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Well, I appreciate you wernt directing at me. But I did not intend to harp on. I was only aiding the purpose of this thread, aplogies for misjudging your knowledge.
Yes, I agree eveyrbody has innate urges, but all I was emphazizing is that as men have much higher sexual innate urges than women, and as they have less socially damaging consequecnes than women, you will see them less willing to control themselves and excercising more.
Thats all i was trying to say.
Glad, You may already know this, but apparently the thread is asking for the causes I am addressing.
Well, I appreciate you wernt directing at me. But I did not intend to harp on. I was only aiding the purpose of this thread, aplogies for misjudging your knowledge.
Yes, I agree eveyrbody has innate urges, but all I was emphazizing is that as men have much higher sexual innate urges than women, and as they have less socially damaging consequecnes than women, you will see them less willing to control themselves and excercising more.
Thats all i was trying to say. Glad, You may already know this, but apparently the thread is asking for the causes I am addressing.
If you look at several threads in the life forum created by women about various relationship issues............many of the women have mentioned that desi society tends to persecute them for things that men can easily get away with little to no consequences. Most of the women (not just me) are already aware of the limitations within our culture. Most desi girls have grown up with their parents saying "log kya kahain gay" if they stay out even 5 minutes later than usual, or dress a certain way, or are seen talking to a guy, etc etc etc.
It's not news to us desi girls that men have less socially damaging consequences. It's not news to us that this allows men to get away with more. It's not news to us that this is the main reason why even parents allow their sons more freedom.
The point is that you've talked about "difficult to control urges" and "polygamous inclinations" NUMEROUS times in several other threads. I'm not trying to prevent you from talking about whatever you want in threads because I don't have the authority. But when a person talks about the same topic frequently, people can wonder if it might be an obsession. If you're comfortable with the possibility of sending across that image, then more power to you.
OK RV I understand and have tooken onboard your points.
I just felt there was a need to somewhere address this issue from the root.
I did not know there wasnt a need for it.
Thanks for making me aware.
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^ I wasn't saying that there wasn't a need for it. I just said that most women know about it to some extent. And I was just saying that you have to be careful because when you talk about the same issue numerous times...your sending out an impression of yourself. Maybe I wasn't clear enough. My point was frequency not necessarily the content/information.
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Ye i understand. Society is cruel to women but not to men. Society should also place greater emphasis on men to realise the importance of chastity and self-control.
If Allah has given us urges than he has also laid down methods of control.
You known something Amir saheb....I find it really disturbing that you would be identifying one of the "root causes" for the "benefit of women".
Why would you not identify this obviously controllable and avoidable cause to benefit men?
Wouldn't you think that it would be more beneficial to bring this reason to the attention of men so that they can correct their "natural and innate" tendencies that drive them towards a greater need for sex than women?
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Why does every controversial thread go straight down in the ground?
Why does every controversial thread go straight down in the ground?
Did the thread go down in the ground?
What makes you say that?
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yes. men have very intense *emotional *needs 
ALL gender's need to WAKE UP, and get over yourself and your pride/needs and DO YOUR JOB as husbands and wives!
As a wife, get over yourself, stop saying "why does the wife need to do everything," and your fears of your husband cheating on you and do YOUR JOB of making him happy. Why not put yourself in his shoes for a second, and think about his needs and wants. Just maybe, your might be depriving him of something*(not only sex). God give you the right to be sexy and being able to attract any man if you wanted, and on top of all of that we as women can make any man ours, if we use what god gave us in the right manner, so **WHY NOT USE THAT ON YOUR HUSBAND*????
As a husband control your dingdongs for just a second, and THINK, JUST THINK, how will your cheating/getting married again effect your wife, childern, your mother, her mother, and soo on. The world does not revolve around YOU, instead there are feeling being hurt when you>> DON'T THINK FROM YOUR BRAIN BUT FROM YOUR DINGDINGS! IT IS NOT UNCONTROLLABLE but you choose not to control yourself, MEN WHO CHEAT/GET MARRIED AGAIN ARE DESPICABLE HUMANS, AND DON'T DESERVE A WOMEN WHO WILL GROW OLD WITH THEM, AND GIVE THEM CHILDREN.
So both you husbands and wives out there, GET OVER YOURSELF AND START BEING THERE FOR ONE ANOTHER.
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Men cheat because they are able to find two girls that can let them cheat
Ok Muzna I take your point. Im sorry I just had the need to share something shocking i found out recently. I have been reading and getting confused on the pious predessesors promiscuous practices for a while, and when finally bumping into some base behind it I just had to share.
I benefitted from that new knowledge and thought maybe so could others.
Regarding self-control, what can I do about this. start a new topic for 'mens self-control'.
Even If I tried that, I dont think it would be much use because firstly there are only a few men in lifestyle and secondly because I think most of the men here are ok.
But maybe the ladies could benefit from increasing thier knowledge, as at the end of the day it is the women who are most affected by cheating phenomenon.
And I tell you upfront truth. I know this hurts but it is not 'mens' entire fault why they go round two-timing.
If women also maintained strict obedience to Allahs rules and orders and showed less of thier attractive selves then wouldnt thier be less problems?
So talking about control Muzna.... Yes men are obligated to control themslves and lower thier gazes, but modern women should also furfill thier obligation to cover thier beauty, which they dont.
Regarding 'men and self-control', when there is a thread on it, then we can talk.
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Amir saheb...I wonder if this is simply a language or communication issue or if you are truly as opinionated as you come across.
There is enough fodder in your post to launch several threads that would benefit many men. Let me just say this for now.....if men would lower their gazes it wouldn't matter how women dressed. (Saying this does not in anyway suggest or condone immodest attire on the part of women.)
I just don't have the time right now. Perhaps later this evening I will come back to this......
Meanwhile....where is redvelvet........
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You know by saying 'if men just lowered thier gazes', does not require women to dress modestly is utterly foolish.
Its like saying the verse that Allah revealed in the koran that orders for women to 'cover thier ornaments' is unnneceserry as the verse preceding it already ordered men to 'lower thier gazes'.
Even addressing it from your foolish opinion:
lets say men did act like that and lowered thier gazes, and women carried on dressing how they felt like since it didnt matter.
Even in this case, men would still be confronted with the beauty of many women during thier daily business, as at many times during your daily works you NEED to look at people of whom many are women.
So even in your scenario men would still unavoidebly be confronted by many women and thier beauty.
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Did you read the entire post before you blew your stack?
You know by saying 'if men just lowered thier gazes', does not require women to dress modestly is utterly foolish.
Even addressing it from your foolish opinion:
I advice u to keep your tone in control,. This tone is exactly the reason why people get warnings
OK cool TLK, shall watch that,
Yes Muzna, i read your post fully.
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thanks man, appreciate it
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Thanks TLK......I'm not offended by his tone. It just shows that there is so much more to be discussed.
Amir, if you read my post fully then why would you say what you did?
I believe that my words are pretty clear.
Perhaps you can elaborate on what you think I mean when I say:
Let me just say this for now.....if men would lower their gazes it wouldn't matter how women dressed. (Saying this does not in anyway suggest or condone immodest attire on the part of women.)
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