Re: The Man’s experience in Rishta Hunting
its funny, the title of the thread and the content of posts 
Man’s experience lol.
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Lazy Sunday time ButtSb.... clouds outside, nothing to do except browse and then cook something.
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Nothing's stopping me I might have tried looking if that was what I wanted in the first place. But honestly speaking where would my husband have found a girl who was western educated but not settled there, an engineer who wouldnt pursue a career because she would have to move to Saudia after having lived in Dubai all her life, accepting her fate that she's not allowed to drive or go out alone (because of the damn laws and social norms), and be a housewife/ stay at home mom. U find me a girl who has lived in the west all her life willing to move to Saudia for good.
I'm doing it. I was born and raised in the US, I'm college educated, and I'm very career driven. My fiance was born and raised in Pakistan and now lives and works in Saudi. He has always told me that he can live anywhere (Pakistan, Saudi, or US) as long as I'm happy. So he left the decision completely up to me. It wasn't an easy decision and I put a lot of thought into it, but eventually I decided that I would move to Saudi. My decision was based on a lot of factors. The most important being the fact that aside from my parents, my fiance is the best person I've ever known. He is respectful, supportive, loving, and he places my happiness above all else. If you had asked me 2 or 3 years ago if I would ever be willing to move to Saudi Arabia, I would have told you something along the lines of, "Nope. Not ever. Wouldn't happen in a million years." But then I met him and as I got to know him, I realized this was a sacrifice I would be willing to make for him. He is happy in Saudi...he has a good job and is settled there. I knew how much it would mean to him if I were to move there. Yes, it means giving up my career and a lot of rights I have here in the States (driving, going out alone, etc), but I know I'll always have his love and support to help me through the adjustments. I'm actually quite excited about the move. He was thrilled by my decision and I'm looking forward to new experiences in a new place which will help broaden my horizons. Of course, who knows what will happen in the future? I may hate it there we may decide to move back to the US. But there's always the chance that I'll end up liking it there and we'll stay.
I think we are focusing too much on the negative stories in this thread. As another poster stated, we all know of success stories as well. I have several cousins and friends who have married guys from Pakistan and they all have very successful marriages. I think keeping an open mind is key here.
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Their motive is to go abroad, earn lots of money and sponsor the rest of their family but they don't necessarily respect their wife and her lifestyle and her family's struggles... in their heart, they believe girls in Pakistan are the best and had they been willing to put up with the crappy system in Pakistan, they could've scored a better deal in terms of prettier/tamer/more obedient wife...regardless of what they have to offer in return.
I agree completely. One of my friend's friend cousin who came from Pakistan via sponsorship was telling us all that..how they shouldn't marry a western educated girl and basically had very narrow and negative and disturbing views. So luckily, there were plenty of us to take care of that. He just stood up walked away and left. And he married a pretty and educated girl from here..but i guess he wanted more traditional wife. And yes...he sponsored his brother and sisters to come here. What a irony!
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but the same happens with the ABCD guys right? they are also equally retarded
What are ABCD guys?
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This summer a family I know went from USA to get their son married to his cousin in my village in AJK. Doing so they set the record for paying haq mahr of Rs. 2 million and 20 tola jewellery in my village. Now they are rich, they have the cash and other shiny credentials but setting such precedences creates social problems, consider if a local guy marries her sister now how much pressure he will have to match the figures.
That's just ridiculous. I don't get people who want to show off their wealth that way. I mean it's okay to set whatever mehr you want to set. Why must they advertise it? Also, why do people have to make this into a competition??
I do want to talk about the other side of things too though. I've heard of people living in the west (but who are having their nikah in Pakistan) wanting to give mehr in pakistani rupees. Personally I think that's unfair to the girl, because Rs.100,000 translates to roughly $1000 which really isn't all that much. Their excuse? This will make things harder for others by setting the bar too high. I mean seriously, why do you even have to tell people the amount you've set? I don't think it's a requirement is it?
