Re: The Man's experience in Rishta Hunting
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Re: The Man's experience in Rishta Hunting
Guys like me leave this matter to their mother or sisters.
Problem i face is my mom standard is so high that finding such a highly educated girl who is also beautiful and tall is too difficult ...
-notable exceptions in my experience have been half our deen, but it's mostly** mini-maulvis** looking for their hijabi stay at home, ready to bear 15 kids neo-Islamists - most of those guys did go to college at least.
Yeah most of girls think about bearded guys this way, although actually a bearded guy like me is ok with her wife taking up job , don't want a lot of children and even ok with a non-hijab girl,don't want more than one marriage etc
But just like some **guys don't even consider **girls of age 30+ **Most Girls won't even consider **guys with beard
*So where are all the normal guys going? Are they just not looking? * Normal guys go to their mom :) or relatives. At most they help their mom find someone via internet but involve parents right from start.
Folks , what website do you use ? what is most popular website?, i used olx but to no avail.
Last I checked not every bride is smart, tall, and looking like a supermodel. Sure they exist ,but like < 1% of the population. Clearly, men are marrying girls with some sort of shortcoming or the other, no one is gonna be a tall elf-like beauty who has a masters degree in ethics and works at the UN.
Re: The Man's experience in Rishta Hunting
Going back to original topic. I think one of the most challenge that i personally find it is someone who is just balanced. Often enough..i finding this trends among women folks is that..they are increasingly becoming religious. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that..but i feel that i am not into their same level. And use religion as a tool to justify their behaviour and the way they act. Like whatever happened to values and traditions..etc.
Whatever happened to compromise and always finding a middle path to solve problems. Why do things have to be either white and black?
One of the most powerful and profound thing in our religion is that...it teaches us values and gives us tradition..just so we can cater to according to whatever society we are living in.
Now..lets not forget..Men folks do the same..but i am telling you my point of view..as an individual fella. Second thing is that...most often..our mother and sisters have so much say on rishta process. Say as an example, if i liked someone older girl for me..who is equally compatible. Mother and sisters would try put this wall up and ended being over-protective and forget that..they are women themselves. So as a man..it is my duty to stand up if i liked someone..it becomes up-hill battle. So yes..to the rights..but at the same time..we don't want to do something..which do not make our family not happy. Which in turn, girl feel frustrated. And fair enough it is equally frustrating for a man as well.
Re: The Man’s experience in Rishta Hunting
^Same used to happen with my brother when he was looking..
There were quite a few times when he liked someone but my mum didn’t**..**
Some of the reasons were that she didn’t find the girl attractive.. or she didn’t instantly ‘click’ with the girl’s mum 