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You need to get over it if things don’t go your way. No matter how much you plan things going a particular way, you may just end up with a c sec. Get over it and move on
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Sounds like you need a night out with your hubs, without the kids!
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People only talk about labour and delivery…but no one told me how hard the recovery period and breastfeeding can be and also how much work it is to care for a newborn, esp the first 2 weeks!
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My sister was telling me about not going to the loo for 10 days…and how horrific that was with all the stitches she had…
Also, she was telling me to get a sitz bath for healing stitches…I think a normal bath with salt will be fine?
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^ yes. here the hospital will give you a sitz bath .not sure about there. but a regular bath is fine too. you just might not be able to do that as easily or as regularly.
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I had third degree tear. I used to dread going to the bathroom. It was very very painful almost as painful as labor 
just thinking about it gives me shivers
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^ scary.
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Yeah things are different in the US. After a long labor all I wanted was to be left alone… without my baby but the nurse won’t hear no.. She kept putting my son on my chest. And SGC maybe you are right but my son didn’t need anything. He hated my boobs.. hated bf .. no paci and no thumb sucking. All he needed was a nice cold bottle of milk before night time sleep. Personally I am slightly against pacifier, but I really don’t have a good reasoning for it. Just a preference.
I gave birth in the US, for both babies they actually came to my room the second night and asked if we would like him to be in the nursery and gave us the option to bring him to be nursed or be given the bottle. I am surprised they gave a bottle in Pakistan, I have found them to be very anti bottle, even negatively so!! Not everyone can nurse.
3rd degree tear here also and wanted to be alone n wanted some sleep but didnt get any till yet
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No one ever told me:
How my life will never, ever be the same to pre baby!
How I would not get everything right each time, and that it did not matter if things were not PERFECT!
How I would see my own Mother in a whole new light ! And think wow, my own Mom is just so wonderful! And how I would miss her so much when things weren’t going quite so smoothly for me and baby!
How much you will love that child ,and the fierce love and protectiveness you will feel for someone you just met! You will stand in front of a train if need be for this new addition in your life.
How after the most miserable and horrific childbirth, you will go through pregnancy and childbirth all over again!
No one told me how to make babys head and that if i wont do that it will be considered my biggest mistake. Everyone thinks its thier right to criticise
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Things you need to know:
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Do not use dyes or bleaches or polishers during pregnancy.
Do not miss wellness checks every month.
Babies can get dehydrated very quickly, within a day. Do not ignore if baby is throwing up or pooping a lot. Keep an eye on hydration and immediately show doctor.
Do not treat your baby as if he/she is made of porcelain. He/she will take cues from you. If they fall or bump a head or get hurt, don’t show an overreaction, wait for theirs. And soothe and comfort them in a smiling manner and let go again so that they learn it’s nothing serious.
Do not prolong goodbyes when going somewhere while leaving baby with a family member or caregiver. The more lightly you take it, the more lightly baby will take it.
Do not underestimate the power of a loving hug, or a close up smile for your baby.
GET OUT FOR A WALK WITH BABY IN STROLLER SOON AS YOU CAN OTHERWISE YOU WILL GO STARK RAVING MAD!**
OMG I totally hear you. My first baby was born with a long head and everyone kept coaching us and preaching to us about making her head. But I couldn’t get her to stay asleep on the bed. So she would always be held during sleep and we couldn’t really get her head to round up.
Even now that she’s almost 2 people comment on how we failed at property shaping her head
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FROM ONE MOM TO ANOTHER:
It is important that you shape your baby’s head, whether you want to hear this or not. I was also told a lot to do it and this is my first child and I didn’t like being constantly criticised, but I managed within three months and I can share that experience.
IF you swaddle your baby, he/she will sleep better. ONCE asleep, put baby on bed on their back with head on a flat hard surface like a slim hardcover book. put a roll of facetowel on either side of head so that baby doesn’t turn head during sleep, GET A SWADDLE ME if you are in the UK or USA or even europe! It helps a LOT in swaddling tightly.
You can shape head upto six months, all is not lost. Easiest to do it within first few months and then just don’t ruin the shape!
How can you ruin shape? By allowing baby’s head to rest on the crook of your arm when you feed or pick him up! Cup his head in a hand when you have him lying in your lap!
Dear where were you 5 months back i swear no one explained this so easy and wonderful as you did. Though its late but im thankfull. My baby is almost 6 months now n i no more swaddle her can i still do somthing?
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well nice thread , lots of thngs that mention here still dont knw related to delievery.
no one told me abut fake pains feelng.i remembered i couldnt sleep one night caz i feel pains in my lower area of belly . and i was thinkng whole night may be something wrong in movement. rest of the time i passed , was fine.
no fake pains i felt in last month, so went through c-sec. it was epi. and one told me that i hv to face severe headache. i cant sit whenevr i sit for bf or eating, pain become too severe and i felt almost 4-5 days.
i eat bread, milk and egg for 10 days after sec. due to this , i didnt feel pain of stiching .and plus point is that, my belly wasnt fat.
starting of breast feeding may be difficult for 2 days as baby dont how to suck. but after this was fine. Nw baby is 8 months and hv teething and nw he bites sometime lol.
most terrible problem that i am facing now is toilet training. my MIL saying from 6 months of baby , do start to him. anyone hv suggesstion. i dont keep him pamper all time. i leave him without pamper 2-3 hours daily.. when do u start ur baby this training??
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I hv listened all techniques and ideas abut head shaping. and i am successfull in it.
I think first 40 days r best to make it. after that try to keep it gud.
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my baby of 8 months seems dehydrated.he dont drink water much. and his urine is yellow. wt do i do?
should i talk to doc?
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Yes you should talk to your doctor! That’s the first thing you should do. Now go call her.
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Haha love this threads heading!! So no one told me how awful “morning sickness” can get. I developed severe hyperemesis in my first pregnancy, vomiting ten plus times a day and lost 20 pounds in three weeks!! My idiotic ob (never go to a desi ob ever ever ever) kept saying this is normal in pregnancy go eat ice cream. Erm no woman I can’t even drink water! Needless to say I had three hospital stays from dehydration and malnutrition, countless ER trips until I finally started to feel a little normal again at 16 weeks. Oh and no one told me how BAD desi obs are! All she talked about was her bills during my appointments when I was half dead from puking my brains out. Then she said she can’t see me anymore because the ER keeps calling her at odd times during the night whenever I go to the ER. Good riddance! I paid out of pocket and saw someone better, but unfortunately my pregnancy resulted in premature rupture of membranes at 18 weeks and my son couldn’t survive. Another thing I never knew was how dangerous An incompetent cervix can be and after my loss I can never have a blissful carefree pregnancy anymore. Alhumdulalilah I’m pregnant again and had to do a lot of research, seek out a high risk ob and demand certain procedures.