To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

tranquil · June 23, 2013, 6:04am

Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

Isa (AS) dead or alive. In the light of Quran and Hadith.

Good grief. So let me get this straight. They were both already married and she agreed to marry him knowing he was slagging off the first wife to her? Saying he didn’t like her much but still managed to pro-create with her?

So the first wife is getting visited less? Does he see the kids often (more than the wife). At a guess soon enough the visits will become less and less. Even if the bloke said at the start (not sure if he did) that he would support both it’s near impossible if he didn’t even like the first wife much. Why not do the right thing and instead of stringing her along explain his feelings and if they cannot sort it part rather than her being unhappy? He’d still have to financially support his kids if that is something she is worried about. Zulm is not acceptable; even if it’s just her being unhappy because her hands were tied to accept such a decision.

The first wife is in the dilemma of many first wives-if you don’t accept the decision you are kicked to the kerb as often the kids are too because shiny new ones will take their place soon enough.

He helped a married women basically leave her valid nikkah, and marry him and he doesn’t see that as wrong? The right thing possibly for the brother would have been is to say “I like you I really do; however you are in a nikkah with another man even if he has got mental problems. If you become single call me!”. But oh no why do that.

this all happened rather recently, so i don’t know how the first wives kids are being affected by this whole situation, but she is unhappy with it. from what i know, this man helped his second wife with her divorce proceedings since her first husband kept dragging on the divorce proceedings in court by not showing up and all. i don’t know how he helped speed up the divorce but he did.

its sad though, that the first wife had to suffer so much. the second wife is completely happy though, she’s in a much better position now then she was before.