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I'm doing it. I was born and raised in the US, I'm college educated, and I'm very career driven. My fiance was born and raised in Pakistan and now lives and works in Saudi. He has always told me that he can live anywhere (Pakistan, Saudi, or US) as long as I'm happy. So he left the decision completely up to me. It wasn't an easy decision and I put a lot of thought into it, but eventually I decided that I would move to Saudi. My decision was based on a lot of factors. The most important being the fact that aside from my parents, my fiance is the best person I've ever known. He is respectful, supportive, loving, and he places my happiness above all else. If you had asked me 2 or 3 years ago if I would ever be willing to move to Saudi Arabia, I would have told you something along the lines of, "Nope. Not ever. Wouldn't happen in a million years." But then I met him and as I got to know him, I realized this was a sacrifice I would be willing to make for him. He is happy in Saudi...he has a good job and is settled there. I knew how much it would mean to him if I were to move there. Yes, it means giving up my career and a lot of rights I have here in the States (driving, going out alone, etc), but I know I'll always have his love and support to help me through the adjustments. I'm actually quite excited about the move. He was thrilled by my decision and I'm looking forward to new experiences in a new place which will help broaden my horizons. Of course, who knows what will happen in the future? I may hate it there we may decide to move back to the US. But there's always the chance that I'll end up liking it there and we'll stay.
I think we are focusing too much on the negative stories in this thread. As another poster stated, we all know of success stories as well. I have several cousins and friends who have married guys from Pakistan and they all have very successful marriages. I think keeping an open mind is key here.
Have you ever visited Saudi?
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I know quite a few people who have moved to Saudi Arabia from here actually ...
Just depends on each individual. If she is willing to move then it's her choice. Some people can't handle the change, while some can. Just like some people are able to have successful marriages with a man who is from Pakistan, while others unfortunately don't.
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^ Lazy Sunday time ButtSb.... clouds outside, nothing to do except browse and then cook something.
not talking about your posts.....but the posts which embodying womans' experience...again..
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Do us all a favour. Marry some one non-pakistani. If Pakistani men are so horrible, don't marry us. Rather find a man you like regardless of ethnicity and marry him. We will all be happier and so will you.
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Have you ever visited Saudi?
Yes, on several occasions.
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If you move to Saudi, why not move to Pakistan, put some effort into the soil from which your roots are from?
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It’s scary to live in Karachi 
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I think it's even scarier to live in Saudi under a perpetual fear of speaking your mind and then getting called a churail by the ministry of Vice and Virtue.
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I wouldn't mind moving to Pakistan at all. As I stated before, he is currently employed in Saudi Arabia and that is why the plan is for me to move there. I figured the least I can do is give it a chance. If it turns out that I can't stand living there, we'll make a decision together about what to do next.
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Haha I was just talking to a friend about this yesterday. He was telling me how they all judge you based on how much money you make, where you live, your house, # of family members and how much domestic help you have. Given that he has his own business, he wants someone mature, with a brain able to live with his ups and downs. That was the first time in my life, that I realized girls are not the only ones facing this problem.
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I think it's even scarier to live in Saudi under a perpetual fear of speaking your mind and then getting called a churail by the ministry of Vice and Virtue.
Lol at Churail. I think in Pakistan well in Karachi anyways, you are in physical danger at all times. I'm not sure about other cities.
Well I used to live in Saudi maybe I have a slightly biased opinion, so never mind.
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Mard ki izzat uss ki pocket mein hoti hai… if you are earning well, everything else is not considered.
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^ That's not true, I turn down good earner's all the time, as soon as I figure out they're crass people, which you can usually tell in talking to them once what kind of person they are.
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^ That's not true, I turn down good earner's all the time, as soon as I figure out they're crass people, which you can usually tell in talking to them once what kind of person they are.
and why did they get shortlisted in the firstplace?
many guys probably don't even make it to your 'list' due to not having money........