Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly

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Thank You!

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In western countries, there are households where the roles are reversed and it is acceptable. There is a woman in my company who is pretty successful in her career and her husband stays at home with kids. She easily tells people about her household routine and stuff like her husband puts the kids to sleep, cooks dinner etc without feeling ashamed.

He cleans the house, makes food, pick up, drop off kids and loves you. Do you not see the good in him ?

I think you are focusing only on the negative and that is pissing you off about the entire situation. Also since it is not very common to have men stay at home, you are not comfortable sharing this information with your colleagues and that adds to your irritation.

When I have a fight with my husband, I want us to solve the issue first, so I can understand his romantic antics put you off when there is an issue that you want resolved.

I also do not think your husband is sick in the head .... he is being romantic with his wife, even if he does not work, he can still love his wife !!!
Also not sure but from your posts it seems its only he who talked about divorce. May be he is sure you will never ask for one so he keeps on saying it. Did you ever say you want a divorce and was he not bothered by it ??

You cannot change him and turn him into a new man in one day or a week or even a month so start slowly and think about what is the most important thing you want him to change.
Do you want him to read namaz first, do you want him to find a job first.

Sit down with him and talk about future. Make future plans and involve him. Encourage him to find a part time job or something.

If you stay pissed off and not talk to him, things will not change.

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Do you have a problem comprehending and understanding english ? I quoted an example of my friend because I am NOT generalizing or putting anyone in a “class”.

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You state that:

  • your husband cleans the washroom!
  • he cleans the whole kitchen!
  • he is a very responsible man!
  • he wakes up in a romantic manner!
  • after you argue with him he still makes you breakfast!
  • he drops you to work!
  • when you return home he makes you and the kids food!
  • he is romantic again when you come home from work!

What is wrong with you woman?! He sounds amazing...as a House Husband. ;)

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Okay first of all..Man should be man. May be some people might put me as traditional..but i still hold on to value..where Man is the one who is to take care of his family. Regardless whether..his wife works or not. Whether..she has successful career and make tons of money. At the end of the day..it is Man's job to put food on the table. Secondly..to address his insecurity about being a failure. Well that is HIS problem..he needs to work on that..and get back on the market. And lastly OP..instead of you getting mad...just tell him. In the future..you might not be working..so pleaseoget your act together and be a man.
He is basically covering up for his laziness by being probably loving. Perhaps..he really loves you..no doubt that. But he needs to work on this..and you as his wife needs to motivate and push him. Anger wouldn't solve anything.

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Looks like he is grateful to you for taking over his job to earn money that is why he isn't speaking up even when you are being rude to him. Or probably is ignoring it coz he might think you are under stress.

Is he trying to find a job too? You need to handle the situation in a better way then.

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and you deduced all of this from one long paragraph she wrote :hmmm:

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It seems lyk God had 2 make us the other way rooind me shud be tha hubby n he shud be da wyf...den i wud hv been making the most perfect couple on planet earth

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I think that you lack respect for your husband as he does not work, even though it tries to make up for not working by doing jobs around the house and being a taxi driver for you and the kids. I think that you need to tell him to get a job as it should be a man's role to provide for his family and children or he should at least try to do that. Tell him that you find it hard to respect him when he cannot do that however good a person he may be.

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He was in LONDOn n he still goes sometimes...So dey told us dat he is working there..n V thought dat he vud take me there forever like all girls getting married 2 a man living abroad do...but dis was whole crap he se 2 go on visit visas which is useless for lyf.

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you gus are thinking lyk i hv neva talked on dis topic?? He is not even looking for Jobs...he doesnt want 2 do jobs in PAkistan...he is looking fwd to going abroad n settel there

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If he wants to go abroad then tell him that he can go for 12 months and sort himself out and get a job however living apart is not a long term solution and if he cannot take you there within 12 months then he needs to return and get a job in Pakistan, otherwise marriage is over.

What sort of job is he hoping to get? He needs to be earning enough to house and support himself, you and the children otherwise it will be pointless for him to go.

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For ur info he has a valid visa of 5 yrs but he went only 3 times in whole 5 yrs...i mean to say he cant live alone dats wot i hv figured out he keeps on worrying abt children as the city conditions are very unpredictable...and i tell him dat i want respect among neighbours n family not his pick n drop makes me feel proud i can hire a driver if not den a pick n drop service ..but not him any more...I want my children 2 feel proud of their dad not ashamed...as sooner dey wll b able 2 figure out da difference in other's dad n their's....He wants me to apply n he often says dat u go london get setteled n call us ill bring the children..I mean its totally crap ...Fanatically upside down dis is wot girls do when dere hubbys go abroad for work

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Your husband is really GAY. I mean how could a man be like that?

RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!

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I even told him few jobs but he considers himself unable 2 do an office job..he has given up..all he can do is odd jobs which are worthless in PAkistan ..so he cant do dem here dats y he wanna go n settel abroad.

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MIND UR LANGUAGE>>>

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We can clearly bury English in its own grave after reading this tread. Good God woman how do you have a job with English skills such as these? You write like a 5 year old.

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The title of the thread is misleading .... the actual issue I guess is not that his attention pisses you off, its that he does not work nor does he want to work.
Also hate to say it to you but if you guys move overseas, I have a feeling, he will live off of welfare unless you find a job there too.

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Asking you to go to London, get a job and then call him and the children over suggests that he has no intention of working but rather that you worked while he stayed at home. It probably is not the best of times to be looking for a job in London at the moment.

What type of visa does he have? Does the visa allow him to work? Or is it just a multi entry visit visa?

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I have seen him doing jobs overseas...