here is a guy i like for…10 years ever since i was 12. i don’t really know him that well and I doubt he knows me. from what I do know he is a decent guy well educated and family orientated he is five years older than me and unmarried. as a woman should i tell him i like him or forever hold my peace? i think about him every now and then but sometimes i think its foolish.
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If u think hes capable of keeping u happy, being loving, satisfying u in everyway a women needs to b satisfied after marriage- then go for it- Uve liked him for so long u never know he probably likes u back- and doesnt want to make the first move- some guys can b like that-or may b get to know him more- i mean in 10 years kuch pata nahi kiya? lol long time no? chalo give it another 10 yrs- ull find out he has 3 kids during ur research ;) hehe jk-- tell him b4 its too late- b straight up- atleast if u tell him now and the outcome is bad (hope not) then atleast u wont have to waste anymore time- and if its good- then- Good luck with the arrangements =)
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Wow, you liked him for 10 years - wow.
Does he know you exist? If he knows you exist and hasn’t shown any interest or made a move, no need to voice your feelings.
If he doesn’t know you exist, make it known. Nice and loud. :halo:
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Is there a way you can talk to him?
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how can you even like someone if you dont know them very well or haven't spoken to them?
xlusively_me,
I would not recommend you telling the guy because in many cases (not all) when a girl confesses first....it tends to backfire. He might even become uneasy at your sudden confession .....and if he doesn't feel the same way.....things will be awkward between the two of you. For example, he might start avoiding you/ignoring you and it's overall a very uncomfortable situation to be in. And it could potentially hurt your reputation.
People tend to become more surprised/shocked when they hear a romantic confession from someone.....who they don't even talk to on a regular basis.
Do you talk to this guy at all? Is he a family friend? Do you see him around often? My suggestion is for you to get to know the guy. Just talk to him as a friend first. Developing a friendship with him has 2 benefits. The first benefit is that getting to know him will allow you to see his real character. Sometimes we think we know a person and later we find out that they are not as great as we thought they were. The second benefit is that by developing a friendship he'll get to know you and if he develops any romantic feelings for you, he'll give you signs/indications.
So, get to know him/talk to him/ become his friend first. Who knows....maybe after getting to know him you'll find that he's not that great. Or you'll become such good friends and he could possibly develop an interest in you.
The last thing I want to mention is that there will always be the possibility that he doesn't feel the same way. So, that is a possibility you'll have to be prepared for. And although rejection can be painful, it's not a reflection of your character and the wonderful person you are. It's more of a personal preference issue. Take care. And best wishes!
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^ great advice :)
i think you should..FACEBOOK HIM! haha
do you guys have any mutual friends? it really shouldnt be a problem for you guys to become friends or get introduced atleast. if you've known him for 10 years then you must know his circle of friends. get involved! try to become friends with someone he knows and hang out with them when your crush is around :)
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If you like him a lot, then you should atleast try to be friends with him. After talking to him, you'll have a better idea of how he is and if he's interested in you. And then u can tell him if the situation permits.
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I agree to PinkLove, I think a nice way can be through Orkut or Facebook. Create your profile real name etc and add him as a friend. Start scrapping him and things can go from there. I am NOT advising this as a way to have a flirt session, but to try and see if you can eventually find out the possiblity of getting married to the guy you like.
Bye the way, something similar happened to me as well :) though it didn't work out in the end, due to some other reasons, yet it was a good way of knowing the other person and even the end was a very amicable breakup.
Best of luck!!
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Sweet Lord! 10 years??? you should qualify for a stalker! 
If you’re been around the guy - with a crush on him - for 10 years and he has not noticed you, it could be a possibility that he is not your type or the other way around. Good luck though :k:
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LOL^ 
i love redvelvets advice and what she’s saying is soo trueee if she didnt write that i wold of!!
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you need to keeptheshushup. For this I hate men.
you were 12 when you had a crush on him ? wow .. dont tell him that thought if you manage to talk to him … 
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It's not uncommon for people to have long crushes. I've known girls and guys who have had long crushes. Some people get so shy around those that they like, that they clam up and find it hard to open up/talk/flirt/express their feelings. Everyone is different. She's just a shy girl who wants to know how to handle this situation:)
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I've had a crush for a long time too and haven't spoken to him ever... Arjun Rampal :)
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I would try to spend more time with him and get to know him (and so he can get to know you).
^That will leave room for nothing, lol. It will do more damage than good.
^That will leave room for nothing, lol. It will do more damage than good.
well guys are always worring about why someone hate them or dislike them.
or atleast show them that u dont like him much.
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o come on guys have some fun…yeh kia aik banday ko pasand ker k bhet jao.
Explore the life from different angles. 