Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife
I havent read all comments here but let me tell you Sara Abeeha is a boy and already married... i remember he once posted his story here... btw its not possible to love 2 wife's If you love your wife then y u want to marry again!!!???
What else did he say?
Did he say his wife was staying with him or leaving him?
Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife
^ Talk about being curious for all the very wrong reasons. 
Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife
a man can be the most evil creature in this world but if he takes a 2nd, 3rd or fourth wife, he will be forgiven for all his sins and be given not 70 BUT 140 hurss... and any woman who accepts her husband's 2nd, 3rd and then 4th wife will be one of the lucky hurs among the 140...this is a new fatwa i just heard so cheers everyone...both genders can now be happy.
Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife
^ Says who?
A wife that shares his husband with another woman?
Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife
I had no idea that OP was a guy..
Don’t have the energy to do a search right now..
Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife
^ Rumi would agree, he'd rather think before choosing to write one of his pieces.
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Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife
^ 
Hallelujah.
Are you married?
Re: To those women who would want a divorce just because their husband takes another
A woman that finds her to-be husband attractive today, but fails to find him as much a couple years later, although warrants her to file for divorce according to the religious ruling/law, it still doesn't make her right.
As for you/or more of you trying to justify how multiple marriages is supposed to be an alright thing to do.
I ask you, and with all due respect I do: Would you be okay with sharing your wife with somebody else?
First of all with all due respect divorce is a "NAPASANDEEDA AMAL" in the eyes of ALLAH and it is only permissible in case where your spouse is not fulfilling the responsibilities and obligations towards the marriage if he or she doing so there is no reason or permission of divorce both for husband or wife to be rightfull....and if anyone of them want to exercise divorce making the reason tht his or her spouse is exercising their ISLAMIC right but i am not ok with it, such a person can never be rightfull no matter whatever justification he or she brings out.....Beacause in the ISLAMIC concept of KHULA and DIVORCE valid reason for exercising it not just "i dont want it anymore" bla bla bla...
Pardon me, but the question you asked is really childish because in ISLAM a wife can only be married to one man at a time, so there is no possibility for anyone to share his wife with any one...until or unless it comes to "ZINA" which is HARAM.....So what you are askin is against ISLAM and yes i will not tolerate it...But if ISLAM had given right to a women to keep many spouses at a time and my wife wants to have one more with her ISLAMIC right than i would absolutely have no problem with that.....
PEACE
Re: To those women who would want a divorce just because their husband takes another
Well sara he can exercise his god-given right and marry another lady.I'll exercise my God given right and ask for khula. Isn't it simple :)
And who says that its your GOD given right to ask for KHULA out of no reason....Oh yes you have a reason that he is marrying another girl...and you think it gives you right to ask for KHULA....If both husband and wife carrying their marriage in the light of ISLAM then their is no right to either one of them to break it until or unless anyone of them has commited something out of ISLAM or not fulfilling his or her duty....But having the only reason that the spouse is having another marriage(PERmissible in ISLAM) doesn't give you any right or i must say valid right to ask for KHULA....Out of validity you can do whatever you want with being wronful...
MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU
Re: To those women who would want a divorce just because their husband takes another
It is the oldest practice of muslims to use AAYETS of hte HOLY QURAN as their justifications…You know what QURAN is a “MUKAMMAL ZABETA E HAYAT” and its not for a century and not for a decade…Each and every AAYAT or i must say WORD in it is valid and applicable till the day of Judgement…So there is no point for anyone to say that it was applicable there and not here…yes this HOLY SURA came after the battle of UHAD but it doesn’t mean its teachings are just for after battle type of circumstances because its not stated in SURA ( in that case first WAHI on MUHAMMAD S.A.W was “IQRA BISMI RABBI KAL LAZI KHALAQ” and it came in a DAUUR of JAHILIAt now in your point of view will the seeking for knowledge was just for the DAUUR of JAHILIAt) …and it clearly states “MARRY WOMEN OF YOUR CHOICE” and there was nothing written about marrying women only in after war type circumstances otherwise in normal circumstances you just have to have a single wife…And apart from that do you know how many WIVES our HOLY PROPHET (S.A.W) had? (with this question i am not NAUZUBILLAH resembling anyone with the HOLY PROPHET (S.A.W) because he is the only one inded but what i am trying to say as HE S.A.W is the role model for us thats what brought this question out and now i know many will say role model for just this type of thing but me saying him S.A.W as a role model regarding this matter doesn’t deny the fact that he is a role model in every walk of life so why not accept every thing he do is the best way of living a life…Now what more i can eloborate…still ppl cant understand then GOD HELP YOU…There are FATWAAS on this issue if you want to see watch cricketer SOHAIL tanveer second marriage scandal where BENOORIYA town MUFTI comments on it in the light of ISLAM and also discuss the statement of SURA NISA you stated above…Well i tried to tell you above what he was saying but you can see with your own eyes and there were two modern ladies saying exactly like that it was 1400 yrs ago this and that (ASTAGHFIRULLAH)
So lady, every word in our HOLY QURAN is written forever not for a situation or circumstance or WAKEYA and there is always a reason behind it…For example female population in the world is much higher than the male population and similarly the death rate of males is much higher than the females…This gives reason that why ISLAM permitted second marriages (OFFcourse all wifely rights reserved to first wife)…We can also take the example of PAkistan if half of the married man with one wife marry another woman and their first wives calmly take this rightfull act then there will be no sister of mine being unmarried and waiting for her lifetime to get married…
MAY ALLAH BLESS US ALL
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No madam
REHA was quite right in her post that husband doesn’t need approval from his first wife and blessings of first wife depends upon his discretion whether he wants to take them or not if not then also he is rightfull…
An all the QURANI HAWALAS you gave above doesn’t say anything about that a husband has to take first wife’s approval or blessings…If you want to derive your own opinions from the HOLY AAYATS then its a seperate thing…
MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU
Re: To those women who would want a divorce just because their husband takes another
He loves me and someone else? IF he cared and loved me he wouldn't need anyone else. Women today can love and care for themselves.
