to have found and lost :(

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The avatar - the Profile picture and the Nick don't have anything common .. :p .. the only thing in common is that they all are robots .. :p .. emotionless ..

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I agree with this…

But, honestly, I think there’s a big chance CM is right.

Did this guy have your phone number that he could have called or texted you? Or does he have you added on AIM, facebook, etc.? If he liked you, he would have stayed in touch somehow during the months you haven’t seen him. Even if he simply texted you every now and then, asking how you’re doing. Either you gave him very clear rejection signals or a friend told him that you’re not interested… so he moved on. :bummer:

But I guess you can go ahead and take the chance. Call him and ask him how he’s doing. Don’t call him and say, “Please, propose to me before I get engaged.” If you do that, you’re going to make it pretty obvious you don’t know how to interact with guys.
There could be some factors that might still prevent him from proposing, even if he does still like you… like age (if he’s too young?), job, etc.

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A little OT but whats so wrong about a girl telling a guy she likes him? I mean you girls talk about equal rights and all, so why not crank it up and be up par with your feelings too. I dont see anything wrong with it, and please dont give me that 'but girls dont do that' excuse. ,

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jesus!!

so what is this whole thread about ??

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@ soundarya: I am gonna send you a pm.

@ spock: I don't know, I know a few girls who did propose first...but I cant do that..

@ Monk: He is just a guy who likes me and vice verca, not my bf...yet.

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haha...

people let her do it!if he's already taken or whatever, she'll find out!

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Thanks a lot for the replies everyone...this whole scenario was really entangled in my head and I couldn't see through a lot of things. Now I at least have a fresh take on this. And I am gonna take initiative now!

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super! :D

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We just like to be pursued and think the guy should reveal his feelings first. :snooty:

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hey pink i am sorry about how u feel:bummer:

Your situation reminds me of some poetry, here am posting it if u dun mind..:slight_smile:

**Gaye dino ki haseen yaad ab satati hai

jab ek ajnabi chehra mera deewana tha

wo chup k dekhta rehta tha

…pyar krta tha

wo mujh ko chahta tha

mujh se mujh ko mangta tha

magr…

khabr na hui mujh ko us ki mohabbat ki

ya jaan boojh kr anjaan ban k bethi rahi

wo ab nahi hai to palkien hamari bhigien hain

jo ansoo gaal pe behta hai,mjhe kehta hai

Tu usko chahti thi per tujh ko khabr na hui…**

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Ok, I would say you call him up casually and see where things go from there.

Last night, I contacted my crush from a decade ago. Yup. I don’t have any feelings for him, but those days, in my head, are very innocent and sweet and I guess I wanted to have a real taste of it, somehow. Or at least just be able to share that with him and laugh at ourselves (read: me) together.

He responded this morning saying that he doesn’t remember me :p. (I am quite ok with it, though.)

Just telling my story because it is kindddd of similar and funny.

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^^oh my god that's funny kind of b/c I could relate to that!! When I was in 3rd grade I had a crush on this dude. I moved. He moved. and I saw him in my high school around 7 years later. I remembered him so, I go up to him, and ask him what school he use to go to etc... and I told him how we were in the same class, but he didn't remember me. Now, we're great friends! LOL

and I think you should call him, talk to him, and ask him out to eat/ drink something. If you like him, then just make the move by telling him or you will still have the "what if's" if he doesn't like you, oh well it's not like you have to live with him, so who cares about the embarrassment?

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@ neha: that’s nice poetry, thanks for sharing :slight_smile: but I haven’t developed such strong feelings for him. Its just that he was the perfect match for me, it might be that the guy my parents pick for me is an even better match. I would have nothing to regret if that happens :halo: but the chances are low that it would, this is whats bothering me.

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@ curious lady and honeybee: lol, thanks for sharing you stories…i love the positivity :smiley: and honeybee you are so right in your last comment! :stuck_out_tongue:

The update is that I just found out he went abroad a few months back for a long vacation…so since I cant call him now, i’ll send him a msg on fb..

I just remembered something which is funny and sad at the same time…

He called me some while ago before he went abroad to congratulate me on an achievement everyone knew about…I was overwhelmed that he did, we talked for a few mins and had a nice casual conversation …but here comes the bad part…my stupid network was very much dead and I couldn’t hear him right and neither could he so after every few seconds he would have to say “hello” and I would say “awaz arai hai?” :bummer: If it weren’t for my dumb network I would have made so much out of that conversation :aj: it was so awkward

Later a friend called and hearing my voice on the phone she couldn’t stop laughing and I was like whats wrong!..then she called me on my landline and told me I sounded like donald duck on my cell and she couldn’t understand a word :eek:

no wonder he didn’t say much… :bummer:

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pinkkjinX

You have picked the tougher choice. And it is not easy as you can see from the other threads on this forum. Your parents might not agree. His parents might not agree. He may turn out to be a totally different guy. He may have other relationships. He may change. etc etc. But all the best!

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My problem is everything but these...I don't have to worry about any of this cuz I know its gonna work out once we clear the misunderstandings,even if it doesn't work out i'm cool..at least i'll know! the only problem is communicating everything to him in the best possible way...

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Yes. I agree. If I were you, I would have tried at least. So wouldn't have any regrets that I could've but didn't. But no matter how cool you are either result may be difficult to face. And my concern is, you should be ready to face it and let is pass by the passage of time.

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^ thanks for the advice :)

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You will be fine.

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Grow a pair and tell him straight.

Men are dumb, you have to say it straight.

My fiance didn’t have the guts to tell me, same situation as yours ( minus the whole status/ richness thing … families are equivalent, educated and in the UK dosen’t work like that!)

I had to give him a path to walk on to tell me how he felt. I spoke about my cousin and this guy she really liked. Long story short i told my fiance that its a shame when 2 people who love each other don’t declare their love or show that they can build a future together ( a good rishta came for my cousin and thus the situation )

Its always a what if situation. Forget it , why cry the rest of your life when all it took was a small sentence for you to all reveal your feelings?

i can understand you don’t want to say anything, but make up a story and tell the guy and say something like … if that was me i would wan’t to know but girls can’t obviously say that they like a guy, a guy should take the first step.

But if your confident enough, tell him! whats the worst that is going to happen? he won’t talk to you ever again? SO what that would happen if you get married to someone else or he does!