So you would divorce him just because he is exercising his god-given right?
If he treats you good, fulfils all your needs then why would you divorce him just because he took on another? Which btw is his Islamic right if he can be fair with you and your co-wife.
Would you rather have half a good husband or no husband at all?
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No husband.... I can take care of myself, I didnt marry him because I needed someone to take care of my basic needs.
Ps. You can't love two women (wives) at the same time. That is just being unfair to yourself and both the women you have married.
To those women who would want a divorce just because their husband takes another wi
Half a good husband?!? 
I agree with Lusi. In this day and age, it’s not practical nor realistic. If my husband ever felt the need to share his love/life with another women, he is more then welcome too…I just won’t be around for the ride.
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But if they are good enough to be our husbands, then why aren't they good enough for other sisters?
Re: To those women who would want a divorce just because their husband takes another
No husband.... I can take care of myself, I didnt marry him because I needed someone to take care of my basic needs. Ps. You can't love two women (wives) at the same time. That is just being unfair to yourself and both the women you have married.
Actually it is in a man's nature that he can. God has given them that ability to love more than one woman at a time. Its why men have practised polygamy for centuries. I met a woman in college who is a third wife and is really happy mashaallah..there are success stories
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Well sara he can exercise his god-given right and marry another lady.I'll exercise my God given right and ask for khula.
Isn't it simple :)
Re: To those women who would want a divorce just because their husband takes another
Well sara he can exercise his god-given right and marry another lady.I'll exercise my God given right and ask for khula. Isn't it simple :)
Even if he still loves you and cares for you? If he didn't then he would have divorced you a long time ago. Its as easy as thee words to get rid of a woman that you don't love for a man.
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So you would divorce him just because he is exercising his god-given right?
Yes. B/C the last time I checked, God also gave me the right to leave a marriage if I'm not happy.
If he treats you good, fulfils all your needs then why would you divorce him just because he took on another?
LOL...."just because"? You may be perfectly ok with your husband sharing himself with another woman (emotionally and physically) but I'm not. I don't care if that other woman happnes to have the title of "wife". He can practice his Islamic right all the wants.....but I also have a right to choose not to be a part of it.
Would you rather have half a good husband or no husband at all?
No husband at all. I have no interest in being married to a man who doesn't consider me...and me alone...good enough to satisfy all his wants/needs. Just like the other women, I don't NEED my husband. I married him and continue to choose to stay in this marriage b/c I want to be part of it. I'm more than capable of supporting myself.
Exactly!!! :k:
Re: To those women who would want a divorce just because their husband takes another
Even if he still loves you and cares for you? If he didn't then he would have divorced you a long time ago. Its as easy as thee words to get rid of a woman that you don't love for a man.
well the world doesn't revolve around HIM does it.What if I don't love him anymore ? What if my feelings for him changed now that he is marrying another ?
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Three is a crowd in a marriage. Regardless of whether the other woman is a 2nd wife or mistress or whatever, I'm out.
To those women who would want a divorce just because their husband takes another wi
Surah Nisa states “If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice.”
Why was this allowed? The historic context of the verse is important and it’s revelation came at a time when after the Battle of Uhud, in which many Muslim men were killed, leaving widows and orphans. It’s pretty much agreed (or at least this is my understanding based in what ive been taught) that these Verses have been revealed “because of Allah’s concern for the welfare of women and orphans who were left without husbands and fathers who died fighting for the Prophet and for Islam. It is a verse about compassion towards women and their children; it is not about men or their sexuality"
I don’t really recall hearing of any mass epidemic of Muslim widows being left behind without any support in recent times 
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^ Even in the case if a widow who needs help…I have no problem helping my husband assist a widow and/or her children financially or otherwise UNTIL she’s able to support herself. I have no problem with my husband spending time with a widow’s children so he can be a good male role model in their lives. But none this requires him to all of a sudden start sharing a bed with her. 
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^ THIS.
Re: To those women who would want a divorce just because their husband takes another
Perhaps taking a trip to Pakistan and war torn Middle Eastern countries may help you 'see' things, if you haven't heard about them.
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So why can't the same ladies advocate 'khula' as women's Islamic right when her husband fails to provide her a separate house? Quran doesn't say that you must live separately from your in laws nor there is a hadith advocating the exact thing, then why the women's is told to bear the unhappy situation when Islam has given her a way out?
I am playing a devil'a advocate here but its amusing to see religion being used as tool make stuff up and reject stuff to suit their own benefits.
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I've taken plenty of trips to Pakistan and know enough about war torn ME countries to stand by my words, thank you very much. And I HIGHLY doubt anyone's husband in this thread (including that of the OP) is going to Palestine or some remote part of Pakistan/Afghanistan to take a second wife on a purely humanitarian basis is the point of this thread.
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I've taken plenty of trips to Pakistan and know enough about war torn ME countries to stand by my words, thank you very much. And I HIGHLY doubt anyone's husband in this thread (including that of the OP) is going to Palestine or some remote part of Pakistan/Afghanistan to take a second wife on a purely humanitarian basis is the point of this thread.
Sorry but your post suggested otherwise.
My point isn't about someone taking a 14 hour long flight to take a wife on humanitarian basis (some may very well do, my Lebanese college may very well come back with a widowed cousin...who knows) it's about someone saying so confidently how's she's never seen groups of widows being left behind any support. Thats just plain ignorance. You wouldn't be saying if you'd lived in Pakistan and surveyed the rural areas.
Thats all I'm saying, other than I have no interest in knowing whether your or anyone's husband is interested in or not interested in taking a second wife for whatever reason.
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So you would divorce him just because he is exercising his god-given right?
If he treats you good, fulfils all your needs then why would you divorce him just because he took on another? Which btw is his Islamic right if he can be fair with you and your co-wife.
Would you rather have half a good husband or no husband at all?
Firstly, the wife also has the god-given right to divorce if she's not happy or no longer loves him..
Secondly, why 'no husband at all'? Are divorcees not able to remarry?
I'm not so desperate to stay married that I'd settle for being with someone who thinks I'm not 'enough' for him..
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^ This. For some reason, the 2nd, 3rd, 4th wife always happens to be a pretty, young woman (30 or under) who has never been married. 
Personally I have yet to see a Muslim man from the West travel to Pakistan or any other Middle Eastern country in order to marry a widow. More importantly…marry a widow who is already in her 40’s, 50’s, 60’s etc and may have 1 or more children to support. I will have nothing but respect for a man who marries an elderly widow in a war torn country if that is the ONLY way to help her and her kids survive (although I still don’t understand why marriage is necessary to provide help to a widow). 
Heck even in the 1 example provided by OP herself…the THIRD wife was in college (OP met her in college so I’m assuming the 3rd wife was a college student). 