I think some of u may know my story…but in breif someone was in my life for 3 years, it all went a bit wrong…his decision…and he left me…i was very very very upset and desperately wanted him back…but i started concentrating on myself and found a new love for my life and realised i could do so so so much better…he was very confusing throughout…wanted me back then didnt want me…but we all went off back home for summer and i am about to return to uni tomrow
BUT.
This ex calls me…i have just got off the phone to him…he was crying and begging me to take him back and he has changed and realised his mistakes and he will make me happy etc etc…i still care for him so his crying made me very upset BUT i still said no, i dont want to get back together because he didnt treat me right and i like my free life atm and i want to live out my youth.
Now the problem is…we have to work closely together in the hospital and there is no getting out of it…and im fine now…but im worried about how i will be when i see him!!! Im worried i will get upset or it wll really awkward.
Also im a bit nervous about going back because i lost loads of friends because of him and want to rekindle my friendships and make new friends inshallah.
overall im kinda worried about being a bit lonely…i live away from home, no ‘bf’ and have to make new friends, i am a social and outgoing person but its like first day of uni all over again!
Ignore him, dont cave no matter how much he sweet talks you or promises you that he's changed.... talk to him if work requires it to do so... and dont be nervous... he's got more to be nervous about than you do, and I doubt he's fretting....just be yourself and you'll be fine! Wish you the best :)
CM is right.
IGNORE HIM and live your life. You don't need to go through the unnecessary stress and turmoil all over again. I know med school, residency and the hospital hours can be very difficult (going through it myself) so just deal with that and stay focused. He WILL move on.
Your x needs to sort out his feelings. He needs to figure out if he "wants you back" because he misses the chase......he misses the attention you gave him.......he misses his ego boost.......OR is it because he truly values you and loves you.
Also, if he does indeed love you......he'll respect your wishes to remain just friends at the moment.....and he won't try to manipulate you into getting back with him through tears (no matter how genuine they may seem).
The thing is that.......tears/crying don't necessarily prove that he has learned his lesson: RESPECTING YOU. If he's going to prove to you that he has indeed changed.....crying is not a good indication. It would have to be through actions of respect/consideration/support, etc.
And most importantly, how do **YOU **feel about your x? Are you totally and completely over him to the extent that you have absolutely no desire or interest to start a romantic relationship with him? If that's the case, then let him know because being honest with him is better than him continuing to have hope.
On the other hand.....if you STILL want to consider the possibility of having him as a future partner.................then let him know that for right now you want to take things slow and start of as as friends and that you'll see how it goes. And just observe the way that he treats you. This will give you an idea of what path you want to choose in life. Don't enter any romantic relationships.....don't make any commitments.......just see how he behaves........and if HE is truly interested.......then HE should bring his parents to your home and propose formally WITHOUT you having to prompt him.
Also........be careful around him considering his track record of disrespecting you and walking out on you.
dude stop it. give him a big slap. tell him stop following you around.. call 911, file a case against him. tell him about the grave sin he's committing.. etc etc..
Right. Reminding men of grave sins really gets them in line. Just look at the tremendous number of male virgins out there...
Anyway, they dont change. He, like many normal people, is hitting the panic button because 1) he realizes he doesn't have too many good chances in the near future and he just blew the one chance he had and 2) maybe he desires something physical and is looking to make a fool out of some girl out there. Either way, if he ain't putting a rock on the finger, he ain't fo' real.
sometimes, as evidenced by the plethora of threads on GS on bad husbands and boyfriends, putting a ring on a finger and signing a nikkahnama is just as meaningless to some.
Men dont change...getting into a relationship thinking "he will change" is the biggest mistake anyone can ever make.
sometimes, as evidenced by the plethora of threads on GS on bad husbands and boyfriends, putting a ring on a finger and signing a nikkahnama is just as meaningless to some.
I agree with the person who said you should slap him, but only for being a dramatic crying fool, after slap him, say "Have some dignity man!!" or "chal hat kambakhat maaray"
omg. My mother made me watch a pakistani drama serial with an old woman who said that ALL THE TIME and now our joke-wala catch phrase is a cross between that and Toose this, instead of eat.
No guy changes. However we are very convincing liars.
I totally agree with the above statement. they're convincing liars!!! and know very well how to trap girls with sweet talks.. So, stay away and ignore him - IMO