I know he wont change no matter how much he begs/cries which is why i said no to him about us getting back together...or whatever u want to call it..
Im just super nervous about seeing him again and working with him and i dont know why...and its not good nervous!
He was very spiteful in some his conversation with me saying things like....
'its so easy for you, you can just go and find someone better, you dont care about me' and he said things like ' i dont want to see you because i cant see you happy while i feel dead inside'
Saying things like that shows that he doesnt really respect me right?
Im off to uni now!!! i dont want to leave my mummy :( so ill reply properly when i get back to my appartment!
Dudess, Make sure you find a mature guy to "live out" your "youth" with.
Then tell new guy every bit of your past, and your feelings about last dude(now consider those feeling as your weakness)
Ask for help!!!! from new dude. If he loves you he would. If he is "enjoying" you "living out" your "youth" with him--then he wont get too involved. And chances are he would cut him self lose and run, when your baggage become a headache for him.
It doesn't seem like you have maturity to see or identify when you are getting abuse/use.
I have feeling you are going to collect lot more baggage on way to hmmmm getting mature.
But hey, its "living out"
He was very spiteful in some his conversation with me saying things like....
'its so easy for you, you can just go and find someone better, you dont care about me' and he said things like ' i dont want to see you because i cant see you happy while i feel dead inside'
Saying things like that shows that he doesnt really respect me right?
Nope, he's not respecting you, so stick to your plan of moving on with your life. You're a med school student and that in itself requires so much concentration and dedication. Don't get side-tracked from your goals because of him.
He's saying things like that in order to make you feel guilty so that you'll come back to him. Basically it's a manipulative guilt-trip strategy, don't fall for it. As I said earlier, if a guy truly has changed (which is hard to do).........he will prove it through consistently positive actions..........and crying/guilting is not one of them!
Also, I noticed something interesting. I remembered in one of your older threads, you had written how your x thought you weren't good looking enough for him.....and that he (perhaps from the influence of his male friends) thought he could do better than you by checking out other girls out there. AND NOW he's crying on the phone and bitterly saying that YOU will end up finding someone "better" than him. **Oh how the tables have turned!!!!!!!!!!!!! **What goes around really does come around, eh? He has found himself in the same situation that he once put you in.
alvena honney…hey please … ur too good for him… he had his chance.. he lost u thru his own stupidilty.. dont look back .. inshallah u will find the person that wil love, cherish , respect you as u so deserve…
Its emotional blackmail to some extent, but you have to decide if you want to be with someone insecure. Sounds like he's insecure and could benefit from a good friend. So, you could be a good friend. But if you dont want to be with someone insecure, you dont have to. Plenty of fish in the sea to choose from. Just make sure that during your schooling, you're social, you keep meeting people and so that you're not wondering where all your years went by and you're still alone, and the best you can do is this guy.
Better to be single than with someone who is on a different playing level.
NO! NO & NO! get on with you're life alvena! guys DONT change ... so what if you have to see him everyday? time heels everything ... i hate it when guys come crying back and making false statements about how they've changed ... MAKES ME SO ANGRY ...
I will get on with my own life and do my own thing, i feel like i have learnt from my mistakes and also have a new want to better myself and 'find myself again' the last two years are going to be tough in terms of studying and i should get on with that and also looking after myself (beutifying is fun!)
Yes RV the tables have turned....he did say....your not good looking enough and ure too dark and too this and too that and i dont know where my self respect was at the time! but inshallah i will keep my self respect with me all the time from now on! he now realises he is missing out on something good, and if he wants me back ( which he is not going to get) blackmailing me wont work.
Farrah is right...so what if i have to see him everyday! i shouldnt be making a big deal about it in my head! i have to get on with my work in hospital thats what im here for anyway and with time things will be ok inshallah.
yeah whatever honey, all the darkness and not good looking goes down the drain when you are dealing with a woman with a secure career and possibly a couple of 100,000’s coming in annually which means you might finally get that yacht you’ve been dreaming of. And all by telling the girl you once thought was dark and ugly that you actually have realized the error of your ways and you think she is sooo beautiful. How convenient.
men are such ********! they got us exactly where they want us, when its ok they leave us when its ok they come back. say a few sweet lines and we forget everything they done to hurt us and we let them back in.
my advice go up to him and cuss him rotten, and then mov on. tht sad face his pulling on u right now dont mean jack! like a friend once told me fool me once shame on u, fool me twice shame on me.....
dont cuss him... it'll show him u actually care and he's not worth it anyway. Youve wasted enough time already thinking about him, no point in wasting any more time havin a shouting match with him. Honestly just distance urself he's not worth it and he really has no respect for u if he said all those things. Once a guy goes down the root of being pathetic i really dont think theres anything to stop him from saying the same at a later stage
Well I don't want to get shot here, But get this ladies.
If you get a little input from your male family members. You wont be a toy in men's
hand. That, if you want it.
But ,in that case, life could get pretty boring if you know what I mean.
men are such ********! they got us exactly where they want us, when its ok they leave us when its ok they come back. say a few sweet lines and we forget everything they done to hurt us and we let them back in.
my advice go up to him and cuss him rotten, and then mov on. tht sad face his pulling on u right now dont mean jack! like a friend once told me fool me once shame on u, fool me twice shame on me.....
^ lol
If he hurt you and caused you a lot of pain... there's no reason why you should be nice to him. Tell him exactly what's on your mind and be sure to be vocal about your feelings. It was his decision to leave..it's yours to stick with it!
When all else fails.. sanitize your melon-baller and pluck his eyes-out! (if you hate him loads, skip the sanitizing)
i say kick his butts!!! he is such a looser mr drama king
6 months later he will have all those crocodile tears evaporated in air with some other girl in his arms :P
He got his behind kicked by someone and now he thinks that since you are still alone you would be vulnerable and would provide a shoulder for him to cry on .
So you better keep your distance from this boomerang.
