Tell us the story of your bridal jora!

AngelEyess · May 25, 2011, 7:39pm

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Sahar02:

I WILL POST PICS A LITTLE LATER!

1. What are the styles and colors? **
It is a very brilliant red delhi cut gharara made with jamevar silk (delhi cut means it has the lower gote, but it is not quite as long as a farshi gharara so I could walk in it!) and gold kaam. The shirt is a very soft green silk, with gold kaam and slight red accents. The dupatta is the same soft green, in organza, with gold kaam, and a thin red border matching the gharara. The kaam is very delicate and pretty, lighter than a typical bridal jora today.
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2. Who got and designed it?
MIL selected the fabric and designed the overall look of my bridal jora (as well as my mangni and valima clothes). The clothes were made by Safia Auntie in Karachi. She is a designer who has made several of the joras for our family, and she was also an old friend of MIL’s.

I had sent MIL whatever photos of designs I liked that I could find, but way back then, the internet was not what it is now. Most designers did not have websites where they posted their clothes, so the same photos were circulated everywhere. I did the best that I could, but I never found something that was exactly what I wanted. I told MIL I wanted a traditional bridal look and later added that I would like red around my face. But I did not insist about anything.

The jora was kept secret but since MIL is my phuppo and since my other phuppo in Karachi was the one checking up on it, I was able to get some information out of her. Basically I knew the general color combination, and that’s when I sort of became panicked about having red around my face, because I got the sense that the dupatta was green. I really wanted to look like a bride.

3. What year was it made?
The beginning of 2004. We got married at the end of that year.
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4. What was your reaction when you first saw it?**
I was near tears. And it wasn’t from joy. I thought it was pretty, but the initial emotions were centered on how light and unbridal I thought it looked. And my naniyaal tends to wear heavier things, and I was worried that they wouldn’t like it, and that Ammi wouldn’t like it (and it is her nand’s design). I was trying not to show my disappointment as MIL and all the family was there. Later when I spoke to my cousin on the phone, I cried and she rushed over to see it (she herself was pregnant and all hormonal and upset that no one had brought her over for the bari presentation). Anyway, her reaction calmed me down as she thought it was very pretty and said it was not as light as I had initially described. Ammi liked it more than I thought she would, but she was disappointed for me because I had wanted the red around my face – that was really all that she was worried about.

How did you feel in it on your wedding day?
Stunning. I just loved it. MIL’s overall approach with everything is “sophisticated,” “delicate,” “understated.” And really for my coloring and petite frame, that’s probably appropriate. I loved the way I looked. The outfit had a very elegant look – a combo of traditional and modern, and I felt it suited me quite a bit. Would I have liked more red on the dupatta? Yes. But I did think it was really lovely.

How do you feel about it now?
I’m more in love with it, I think. The fabrics and kaam are really of the best quality. They are still rich and brilliant. The finishing on the kaam makes it really special. The jora is still stunning in person, and the fact that it is so delicate makes it worthy of more notice. I wore it to my BIL’s wedding (tho that was probably a mistake as MIL designed something surprisingly similar for his wife, which was not obvious until we were both wearing them). I will inshAllah wear it this Fall for my brother’s wedding.

5. What does it say about you, your family, etc?
Obviously it reflects MIL’s taste and the care and love she put into it for me. I also think it reflects the way our family works together, understands each other, and compromises for the sake of building stronger bonds.
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6. Where is it now?**
Sitting in a trunk upstairs in our guest room, with the rest of my heavy clothes. Actually the shirt is with Ammi, as it needs to be taken out a bit for my brother’s wedding.

Sounds gorgeous…waiting for the pictures

Cinnamonroll · May 25, 2011, 7:49pm

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OMG !! your baraat dress is JUST how i imagine mine, same design and colours, except that i want to ad some mint green in the borders, very pretty !!

Gaia · May 25, 2011, 8:24pm

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You ladies are such beautiful brides!! mA'

S02 · May 25, 2011, 9:15pm

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Nikki -- I think those rust/red shades would look really stunning on you!

AE -- thanks! I've added them to my original post (#6 in this thread)

Niksik · May 25, 2011, 9:34pm

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Sahar, I looked very silly on my wedding. Our wedding was unusual as you know. Then imagine driving yourself up to the salon and driving back before the event :D. Ah well. No complaints. AAAAL iZ VELL.

LP · May 25, 2011, 10:54pm

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aapne kahan se buy kiya?

S02 · May 26, 2011, 1:02am

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I don’t believe you looked silly at all!

