Re: The Man's experience in Rishta Hunting
^ What I meant by fake is artificially made important.
Yes there are in-laws who may not let the girl go on and finish the education or career. And in some cases that is wrong.
In many cases those girls are just content to have a family to raise and be stay home wives or mothers.
Even those who are highly educated women despite given the chance, cannot commit themselves with their career due to change in their thought process, being married or not finding the job of their liking. In the end they are happy and satisfied. And that is what matters.
What I see is those who make their education or career so important that they cannot get married at all, miss out in the end, and they continue to seek ways to get married, only to find out not too many choices left.
Example one:
This woman had a nice career of being a good professional Golfer. Yes a woman Golfer. She traveled all around the hot places and had a great life.
Couldn't find a man to propose her despite being very pretty. She said her travel plans could not let her stay at one place. Always on the go.
Finally she stopped for a while, found a man to marry her. Husband said no more golf, stay home. Couldn't get to bear children. Got bored. Had to find a part time job to keep her busy. Regrets losing time even though she still misses the game but does not want to go back to it.
In the end: Lost the career, lost the opportunity to have children.
Example 2: One woman married late since she was busy in her career and education. Got married to an older guy the first time when she could not have children. He had older children who had already left his house. One day he died suddenly being an old man. She said he was the only love in her life. She gave him all she had. He didn't need her children anyways.
Now she is back to square one. No love of her life. No children. Works and not sure if she is ever going to marry despite still being good looking. Afraid to marry but wishes to get married again.
*Example 3 or more: *
Two sisters who are doctors, married to guys at younger age after finishing medical school. Their husbands did not let them pursue their careers. (right or wrong).
Both had good grades and certificates. Both have children. One sister has her husband also as a doctor. Second one is an Engineer. Both happy. Don't miss being doctors. Travel a lot. Seeing the world. Raising the children.
Who won among these examples?
why is life a race for you?
theyre the individual experiences of different men and women.
how can you even draw the conclusions you drew.
grrrr.
