than bring the change into ur marriage... why play with someone else??
^True......you can try new activities what have you. But maybe for some......a new face.......is even more exciting........compared to your spouse whom you see everyday and know pretty well and there aren't any surprises. Like the trill of having a crush on someone you don't know very well.......there's that mystery.
Maybe for some........that's tougher to do.......with the responsibility of children, etc. Maybe flirting with a new face is easier......comes more naturally.......perhaps requires less exertion or effort than trying to bring back the spark with your spouse.
But as mentioned by TLK............I've read before that for some.......they seek validation. They want to feel desired.
Again, I'm not trying to justify any of this. It's clearly evident from first post in this thread that I don't agree with it.
Many times things that seem so simple......and so DUH.......are so complicated.
I don't know. People.........relationships...........human nature...........are all so complex and imperfect............that I don't think I even believe in the concept of true love.