on the eyes, but I would not put someone down just because I am too lazy to make sense of it.
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I want to marry your husband
( just need to forget I have one of my own)
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Perhaps she is typing into a phone instead of using a computer. Perhaps she is more used to sending sms as opposed to writing in English. I agree that her writing can be improved and made easier on the eyes, but I would not put someone down just because I am too lazy to make sense of it.
I totally agree. It's not fair to lambaste someone on the basis of spelling and grammatical mistakes. Yes, her punctuation is far from perfect, and she is not as articulate as many of GS members, but the standard is still much higher than most college graduates in Pakistan (In fact many MBAs, doctors, engineers and lawyers can't write a complete sentence in English without making a couple of mistakes. The answer is no, if one wants to ask whether I am exaggerating).
She came here to ask for suggestions about a real problem in her life. A problem that, I dare say, most of the commentators couldn't comprehend properly because of class and cultural differences. It is a very big issue in large parts of middle and lower middle class of Pakistan if husband is not the primary bread winner for the family, and the society has just recently started to accept career women, still with some suspicion and grudge. To say that it is up to the couple to decide roles, as it is no one else's business, is easier said than done. Here it is everyone's business. People ridicule, taunt and comment mercilessly, equally behind and in front of you, and you just can't shut them up.
And when she says her husband tries to be romantic all the time, she actually means something else but doesn't have the right words to elaborate. In fact I don't have the right words either. But reading her last post gives an idea what she actually meant by romance.
What she is going through is actually a very sad and sympathetic situation, to say the least. If we can't comfy her or give some appropriate suggestion, we at least should avoid hurting and confusing her any further.
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If you shadi him…he will rush to leave the house and get a job. Problem solved. :k:
Wait a minute, op's first post says that he is always romantic in the morning. Her last post says that he never said I love you even if she asks.
Her hubby is my kind of guy :(
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Her hubby is my kind of guy :(
^At least somebody^^ loves him...if OP doesn't.
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I totally agree. It's not fair to lambaste someone on the basis of spelling and grammatical mistakes. Yes, her punctuation is far from perfect, and she is not as articulate as many of GS members, but the standard is still much higher than most college graduates in Pakistan (In fact many MBAs, doctors, engineers and lawyers can't write a complete sentence in English without making a couple of mistakes. The answer is no, if one wants to ask whether I am exaggerating).
She came here to ask for suggestions about a real problem in her life. A problem that, I dare say, most of the commentators couldn't comprehend properly because of class and cultural differences. It is a very big issue in large parts of middle and lower middle class of Pakistan if husband is not the primary bread winner for the family, and the society has just recently started to accept career women, still with some suspicion and grudge. To say that it is up to the couple to decide roles, as it is no one else's business, is easier said than done. Here it is everyone's business. People ridicule, taunt and comment mercilessly, equally behind and in front of you, and you just can't shut them up.
And when she says her husband tries to be romantic all the time, she actually means something else but doesn't have the right words to elaborate. In fact I don't have the right words either. But reading her last post gives an idea what she actually meant by romance.
What she is going through is actually a very sad and sympathetic situation, to say the least. If we can't comfy her or give some appropriate suggestion, we at least should avoid hurting and confusing her any further.
I totally agree with you that the poster is very disturbed and in anguish due to her situation and if people cannot empathise with her situation and offer her the help and the support that she needs then at least they should avoid making the situation worse for her and hurt her feelings by making insensitive, thoughtless remarks and putting her down.
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Oh and BTW in pak its common for a lot of men to not have typical 9-5 jobs I've seen it very often. Esp people with land.
Not saying he shouldn't work bit you make it seem like he's some weirdo
No, it is not at all common in Pak for lot of men not having typical full time job/work.
infact, men working in corporate sector are working from 9-7 & 9-8 usually( so it is not 9-5). And those running their own businesses also work for 10-12 hours a day( opening time and closing time of each business varies according to the nature of the business). with the rising inflation in Pak, most people have started to work part time as well along with their full time jobs so when OP says that people raise questions about her husband sitting at home all the time and she feeling frustrated about this then that is understandable because this sight is not really common in Pakistan.
the statement people with land not havingtypical jobs holds true for rural areas where the dynamics and norms arecompletely different than what we have in urban areas and big cities.
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^ There's a flaw in the above option. It's an extreme. There are many earning husbands who don't abuse their wives for this deficiency. It doesn't make sense to associate "earning husband" with physical abuse as an absolute....especially when we all know of working husbands who would not resort to violence.
