Things no one told me about pregnancy, child birth and parenting

[radiant_light]

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@Demesne

Things you need to know:
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Do not use dyes or bleaches or polishers during pregnancy.
Do not miss wellness checks every month.
Babies can get dehydrated very quickly, within a day. Do not ignore if baby is throwing up or pooping a lot. Keep an eye on hydration and immediately show doctor.
Do not treat your baby as if he/she is made of porcelain. He/she will take cues from you. If they fall or bump a head or get hurt, don’t show an overreaction, wait for theirs. And soothe and comfort them in a smiling manner and let go again so that they learn it’s nothing serious.
Do not prolong goodbyes when going somewhere while leaving baby with a family member or caregiver. The more lightly you take it, the more lightly baby will take it.
Do not underestimate the power of a loving hug, or a close up smile for your baby.
GET OUT FOR A WALK WITH BABY IN STROLLER SOON AS YOU CAN OTHERWISE YOU WILL GO STARK RAVING MAD!**

Isn’t bleaching ok to do in pregnancy?

[SpiceGirl]

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@somegroovychick

YES. the more physically fit you are, the easier your delivery they say, and the faster your recovery.
walking, running, using weights, doing aerobics or the treadmill… whatever. eat healthy, eat well. take your pre-natal vitamins and folic acid.
do perineal massage to prevent tearing.
and in terms of being active, do as much as you can with and without baby on board. your doctor should be able to guide you best taking into consideration how physically fit you are.

mmm…just by reading all the responses Im still dreading it. Adoption sounds like a better option lol

Has anyone done a perineal massage - does it work? How often etc?

[somegroovychick]

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@amaya

my baby of 8 months seems dehydrated.he dont drink water much. and his urine is yellow. wt do i do?
should i talk to doc?

8 month old babies don’t drink that much water anyway. Call your doctor immediately!

[Demilitarize]

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@heydou

Dear where were you 5 months back i swear no one explained this so easy and wonderful as you did. Though its late but im thankfull. My baby is almost 6 months now n i no more swaddle her can i still do somthing?

@heydou

Dear where were you 5 months back i swear no one explained this so easy and wonderful as you did. Though its late but im thankfull. My baby is almost 6 months now n i no more swaddle her can i still do somthing?

This happened to a cousin of mine. The mom totally ruined his head and he looked like an alien. He was around the same age as your baby. What my nani did was more extreme than what I did, but she worked with harder bones so I guess that was reason. She would make him lie with head on harder surface than just a book. She used a “pirch”, meaning a tea cup plate or saucer. And she ignored his crying. I don’t know how she kept him still in it. My advice is, OIL his head, wait till he is deep asleep (I know babies do sleep for upto six hours at this age at least once a day)

OILING makes bones softer or whatever. Helps in head shaping.

If I can guess, I know his head is probably “long” now. What you do is, put a roll of towel under his neck when asleep on his back. That will tip the head BACK, and then lie him back with tip of head touching the headboard, or any firm wall behind FIRMLY.

You are his mom. It is YOUR job to help the baby. Try this. You can do it. All is NOT lost. At least you can fix it a bit.

And ALWAYS make him sleep flat on his back with head on something hard. Whenever he is asleep adjust his head so it is facing the ceiling. These things may help situation somewhat if not completely.

And five months back I was shaping my own baby’s head hehe. Sorry! He is seven months now

[Demilitarize]

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@radiant_light

Isn’t bleaching ok to do in pregnancy?

NO. toxic chemicals.

[cat-woman]

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@Demesne

FROM ONE MOM TO ANOTHER:

It is important that you shape your baby’s head, whether you want to hear this or not. I was also told a lot to do it and this is my first child and I didn’t like being constantly criticised, but I managed within three months and I can share that experience.