S02 · May 26, 2011, 1:04am

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She mentioned in her original post:

cherryontop · May 26, 2011, 1:31am

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Such a cute thread. You all have beautiful bridal outfits!

chips6 · May 26, 2011, 1:41am

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I have never visited the wedding forum this much as I have done in the last 2 days...:D

S02 · May 26, 2011, 2:05am

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^ Hehe. :D

Kinzz · May 26, 2011, 2:35am

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AE your all outfits are beautiful.

automne77 · May 26, 2011, 3:04am

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**1. What are the styles and colors?
Nikah : **it was a sookhi mehndi color shalwar kameez. The kameez was with a round daaman and had brown and bronzish dainty dabka work on it. very simple and understated.

**Wedding: **it was an ivory and turquoise lehnga with a short shirt. Had very less kaam on it. All through out my life as a teenager I thought I wanted to be the typical bride with the nose ring, tikka and jhumer but when the actual time for my wedding came I just wanted something simple and light. I had seen a couple of my american friends get married and I loved it that their weddings were so fresh. And that is what I wanted on my day.

Walima : *Walima was a last minute idea and hubby (we had the nikah earlier so he was hubby) told me that I would have to do the dress myself. He had family in Pak but I guess he didn't want to ask them incase they sent something I wouldn't like to wear. MIL insisted that I have something traditional colorwise coz my nikah dress was so pheekha... I went with red and orange. It was a slightly long kameez with a sharara (the one which has lots of gathering at the the knees but is not split).
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2. Who got and designed it?

**Nikah : **picked up a pre-made outfit from Tariq road in Karachi.

**Wedding : **At that time I didn't even know if I would get married, but I got the dress anyway coz I was in Pak, we were there for 2 weeks and I saw a simple lehnga in the same shop in Tariq road and gave them the order to make the dress in different colors and use more flowy material. In the back of my mind was the fear what if this rishta doesn't pan out which is why I didn't spend a lot on the dress. When we came back to the middle east, my family thought the dress was too simple and so we got the local karigars to add swarovski crystals to it and that really made the dress come alive.

**Walima : **Since walima was such a short notice affair and I didn't know proto or any other 'designer' I had to make do with what was available here. I got two banarsi sarees which had the same red and used the orange from one to make the kameez and the rest to make a simple dupatta and the sharara. It looked nice and it all came together well... got a local karigar to do some gold beadwork on the already done banarsi work so it seemed a bit more heavy.

At that time, both the dresses were the best I could do with my resources, knowledge and time. And although I do wish I had dresses that would have made ppl swoon, the make up, the jewellery and most of all the happiness and love made me look like a million bucks. Alhamdulillah

3. What year was it made?
2007

** 4. What was your reaction when you first saw it?**
I loved it and it showed on my face which is why the shopkeeper wanted me to give him extra money for a job well done... rolls eyes and the toughest part was trying to find jewellery to match it. I found one set on Tariq road but that set was very typical and when I brought it back home, the reaction I got was yuck.... We kept searching till we found something in white gold which sealed the deal for me.

How did you feel in it on your wedding day?
Loved it, just felt sooooo comfortable. The way my hubby saw me that day... it was just perfect. I still tease him that he never saw me that way ever again.

How do you feel about it now?
I love seeing it in pics and actually wore the lehnga and dupatta again on my SIL's mehndi but the candles in the mehndi thaal burnt my outfit. :(

5. What does it say about you, your family, etc?
It reflected our taste of sober, sophisticated design and color.
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6. Where is it now?**
In a suitcase. I actually left it behind in pak to get the burnt part fixed but I got the dress back from my relative saying that it could not be fixed. I hope someday I can take it myself to either get it fixed or maybe turn it into something my daughter wouldn't mind wearing.

supersummer · May 26, 2011, 11:11am

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I love what i see of your walima outfit!!! very classic, the motif type embroidery wouldnt look out of place in a current bridal!

S02 · May 26, 2011, 1:11pm

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autumn, your mehndi outfit sounds so pretty! what happened to your shadi outfit? how did it get burnt?

hareem01 · May 26, 2011, 1:20pm

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wow you all have lovely dresses…specially you sahar02.

i never liked my clothes and that’s why i’m gonna have another wedding ceremony.

LP · May 26, 2011, 1:21pm

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I want to get married now:bummer: so tht i can wear a similar outfit:blush:

S02 · May 26, 2011, 1:37pm

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Thanks, hareem.
you totally should! And we can all help plan

Masi_Museebtay · May 26, 2011, 11:30pm

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Lovely dresses everyone.. here are mine.. again pic of a pic so doesn't do justice.

:@:

please don't quote/save.

ehl-e-chamman · May 27, 2011, 12:40am

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^lovely