I wrote "An earning Husband" and certainly did not refer to **All **earning husbands
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I totally agree. It's not fair to lambaste someone on the basis of spelling and grammatical mistakes. Yes, her punctuation is far from perfect, and she is not as articulate as many of GS members, but the standard is still much higher than most college graduates in Pakistan (In fact many MBAs, doctors, engineers and lawyers** can't write a complete sentence in English without making a couple of mistakes**. The answer is no, if one wants to ask whether I am exaggerating).
She came here to ask for suggestions about a real problem in her life. A problem that, I dare say, most of the commentators couldn't comprehend properly because of class and cultural differences. It is a very big issue in large parts of middle and lower middle class of Pakistan if husband is not the primary bread winner for the family, and the society has just recently started to accept career women, still with some suspicion and grudge. To say that it is up to the couple to decide roles, as it is no one else's business, is easier said than done. Here it is everyone's business. People ridicule, taunt and comment mercilessly, equally behind and in front of you, and you just can't shut them up.
And when she says her husband tries to be romantic all the time, she actually means something else but doesn't have the right words to elaborate. In fact I don't have the right words either. But reading her last post gives an idea what she actually meant by romance.
What she is going through is actually a very sad and sympathetic situation, to say the least. If we can't comfy her or give some appropriate suggestion, we at least should avoid hurting and confusing her any further.
yeah i don't think anyone is talking about making a "couple of mistakes" in fact, all her sentences are probably filled with grammatical errors. i don't think it's unfair for any of us to ask the OP to make it easier for us to read by adding in a few more punctuations and fully spelling some words. she is on a forum to ask for some help, she should try a little harder to help us understand atleast what she is typing, unless the OP is a 15 year old.
second, i was following the thread but didn't get a chance to write a proper reply and bar a few people.. most of them have given her advice on her real problem in her life. the spelling errors were a side note, whilst they focussed on the real issue at hand. nobody is undermining her issue but the fact of the matter is, that OP seems to have a HUGE chip on her shoulder and she needs to see things from a different perspective, which is why she is on this forum. if she wanted a yes-man type answer she would stick to her cultural friends and leave his sorry arse for being the "chipkoo" type because she woudn't want to hear the society's ridiculing taunts. he is a bit of an arse for not getting a job and manning up, but for her to be horrid about the fact he stays at home and cooks and cleans and is an overall nice husband most of the time isn't fair either. yeah i think most of us got the idea that she's referring to her husband wanting sex all the time, he is a jerk for saying he could get it anywhere.
if she is so hell bent on what people think of her and her family dynamics then maybe she should give a little more respect to her husband and sweeten him up before she discusses this with him in a polite manner. her attitude within the marriage hasn't been right from the get go, nor his. i agree, it is a sad and sympathetic situation.. no more than a woman who doesn't get along with her mother, a woman whose mil elbows her whilst pregnant or any other real issue we come across in life1. we don't all have to be huggy and smiley when giving serious advice for us to be sympathetic toward a person.
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edit: just read sweet.if's post.
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^ I read same
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amiright amiright
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Well I don't think you can be the 'woman' in a relationship in terms of roles and then demand sex whenever you get the horns because you're a man and you have needs. I wouldn't be surprised if the set up is a huge turn off for the OP as well.
If she's working and earning the money and he is in the care role.. then that's more than just doing some housework. He needs to be caring, supportive, empathetic etc.
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I will never forget the words "House hold kinda lady, and Working kinda lady" LMAO This has been a delight to read. Thanks OP.
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Poor guy need some booty can't you see it .
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well I kind of understand, after working long hours, romance is the last thing in her mind, especially early in the morning when she has to go to work, where as he has time and no work stress and wants to have fun, where as the female feels the responsibility... kills romance
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The OP lives in Pakistan. I don't know why people are criticizing her English. Yes, she makes good money at her job (as she claims), that does not mean she works for an MNC where good English skills are required. There are "seth companies" where people make good money, local banks even. People speak of Western home husbands, this is not a very common scenario even in the West and where it is mostly both parties are fine with it otherwise conflicts arise. Most Pakistanis expect the guy to work, whether his wife works or not! Its not unusual for her to expect that.
OP, talk to your husband about a business of some kind and see if you can help him set it up. I would suggest that you try and reciprocate his love that is talk to him nicely when he is romantic and appreciate him. Then talk to him about a business or job. This might make him more inclined to work as you are showing support.
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set a time for romance, tell him during week you have work load stress and no mind for it, but then on weekend give him the time and romance he wants, after all his is human too. 
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