IF you swaddle your baby, he/she will sleep better. ONCE asleep, put baby on bed on their back with head on a flat hard surface like a slim hardcover book. put a roll of facetowel on either side of head so that baby doesn’t turn head during sleep, GET A SWADDLE ME if you are in the UK or USA or even europe! It helps a LOT in swaddling tightly.

You can shape head upto six months, all is not lost. Easiest to do it within first few months and then just don’t ruin the shape!

How can you ruin shape? By allowing baby’s head to rest on the crook of your arm when you feed or pick him up! Cup his head in a hand when you have him lying in your lap!

D can you give pics for this?

[ashmz1]

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@Demesne

NO. toxic chemicals.

Is it safe to use hair dye when I

[cat-woman]

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Well…it doesn’t seem too bad lol but still makes me laugh:

Perineal Massage DVD.mpg - YouTube

Perineal massage

:cb: sorry, sharam ati hai

[alishaht]

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How does a shaped head look like? Any pics?

[Demilitarize]

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alishaht, a shaped head should be “baitha howa” meaning “sitting”. Means the back of the head, entire back, should not bulge outwards too much. If you note, we have a bony protuberance at base of the skull called the occiput. In some people it protrudes too much. That should not be there. And not should the head look conical from the top:

Compare these two pictures for reference.

[Demilitarize]

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Basically in head shaping, you keep kid flat on back for first three months, Back of head goes totally flat then like picture on left. But it shouldn’t prorude to the top. Then when the kid begins tummy time, some slight roundness comes to the back of the head, though not as much as picture on right.

There are TWO factors of headshaping girls. ONE, shaping head itself. TWO and MORE important, NOT RUINING A GOOD SHAPE by allowing baby to sleep on one side too much, by supporting head in crook of elbow while picking up (cup head in a hand instead)

[Demilitarize]

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@cat-woman

D can you give pics for this?

Here are pics for the swaddle me. Sending u others on fb

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[Chaachi]

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How everyone will come pushing you to do things their way and their stories of "hum to aise kertay thay.."will never end.

How you will be criticized for everything you do differently than the norm. Be prepared to take a stand.

[rutab]

You can almost completely avoid the late pregnancy back pain between your shoulder blades that’s brought on by the bulging tummy. How? Wear a maternity belt! Honestly its such a life savor. I started wearing one near the end of my seventh month for both pregnancies and it seriously makes a world of difference.

And any day that I forget to put it on, I can feel the pain at the end of the day which makes me appreciate the belt all the more.

[gupper.shupper]

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-Morning sickness lasts all day and night.
-Digestion trouble.
-Gas!!!
-Diarrhea
-You may end up hating even the sight of food you once enjoyed!
-What pregnancy glow? I am dealing with more breakouts here!
-You will probably consider taking your pillow to the bathroom and sleep there at night.
-Too many unwanted suggestions like don’t clean your bathroom when pregnant. Ermm, ok lady, I can’t use a bathroom that has not been cleaned up for months.
-Nag your doctors/medical staff for more care if you feel you need it. Nothing wrong with it.
-You should call your doctor or go to the Emergency if you notice any spotting. Pain or no pain. Just do that.

[gupper.shupper]

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Oh, and there is nothing glamourous about pregnancy and labor like on TV and movies.

[rizwanyounis516]

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Very true @all comments

[rabia3983]

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So looking pretty glamorous is during labor is possible:

Woman Applies Full-Face Makeup While In Labour

[HSN05]

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1- worst digestion issues
2- heartburn in last trimester
3- gallstones due to increased levels of progestron
4- worst worst and worst ligament pains
5- dark skin colour
6- pain of stitches after c section

[gupper.shupper]

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-Constipation!!! Psyllium husk (ispaghol) and qehwa really help though.
-Dry, flaky, sensitive skin (still no glow!)
-Avoid hot water on belly, hot baths/showers.
-Belly pops out much slower if you are a FTM, because muscles are stronger.
-You can actually feel your heart beat in your stomach! It is not the baby, but your own heartbeat apparently. :\