Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
You are way too focused on the little niggly bits !!! look at the bigger picture girly!
Be a bit more laid back, STOP overthinking each conversation. It will do you wonders....
i'm sure you are intelligent enough to work out if you guys dig each other's sense of humour or not. Don't base it on one joke! LOL
Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
Ello Ello Ello.
I am eating bangers and mash and waving at the queen while admiring my awful teeth.
Spoke to the old chap over the phone last night.
It was all going well until he spent 30 mins explaining how he loves to spend sundays playing fantasy football for 12 hours and then i got confused because i thought he meant REAL football ( as in soccer) :P
Anyway of course I will give him a chance but he needs to get these silly tea and crumpets stereotypes out of his head.
Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
Hmm weird, I can sense some Asperger's on both sides...
Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
Healthcare in the US sucks, at least from what I've heard.
Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
Well we brits do like our sarcastic remakes but they are rude. There is a reason why sarcasm is called the lowest form of wit.
When you use that (violin) comment, you are belittling or making fun of someone's complaint or misfortune. That's all very well amongst friends and stuff but with someone you don't know very well.....
If I met someone who was being sarcastic with me when we barely knew each other I'd think "what a.........."
Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
My Lahori Pakistani wife also never understood the funny side of sarcasm, I suspected she was getting annoyed or taking it the wrong way so I stopped being sarcastic with her.
I explained it was British humour and gave a few examples but still I dont think she appreciated any sarcasm directed towards her personally. Her thoughts where that a husband and wife should not say 'negative' things to each other. I will definatly be introducing sarcasm (along with some other things I think she may not understand yet) slowly into our lives :)
Personally I dont think you will be a good match with this guy, plus I dont think you could control your sarcasm :)
Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
geez if my man did get my soh, and I wasn't able to be sarcastic (I love Brit humour!), there would be a problem...and yes, I can tell you that there can be a problem, it's not all about material things. I was trying to explain to one Canadian rishta how Nelson Mandela is an icon and in the same ranks as Gandhi...the "educated" asshole couldn't fathom it. I swear it sounds weird, but that was a deal-breaker for me!
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Of course we don’t, cos we have our own rude boi language
you get me?
Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
Also inspiron, I think it's just awkward and the culture differences seems bigger cos you don't know each other. Once you got to know each other's personality a bit better, it's easy to understand the jokes etc etc.
Maybe just tell him not to overanalyse and take everything with a pinch of salt
Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
take everything with a pinch of salt
The American diet is already high in salt, I dont think you should encourage more salt intake.
Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
I think more than a cultural divide it is a personal divide, I like you inspir have the typical british sarcy, witty humour and some people just don't get it.. It grows on you.
It seems like he has a few insecurities and it is causing him to be sensitive in what you say
ps.. Communication over the phone can be really difficult due to the lack of facial expressions. A lot of things I have said to the other half over the phone have been taken out of context.
I think you need to worry less and go with the flow and tell him to do the same :)
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Also
Totally agree with stoppit! You have to
Maintain a certain amount of formality with him, as in you guys are not overly familiar with each yet hence, haven't identified humour boundaries ie what offends each other yet! Sarcasm at this early stage is fine but poking fun at one another isn't as it's just too early... Just be wary of getting over familiar so early on!! How can he know what you find funny!? How can you know he's an uptight arse based on two conversations ? It simply is very naive to
Think like that ! Just chill out, get to know him
And time will reveal sense of humour traits ... He's not your man as yet so he doesn't have to get your jokes... Yet!!!
Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
this thread is funnyyy ;x
Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
Too micro level.
Take yourself a level above. Evaluate him as a human being first and not as umreeekan aur angraiz or paindoo.
You can live with a person with bad sense of humor but not with a person who is not a good human being unless of course you had crush on Umer Sharif at some point in time.
Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
It was all going well until he spent 30 mins explaining how he loves to spend sundays playing fantasy football for 12 hours .
Are you a major sports fan and open to loving football ("American" football)? If not, then this part would worry me a lot more than that humor issues. I know some really hardcore football fans who do this religiously.....and in cases where the spouse doesn't share that passion, issues arise.
As others have already mentioned.....you're being nitpicky. It'll take time for both of you to understand each other. Although both of us grew up in the U.S., many times my hubby doesn't get my humor and gives me a blank stare when I make a joke. :)
Look at the big picture and focus on other things that will have a much bigger impact on your daily life if you were living with him. Good luck!!! :)
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Hope this rishta works out for you, and you get to get laid fast. The desperation is getting unbearable for me to behold. :(
Bring on all the tamatars y'all sane minds.
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this thread is funny lolss
12 hours playing fantasy football?
Dyamn...red alert red alert.
Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
I like him already..ask him if he’s a Cowboys fan 
Re: This is really really silly but talk some sense into me ( rishta scenario)
12 hours playing fantasy football? Dyamn...red alert red alert.
Agreed. I will say, taken with other "flags", this might say something about being socially awkward.
My relos in the US play fantasy football, but not 12 hours a week and they go outside and play touch football as well.
Inspi, try to gage other information about him. Is he physically active or does he have outside interests and hobbies? What does he do during his down-time? Does he have a circle of friends? What do the friends do together? How does he describe his work environment? Interest in travel?
You just want to see if you click as friends - whether you've got enough in common to be able to communicate about life together and enjoy the life together.