Moral/ethical dilemma - what should I do?

[Muzna]

Re: Moral/ethical dilemma - what should I do?

@ConfusedMe

I was that girl. The girl who had an arranged marriage to someone who already had a (white) gf. I wish someone had told me. Sadly everyone knew, but no one said anything. Now that I’ve had my daughter and I am getting divorced, people are telling me they knew, well, why didn’t you tell me?! I believe that the people who knew, but still watched me get married to him, are just as guilty as he is. Afterwards I realised his younger sister tried to tell me once, but she was too afraid and I didn’t read between the lines. I will never forgive everyone else, I pray Allah mere insaf kare, but I have forgiven his sister. It must have been hard for her, and I understand her fears, but at least she tried. She knew what was going on was wrong, and she tried to warn me.

If you really think what is going on it wrong, you will find a way to tell her. An anonymous email. Anything.

Thank you so very much for sharing your story so openly here. It takes courage to do that. May Allah swt give you courage to deal with the challenges you face and peace to accept the path that He has chosen for you, ameen.

I would like to know…would an anonymous email have worked for you? Would you have backed out or would you have put more trust and confidence in the word of your inlaws and relatives?