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MAY ALLAH SHOW YOU THE RIGHT WAY
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For all respected women here sharing there views or i must say sharing a common view...I want to ask you something that each and every one of you are using the words "sharing of husband with another woman"...Dont you guys think that its a marriage taking place not an affair...and you all will agree that husband marrying another woman is not "ZINA" or "GUNAAH" in the eyes of ISLAM and if it is not "GUNAAH" then it is a rightfull thing...The problem is just that knowing all of this you guys just dont want to accept it...well not able to accept something doesn't mean its a wrongfull thing to do...Because your personal and individual thoughts are a seperate thing and cannot be generalized...and i have no prob with how each and every one of you react in such a case or feels in such a case or take whatever decision in such a case means KHULA or anything...What i am saying is you cannot say that second marriage is a wrongfull thing to do religiously.... i didn't say anything here just because i am a man or i want to have a second marriage (I DONT)...I support it because it is a right thing...Similarly ladies here who were taking it personally shouldn't do it because while being biased you can not think positively so dont take it individually it is a generalized concept and again i would say rightfull religiously....and thats all....and if i hurt anyone with my words or views i beg your pardon for that, i really didn't meant to......
MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU ALL
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.. ...and it clearly states "MARRY WOMEN OF YOUR CHOICE".......
why do we forget the ""If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans,..." part?
Re: To those women who would want a divorce just because their husband takes another
why do we forget the ""If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans,..." part?
Yes nobody is forgetting it at all...but it would be better if you read the whole of my post and understand the whole context rather than just pick a sentence "MARRY WOMEN OF YOUR CHOICE"...
I used this to eloborate something and i was saying about the whole AAYAT that girl quoted including what you quoted above but nothing here says that these sayings are for specific situations like after war...and that was the argument in that post that these are generalized sayings for any and every situation... and i strictly believes each and every word of it not just the marrying women of your choice part but many ppl here doesn't want to believe it so they use to make their own assumptions and derive the meanings out what they individually want to believe i must say they are delusional....anyways
MAY ALLAH BLESS US ALL
Re: To those women who would want a divorce just because their husband takes another
Yes nobody is forgetting it at all...but it would be better if you read the whole of my post and understand the whole context rather than just pick a sentence "MARRY WOMEN OF YOUR CHOICE"...
I used this to eloborate something and i was saying about the whole AAYAT that girl quoted including what you quoted above but nothing here says that these sayings are for specific situations like after war...and that was the argument in that post that these are generalized sayings for any and every situation... and i strictly believes each and every word of it not just the marrying women of your choice part but many ppl here doesn't want to believe it so they use to make their own assumptions and derive the meanings out what they individually want to believe i must say they are delusional....anyways
MAY ALLAH BLESS US ALL
again... the injunction is for a specific situation, where you can marry "MARRY WOMEN OF YOUR CHOICE" ===> "If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans,..." NOT in "any and every situation".
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again... the injunction is for a specific situation, where you can marry "MARRY WOMEN OF YOUR CHOICE" ===> "If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans,..." NOT in "any and every situation".
Its a shame...just trying to extract your own meaning....now listen, "If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, means that if you have reason to fear that you might not act equitable towards orphans ...there is nothing said about any situations and orphans are not necessarily the result of a war.....anyways i am not going to argue anymore with you about this cuz if someone dont wanna believe no one can make them believe and someone dont wanna understand no one can make them understand....Go and talk to a mufti about this and he will tell you about this or you can watch many fatwaas online on this very issue but again some ppl dont wana understand so they also argue with MUFTIS...Read my all posts and you may get an idea that this was not the only example i gave about 2nd marriages rightfullness and if still want to beat the bushes and be a (me na Manoo) character then be it.....MAY ALLAH HELP U
PEACE
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i really think its just a fact of islam that we have to accept. for a man, having more than one wife at the same time is allowed...and i think its actually to deter men from having random affairs and not taking responsibility for them. would you rather have a husband who goes around sleeping with random women/having affairs or would you rather him be accountable for that if he is choosing to ogle/check out and entertain the thoughts of other women while being married to you? with marriage (if actually carried out the islamic way), now he's responsible for that second woman (her living, her izzat). i know we become really selfish with this whole concept of love today..where two lovers belong to each other and no one should come between (mother in law, sister in law, another woman) but life is about practicality...and if he's meeting all of your needs and can equally meet the needs of another woman then why stop him? i wouldnt be able to accept it for my husband either but sometimes you just have to think logically...but then if we're thinking logically then 98% of the population can barely support one family financially so then how would a man support two?