This is a spinoff from another thread. It seems like nothing is sacred these days. I believe what goes on between a husband and wife is private information. When the wife shares this info. with her friends, it causes a lot of marital problems. The same goes for husbands. They should not share private details about their wives with their friends.
How would a woman feel if her husband shared details about her weight gain, PMS, temper issues, dysfunctional family, ex-boyfriends etc. with his friends? I am sure the ‘bhabi’ won’t be as respected as she should have been in the guy’s circle.
I have seen a lot of marriages go under 'cause there are scores of women telling the wife that her husband is an ass. These women attach the worst possible attributes to the husband from the little detail they get from the wife.
For god’s sake, there are so many issues that can be sorted easily if you discuss them with your husband. No need to create drama by sharing personal info. with your friends. You might think that your husband is never going to find out, but it does come out! Maybe it’s your friends husband who tells him, maybe he picks it up by the change in attitude. Sure there are some things that must not be hidden. If there is physical or persistent mental abuse etc
Truth is that Wife shares the private information with friends, sisters, moms WAY TOO MUCH than husbands do and in explicit details and sometimes its not good for relationship.
girls do it and its a fact, they generally discuss everything with their close friend, so i am not surprised. However too much details does damage relationships.
Truth is that Wife shares the private information with friends, sisters, moms WAY TOO MUCH than husbands do and in explicit details and sometimes its not good for relationship.
I agree. Women have a tendency to make a mountain out of a molehill. You need to assess what things you can and are best sorted out between the two of you and when you actually need the advice of a friend or relative.
I agree. Women have a tendency to make a mountain out of a molehill. You need to assess what things you can and are best sorted out between the two of you and when you actually need the advice of a friend or relative.
i dono why it happens but girl's best friend is her MOM.She would tell the details of her "SUHAAG RAAT" first thing in the morning to her beloved mom....!
Mainly because the mom is “concerned” how was her daughter treated the first night and whether her “son in law” would be able to make her GRAND MA OR NOT!
Erm that is disgusting, I wud never tell my mum what my first night was like with my hubby. Thats gross man.
I learnt the hard way that a 'friend' wont take your interests by heart. I told my friend things abt my boyfriend. That i shudnt of. She basically twisted my mind so much that ended up with me n him having so many arguments. NOW i wud never tell anyone about anything the key is to jus talk about it str8 up.
However being a girl that i am and u know how us girls can be '*****y' When she got her man i decided to do the same, i know its wrong but she caused so much sh*t between me and my man That i thought why not.
Moral of the story, Dont tell the world your story. Friend or sister or mother. They wont understand the full story and jus end of chatting aload of sh*t to you and make the matter worse than it is.
Relationships are and should remain private. They're between two individuals, not your whole family. I think people in our culture tend to run to their elders too quickly when there are problems, however small. Husband and wife should (where possible) sit down and talk things through. Where this isn't possible, yes other more learned family members should n consulted.
I would never disclose private details of mine and hubby to be relationship when we are married because its just that - private. Some women get too carried away when they're in their group of friends or with female relatives. You don't need to tell them everything for goodness sakes!
But for some girls (and even guys) I understand that there is often the need to speak to someone else about the relationship, for example where the spouses are disagreeing on something or can't come to a decision on something due to cultural differences. The third party may even help by making you see things from another point of view.
I would think that guys respect their friends' wife BECAUSE they respect the dude...because of who she is, not through knowing anything personal about her ...right?
And when women vent...the smart ones know that ure just venting....all the times i've vented/complained about things, 99% of them gaveme good advice...and the bad advice, I knew it was bad advice.
For god’s sake, there are so many issues that can be sorted easily if you discuss them with your husband. No need to create drama by sharing personal info. with your friends. You might think that your husband is never going to find out, but it does come out! Maybe it's your friends husband who tells him, maybe he picks it up by the change in attitude. Sure there are some things that must not be hidden. If there is physical or persistent mental abuse etc
Very well said. We need to understand that nothing is going to come out of badmouthing each other with even our own parents. If anything its only gonna bring on the animosity for which we ourself wl regret later. Everyone wants respect for their spouse n by badmouthing them we r just doing the opp. In the end no matter what we all get back together such are these family bonds n then later we regret that oh so n so is not very respectful for my husband n wife n we wonder y?! Well thats cuz u give the other person the liberty to judge them and make crude remarks abt them.
Husband n wife and so does other family members needs to understand we get respect nt only by how much others give us respect but also by how much our family is respected.
Sara516 - If a friends' wife has been known to play the field before marriage or if she is known to be a gossip queen, we do feel sorry for the guy. It won't affect my friendship with the guy and i'll try mybest not to change my attitude towards the wife, but again, it does matter.
^ Lol, I can think of plenty of guys I feel sorry for who have such a wife.
I agree with Maham S - It's best to avoid getting involved in other peoples family fueds - mainly because they always end up being best buddies again and forgiving each other.
What stork is saying is that for others to respect your spouse, you should respect your spouse. That includes not badmouthing them or hitching about every little thing that bothered you.
