Hi…I m xtremely worried abt one thng in my life which ladies usually find quite lucky abt me…My hubby is unable to take his eye off me n it piss me off terribally..its been 8 yrs i m married ..the thngs b/w me n my hubby are fanatically upsetting…I m not atall a house hold kindda lady…dont take interest in house chores..can cook to a simple level not at all saleeqa mand on the contrary my hubby even cleans the washroom when he takes bath..cleans the whole kitechn when he makes a cup of tea..even he makes for me as well he is a very responsible house man n i m a very succesfuul job doer lady…My hubby n me has been living home jobless for like abt 6 yrs we had 2 kids but he never did any serious job he had savings v just eak out the life i was compromising for all the gud habits n caring nature of his…Since 2 yrs i hv started job i hv been so successful in my job promotions n increameents made me have a swelled head though his saving looks tincy vincy 2 me now…both of my children are studying in The city school I m paying their fee My hubby cant..still he doesnt do any job but early morning he wakes up in a romantic manner piss me off …I hv started tellinh him dat u r sick dat puts hin off he tells me off badly becomes angry use harsh words but after the quarrel he makes breakfast for me drops me to work n children to school..i dont undertsand wot is wrong if I say i m living an abnormal lyf I tell myslef dat i m being thankless 2 God..but den still I know its abnormal..when v return home me n children he makes us food…again he try 2 be romantic N i use harsh words den again a quarrel but rite in evening a cup of tea in bed …At night v go out for ice cream or a drvive but still I m very Unhappy…He doesnt lemme go to my mums place ..i only c her in day tym cant stay if somtym i do stay he comes early nxt morning its quite irritating 2 me sumtimes even when i do a fight wid him he leaves me at mums place wid a bad mode saying …if u want divvorce uu can ask for it..but next ,mroning he comes again 2 my mums place pretending nothng happened n i for the sake of my children cant leave him …n trust this BIGGEST thng that he is jobless makes me go CRAZY…is it bcoz i m doing job…AM i Wtong? wot shud i do..is it a normal lyf/
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So your husband loves you. OMG how dare he!!
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So your husband loves you. OMG how dare he!!
I dont think he loves me ..I think he is a sick head wid nothng else 2 do in life...I m nt rude bt I m being Realistic
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The way i see it your too much irritated by the thought of him not being able to work. This is first time i ever came to know a husband is expressing all his feelings usually males dont do that they make wives wonder in circles :rotato:. Why dont you relax a little and try motivate him in trying his best to find a job, but try this in lovely way rather than showing mood offs to him, your his wife you should know better how to turn the table around. Not to forget behind every successful man there is hand of a woman, means they all need a push 
. But i must say you surely are blessed by having him. Gud luck with the rest 
He's making up for not working and is using you. Dont ignore his hud-haraami, he's trying to cover up his laziness and inability to take financial responsibilities of his family.
I have seen such examples in my closest friends and family. One of my bff is a successful gynecologist,her husband a doctor by education and is studying for USMLE for last 5 years and doesn't work at all. He gets money from his rental properties and showers my friend with gifts and cooked food too but that's not what she wants ofcourse. Beware !
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some people never get satisfied with anything...it's simply being ungrateful!
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^^ but what if this is case of laziness like prototype just said then this is not good thing, you know what i mean by that 
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Youur words soothes me down but u know itts been 8 yrs now…I know we 2 make a gud couple as v both r beautiful ppl adore us n I love it dis way when dey surprisingly ask …are u sure u r married n a mother of 2…Butt den when it comes 2 his jobb..he thnks he is a total fail coz he cudnt pass his engeeniering n now he has given up…he syas u can pass all the exams coz u r intelligent as i m successding now but he doesnt trust himslef I m very worried abt how 2 turn the table around…U know wot i hv done alot of wazaaif of quraan…but i dunno when My life wubd be a normal 1.
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He's making up for not working and is using you. Dont ignore his hud-haraami, he's trying to cover up his laziness and inability to take financial responsibilities of his family.
