Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
Ts, ill show you mine if you show me yours......
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
OP, in your case, I will strongly recommend that you keep your financial information to yourself. Make sure you have signed up for paperless statements. I hope and pray things get better for you and you can regain his trust.
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
Aha. There is a difference my friend. I didn’t extend my hand in proposal. 
And I don’t share personal info on public forums.
We want to protect a GS member from a potential con-artist. 
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
Telling or not telling him how much you make won't make a difference*.Giving him access to the money will*.
^This, exactly!
If your husband is that keen on knowing your financial situation and to avoid future arguments, you should consider discussing your financial situation with him but without giving him access.
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
After reading yur story I suggest u to tell him but not all tell him half. Becoz as he Said about divorce thing so u should save for your safe side also becoz I think u want this relationship.
By this may be he trust you and your marriage will successful .But the main thing is sense of responsibility u r spending for home, food is ok but if he has sense of responsibility he should not ask for random things from you and he can do any job he can teach, or in store.
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
:k: True. Telling him the amount does equal access to the money.
OP can continue to refuse to share how much she has which will continue to make her husband resentful and will lead to arguments. If she tells him how much she makes but refuses to grant him access, that will also lead to resentment on his part/arguments. Neither option contributes to making this marriage healthy. So this is really a matter of choosing the option OP views as the lesser of evils.
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
My God, how old are you? 12? Protecting a member from a con-artist? Its not like she was going to jump in the car with me but thanks for your overly display of masochistic bravado.... i'm sure you are the king of the sandbox...ill try to find you a trophy in my spare time.
For the record its calling easing the situation....dont take peoples comments so literally....just my two cents worth.
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
If he wants to invest in the stock market, he should work some kind of a job, save some money for about a year and then invest that.
That way he is not gambling with the money that is needed to run the household.
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
Chill, newb.
You didn’t see these emoticons in my responses. —> and 
Please take your own advice about not taking comments literally.
BTW, welcome to the forums. 
[Masochistic or macho ? 
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Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
Actually it does matter if he has the information of how much she makes and her saving. That information will be his first step to emotionly blackmail her. I have seen it up close.
If he starts working, you don't have to file joint tax until you are comfortable with it.
I am sorry OP but I am not getting good feeling about your husband. Does he have a green card or did you sponsor him?
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
Can she have his green card cancelled ? 
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
Yes, she can.
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
And have him deported ?
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
Thank you so much for the welcome; much appreciated.
It is an honour to receive your advice and i am chewing my own foot for my unacceptable faux pas .i hope you along with the esteemed management of gupshup forums accept my heart filled apology. Rest assure it will not happen again. Mea culpa.
BTW am i being sarcastic and do i give a hoot? Bet your hairless bottom i am...
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
Wait, what?!
This is not normal. Do you even have a normal relationship with this guy outside of financial problems? A wife is not a hoor pari who should not have to contribute to household expenses. If she earns, she should contribute. Somehow everyone seems to be okay with this double standard. I don't get it. Unless this guy is a d*, you should contribute even when he is not working. That is the whole point of marriage. **If it's okay for you stay at home, it's okay for him to stay at home.
If wives can deliver babies, husbands should do so too.
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
Good news is, you will fit right in with a ‘certain’ group of people here. 
Bad news is, I am not part of that group. 
Did you say you give a hoot or not ? 
Stop talking with both ends of your mouth.
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
I agree in part. Here’s the thing - if OP is preparing to leave her husband, then absolutely she shouldn’t share her income. But if she’s going to put forth a good faith effort to make the marriage work, keeping her income a “secret” seems like she’s not making a good faith effort and she’s hiding things from him and is a reason for disagreement.
You would hope that the couple can between them have a reasonable discussion and make mutually beneficial decisions - if that’s not possible, then ending the relationship is the better option.
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I don’t know about being deported but she sure can send a letter to USCIS (if she has sponsored) and they will investigate and take appropriate actions.
I don’t like how this guy openly talks about divorce and taking 50% of her money.
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
thats the thing, so he's been here less than a year. He already has a green card. When you sponsor someone, you file an affidavit of support, saying whatever happens, for 7 years, im financially responsible for this guy.
yesterday, when he was like argueing with me, about salary, and divorce. I told him calmly, that look, if you want to leave, fine the door is open, you have a green card, you know i have to support you for 7 years. like the ball is in your court. If you want to leave fine, but I love you, so stay. Im not going to try to deport you, but I will MOST DEFINATLY take my Haq Mahar. He said oh, you will find someone else, so its good. I said, after you, I will NEVER marry again. I wouldnt want to take that risk again.
I know he is not in anyposition to leave, the lifestyle he has now, there is no way he is going to be able to afford it on his own. and he knows this.
Re: tell husband how much savings you have? what your salary is?
OP, it seems like the sole reason you're holding on is because you're fearing the stigma of being labeled divorced. Who cares? Why do the pressures of society matter more than your own well being? Are these people and extended family going to be the ones to support you and help you when 15 years down the line you are the only provider for your husband and kids? Ha! I think not. Your husband may be a good man, but if he were a good husband, he'd be doing something, ANYTHING to help out in the household finances. There is no shame in getting a part time job. But you've been told all that before.
My mother was in a similar situation as yours. When my parents came to the US as a newly married couple, my mothers career flourished while by fathers did not. He was a dreamer l, always waiting "for the next big thing". Let me tell you from experience, when a women has to be the sole breadwinner for the household, while her husband doesn't contribute, it's not good news for the kids. My father was a good man but he wasn't a good husband. Their relationship and divorce (which eventually happened when we sisters had all entered our teenage years) greatly influenced the way we sisters viewed life, men and marriage, and not always in a good way.
Stop caring about what people are going to say and get out now while you can. Don't even think about having children until he's proved himself and you can trust him.