Koi doosra kuch kahay to bura lagta hai....but you didn't use the kindest tone or words for your husband either. You called him a sick head with nothing better to do.
I agree with Xtron.
Also, OP....it seems that in your eyes household chores in general are a worthless task whether it's done by the wife or the husband. I get the vibe that you are more proud of being a successful career woman than you are of your homemaking abilities. Why only focus on your husband's flaws? Why don't you also look at things you can improve on.....such as the household skills. They can be developed over time.
Koi doosra kuch kahay to bura lagta hai....but you didn't use the kindest tone or words for your husband either. You called him a sick head with nothing better to do.
I agree with Xtron.
Also, OP....it seems that in your eyes household chores in general are a worthless task whether it's done by the wife or the husband. I get the vibe that you are more proud of being a successful career woman than you are of your homemaking abilities. Why only focus on your husband's flaws? Why don't you also look at things you can improve on.....such as the household skills. They can be developed over time.
Ofdourse i can I knw i m gud at self accountablity n how 2 work on dat...of course it feels so bad when someone uses bad words for him dats y i hv shared dis on this thread to gain ideas how to make him gain respect around so no one can say anythng abt him...N i wud be da lucky lady ...I work on my flaws..Problem is hent ready 2 move he is stuck wid an idea dat i cant do job...
Asking you to go to London, get a job and then call him and the children over suggests that he has no intention of working but rather that you worked while he stayed at home. It probably is not the best of times to be looking for a job in London at the moment.
What type of visa does he have? Does the visa allow him to work? Or is it just a multi entry visit visa?
just a multi visit visa..not allowed 2 work dats y he was scared to go on dis visa...
just a multi visit visa..not allowed 2 work dats y he was scared to go on dis visa...
Well he cannot come here and get a job legally and even getting a job illegally is difficult as a lot of them are being caught and deported and employers are being fined. Besides there aren't too many jobs going anyway at the moment. So the options are for him to get a job in Pakistan or depending on your skills you may be able to get a skilled job in the UK, or if you have a lot of money you can get a visa to start a business here.
One idea or way for him to feel more respected is if you stop rejecting his romantic advances/gestures frequently. I agree he needs to change, but it's a two way street. You have to think about how you're behaving as well that's contributing to the problem.
You still need to appreciate whatever helping hand he's giving you. You may not feel like being oh so lovey dovey about it but you can still do so by at least remaining calm around him.
He may not be comfortable in trying his luck in getting high brow jobs, so I'd say the best option is to find him relatively less challenging part time work somewhere, it'll change his routine and get him into a habit of leaving the house and earning something.
For ur info he has a valid visa of 5 yrs but he went only 3 times in whole 5 yrs...i mean to say he cant live alone dats wot i hv figured out he keeps on worrying abt children as the city conditions are very unpredictable...and i tell him dat i want respect among neighbours n family not his pick n drop makes me feel proud i can hire a driver if not den a pick n drop service ..but not him any more...I want my children 2 feel proud of their dad not ashamed...as sooner dey wll b able 2 figure out da difference in other's dad n their's....He wants me to apply n he often says dat u go london get setteled n call us ill bring the children..I mean its totally crap ...Fanatically upside down dis is wot girls do when dere hubbys go abroad for work
Wow! I am just speechless. ?..seems like money is the only that matters to you. You and your children need to be proud of your husband for who he is as a person and not how much money he makes or whatjob he has. By the being a landlord is a job as well. So technically he is making money.
FOr once I agree with nadz, and OP you sound like the stereotype of why people still think badly of "career" women: stuck up, arrogant, shallow and narrow minded.
your kids aren't hte ones who will be ashamed of their dad, that would be YOU making their father out to be a loser. YOU should be ashamed of yourself, not them.
Omg divorce him now!! This has red flags all over it!! I mean cooking, cleaning, making up after a fight.. This is ridiculous!!! I say you divorce him so he can find someone like himself.. Appreciative and grateful!!!
