Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
That’s not how it works. 
But I can sure make the wife work until the baby is ready to come and send her right back on her way to work after she delivers the baby. 
j/k
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Doesn’t he know your profession? I am sure many of us here do know how much can you make in a year?
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I am not sure why you are buying a house at the moment. He is totally using you. If you desperately want this home then have your parents cosign on the mortgage.
By the way, I am sure he has a conditional green card. Either way, if he is not sincere to you, which is very apparent, then staying in this marriage is of no use.
Listen to khatti.
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OP, as someone else has inquired in this thread, what does your husband do all day if he is not working and/or contributing to housework? To be honest it seems as though all of the burden here is on you and I don't know why you are allowing him to get away with it. He is the man- if he is not qualified in his field yet, he should be doing any random job to at least help you out. Why are you responsible for his bills? Does he essentially sit on his backside all day doing nothing, expecting the world from you and threatening divorce? Seriously go tell him to jump. I can almost guarantee you he won't take that step- as you yourself acknowledged, he cannot afford to live on his own. I think you need to grasp onto this line of thinking and FORCE him to get a job. Be straight up with him- either he gets his act together or you won't be responsible for his bills. And if he can't afford his lifestyle then tell him to ask his family in Pakistan to send him money. Either way, it's not your responsibility- not after the way he treats you and threatens divorce. That is the worst thing a man can do as it shows a complete lack of disregard for a woman and is designed to instill fear in her.
As for should you share your financial information with him- does he tell you how much of his 10k is remaining? Does he account to you for every dollar he spends from his 10k? If the answer is no, then there is no need for you to share your personal financial information.
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thats the thing, so he's been here less than a year. He already has a green card. When you sponsor someone, you file an affidavit of support, saying whatever happens, for 7 years, im financially responsible for this guy.
yesterday, when he was like argueing with me, about salary, and divorce. I told him calmly, that look, if you want to leave, fine the door is open, you have a green card, you know i have to support you for 7 years. like the ball is in your court. If you want to leave fine, but I love you, so stay. Im not going to try to deport you, but I will MOST DEFINATLY take my Haq Mahar. He said oh, you will find someone else, so its good. I said, after you, I will NEVER marry again. I wouldnt want to take that risk again.
I know he is not in anyposition to leave, the lifestyle he has now, there is no way he is going to be able to afford it on his own. and he knows this.
My thing is I am already in contract to buy a house, he knows this. Supprisingly he didnt have an issue going into contract for a house. I don't want to be in the "im not talking to you or like arguement stage right now, as thats the last thing i need. Because I dont want him to think ok to get back at her Im going to create problems with this home purchase.
As for people saying hey just tell him what u make, he can't take it from you. Again, when you hear girls or guys, and they get taken for everything they have. IT ALL starts slowly. The less someone knows the better. If he was just asking out of curiosity, he wouldnt continue hounding me about it. Obviously he has someother intentions.
So do you still have to support him even if you guys get divorced ? That would be a pain.
What incentive does he have to work then ?
And buying a house in these circumstances ?
I don't know what's involved in that but are you sure that was a smart idea ?
Is he going to be a joint owner when he is not contributing a single dime on it and you will be paying the down payment and the monthly mortgage ?
Khattichic can probably give you some advice on that as she is in that business but this all sounds so complicated. Good luck.
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First of all i said "do i give a hoot?" It was a rhetorical question for your information.
secondlydont argue for the sake of argument it just makes you seem more of a pansy than you really are.
Like i said i dont give a hoot about what you say or think, and im in no mood to salvage my rep.
im blunt, i say what i feel and i am not accountable to you nor do i feel i have the need to justify my self any further.
Thank you for your witty reparte.... it was fun and it passed the time. Take care.
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
I am not sure why you are buying a house at the moment. He is totally using you. If you desperately want this home then have your parents cosign on the mortgage.
By the way, I am sure he has a conditional green card. Either way, if he is not sincere to you, which is very apparent, then staying in this marriage is of no use.
Listen to khatti.
You meant 'then** why** stay in this marriage' ?
[Edit- I see you fixed it. :)]
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
well some people out there do think that it works this way … they think women can do everything what men can & vice versa … why don’t they understand that they rely on each other in so many things … both genders are different …
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I don't get you cpa - you love him, but you don't trust him. You're making long term plans, but you expect the relationship to end in divorce. You financially support him, but you won't tell him how much you make.
Out of curiosity - whose name is the house being purchased under - yours or his or both? Maybe Paheli can comment - but will that affect who is entitled to a share in the "family" home if the marriage ends in divorce?
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so true 
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
yesterday, when he was like argueing with me, about salary, and divorce. I told him calmly, that look, if you want to leave, fine the door is open, you have a green card, you know i have to support you for 7 years. like the ball is in your court. If you want to leave fine, but I love you, so stay. Im not going to try to deport you, but I will MOST DEFINATLY take my Haq Mahar. He said oh, you will find someone else, so its good. I said, after you, I will NEVER marry again. I wouldnt want to take that risk again.
OP, I have a comment about this and I hope it isn't taken wrong as I do not mean this negatively at all. Do you actually mean what you say (above) and are you actually prepared to go through with it? As in, are you actually willing to go through with a divorce if your husband decided that is what he wants? If you so, be more clear and objective in the manner in which you discuss this with him and clearly state your intentions. Do not add theatrics such as "oh, leave if you want to, but I love you" or "I will never marry after you" as they serve no purpose. Drama has a tendency build up and elicit drama in return and as such, these dramatic statements will only sidetrack you from discussing the actual important issues in rational and realistic manner.
If you do not mean what you say (and that seems to be the case in certain aspects as you mentioned here that you don't believe that leaving is really realistically possible for your husband), and actually want to attempt to make things work with your husband (which, honestly, does not sound like the best idea as it sounds like a rather toxic relationship) the best thing would be to refrain from making such statements as empty threats and emotional outbursts serve no purpose either and only make rational discussion more difficult.
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Wrong !
You asked the question "Do I give a hoot? ".
Then you went on to answer that question yourself as “You bet …”.
Don’t mess with the professor, dear. :nono: 
BTW, I was just joking with you. Don’t be annoyed. Friends ? extends hand That is what started it all, dinit?]
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Oh and I don't know why you think you have to support him for 7 yes. You don't. He has a green card, he can get a job and support himself. You are not going to jail for not supporting him.
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This guy is clearly a liability. Do yourself a favour and get rid of him.
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extends hand and gives the professor a pat on the back well played my fine sir....and no i am not being sarcastic...lol
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- yes im not being sarcastic.....my bad
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Enjoy. :k:
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The purchase is being done as a tenancy in common my parents will own the home 99% and I have 1%. THe mortgage will be 100% in my name. SO incase of divorce he at most will be intitled to half of 1% which im ok with losing.
As for love, no i dont love him. but if someone is saying hey im going to leave you over and over, well what do I say to that? I dont want to extend the arguement, but at the sametime i want him to know ok if you want to leave im not going to go cry in a corner. Fine leave, but I want you to stay. If anyone has a better idea as to what to say in this situation please let me know. When dont say anything fine that works, but when i do get angry, instead of argueing back, i say ok, noone is forcing you to stay, you can leave if you want, but I would like you to stay.
You stay quiet and quietly work on the process of getting out of this marriage. Take your parents in confidence and get yourself out of this mess. Sorry this is happening to you.
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^ Unless he redeems himself somehow.