No, son has no more responsibility than daughter does. Its our Pakistani households that have it all wrong. Larki ki koi zimmidari nahin apne maa baap ke taraf…vo parayi hai…bahu ayegi to saas susar ki khidmat karegi…unke apne bachon ko kya hogaya hai? Son doesnt have more. Thats “saas bhi kabhi bhi bahu thi” talking right there.
After a while, it can be expected that DIL and MIL develop a loving relationship. Lekin in the beginning, it cant be expected that both just have the TV-serial type relationship we all hope for. I mean, they will get to know each other, discover differences, fight, work through them, come a full circle and then realize how to deal with each other.
Shakky, mujhe ghussa araha tha…then I just took it all out and put my naraz wali smiley.
If you love your spouse, you will definitely try to love his parents. Lekin its natural to love your own parents more.
You will try to be fair but you are after all human and things will happen. Its wrong to expect that bahu ayegi aur saas ke pair dho dho ke piyegi. Yes, vo koshish zaroor karegi ke inlaws ke saat mil jhul ke rahe.
Let me give you an example:
Agar MILs apni DILs ko apni beti samjhein to uski ghalti ko maaf karne ka jazba bhi hona chahiye hai. Lekin thats not the case. Bahu se ghalti hoti hai and before we know it, son is in the middle of “ye mere bete ko mujh se cheenna chahti hai”. If it was her own sagi beti, usko daant ke agay barjateen. Lekin kyun ke bahu hai…its not happening.
For the sake of rishtay nibhana, people will say “bahu nahin, beti hai”. Agar beti hai to uski nadaniyon ko maaf karo. Usko sikhao…dont label her as siyasat daan aur pata nahin kya ala bala.
I mean, they will get to know each other, discover differences, fight, work through them, come a full circle and then realize how to deal with each other.