I have seen such examples in my closest friends and family. One of my bff is a successful gynecologist,her husband a doctor by education and is studying for USMLE for last 5 years and doesn't work at all. He gets money from his rental properties and showers my friend with gifts and cooked food too but that's not what she wants ofcourse. Beware !
based on what the op said, he does the housework and is a loving and attentive husband. how is this a sign of laziness or his using her? if that's the case, then all the housewives i know are the same. that doesn't make sense.
Re: Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly
He's making up for not working and is using you. Dont ignore his hud-haraami, he's trying to cover up his laziness and inability to take financial responsibilities of his family.
I have seen such examples in my closest friends and family. One of my bff is a successful gynecologist,her husband a doctor by education and is studying for USMLE for last 5 years and doesn't work at all. He gets money from his rental properties and showers my friend with gifts and cooked food too but that's not what she wants ofcourse. Beware !
When i hv tried every thng in lyf wot else can i do..shud i leave him?coz he yesterday said 2 me ...any 1 can marry u still coz u r young n beautiful if u want divorce i can give...but i totally ignored
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I m tired now telling lie abt him 2 my colleagues when dey ask me wot does ur hubby do n i tell he own buisness blah blah..But still i dont find the answer 2 my question..wot shud i do?
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It's disturbing that he isn't bothered by the idea of you leaving him. I don't know if that indicates he's not motivated to change...or....if it's said out of low self-esteem where he thinks he's unworthy of you....maybe be doesn't think he can succeed in holding down a job. Forget about the money he borrowed from your mom as that's a long-term task. He won't be able to return it anytime soon so it's pointless to worry about it especially if your mom is not demanding it. Focus on the more immediate issues. Talk to him...be honest. Ask him why he isn't working, what his plans are, how you feel, effects on the kids, etc.
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anabiampn now i do suggest u calm down, right now all your family faith is in your hand, you must not think things over, and also not to give up thinking that life will ever change. By this your having less faith in your prays more than your having in your husband and think about it, your the one closest to him, if you wont be able to guide him then who will. I do agree things look impossible but you know very well nothing is impossible. Please stop thinking neg and have faith in not only ur husband, but also in yourself and especially in Allah
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I shall never marry... smh.
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Allah is my only hope u know..I pray alot. I have done certain recitations for his steadiness as well..the otther part just flashed when u asked to have faith in Allah is..he doesnt offer namaz ,he doesnt fast all over ramazan..n he doest pay zakat n on top of every thng he borrowed 4 lac from my mum rite after marraige to take me 2 london n promised 2 return when v come back from london but 3 lacs he spent on the tour to london and 1 lac he put in fixed deposit..when i thnk abt thses bitter realities i feel terribly bad..n wot not..I cry after every naamaz o..i m nt an ungrateful type…I m grate ful 2 my Allah on every gud thng including gud of my husband but den I get stuck when i c he is still nt a gud practising muslim as qwell…den??wot shud i be treasuring abt hi? his love dat aman is alwe willin to make no matter he loves the lady or not …its the pleasure he can seek from any one he loves or not..Oly thng is he doesnt cheat on me so yeah I m grateful 2 Allah for all the guds but wot abt the xtremely bads? lyk nt giving the money of my mother back?n den i sold my gold set 2 pay my mum hardly 1 lac…n he was telling me badly off dat gold pricesa rae rising high n u hv wasted ur set ..??i mean if i dont feel pised off den wot?
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Was he not on job the time u married him ??
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He's making up for not working and is using you. Dont ignore his hud-haraami, he's trying to cover up his laziness and inability to take financial responsibilities of his family.
I have seen such examples in my closest friends and family. One of my bff is a successful gynecologist,her husband a doctor by education and is studying for USMLE for last 5 years and doesn't work at all. He gets money from his rental properties and showers my friend with gifts and cooked food too but that's not what she wants ofcourse. Beware !
By your definition most upper middle class Pakistani housewives are also hud-haraman.
But wait, they don't even have the rental income nor shower their husbands with gifts.
So be careful there.
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OP
It seems he feels comfortable with role reversal.
You can ask him to take over more of the household responsibilities, while you earn.
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Hmm.. I'm starting to see why desi men might think we're a little insane...