Taking gifts for family bk in Pakistan..

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My cousin just asked for a laptop.. is this normal?

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Re: Taking gifts for family bk in Pakistan..

Crikey, thats a bit rich, unless he's super close or something?

Or ask him to pay for it?

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how are your relations with the cousin? Is he/she your langotia yaar?

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Yeah, that was what I thought.. but then wondered if maybe other ppl did buy gifts like that for their relatives :confused:

In the past it’s always been little bits and things like makeup, perfumes, few months ago got her a camera.. Not particular close and she’s nowhere near poor either.. I don’t think she has any intention of paying for it..

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Re: Taking gifts for family bk in Pakistan..

Depends on how close that cousin is. Ppl in pak assume if you live abroad you are swimming in bucks which at times is a notion that is quite impossible to dispell.

My cousins have their own khala settled in the US. They also keep getting expensive gifts such as laptop, ipad, iphone etc on each visit. But that is because they probably are MA so well settled and these cousins of mine themselves lost their dad and are financially dependent on us. So I actually feel happy for them when they get pampered this way. :)

But asking for presents oneself is a bit weird.

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Its normal. People in pak think we are rich here, its normal for them to make lavish farmaishain.

if he/she is just a random cousin then i would ignore the laptop farmaish.

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lolz this remind me of myself hehehe i asked my huby for laptop after nikah he send it 2 his mum n my MIL was not happy n she still tells every 1 that how i asked 4 lapi after nikah as if i was getting married just 4 laptop yuck :(:(

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Re: Taking gifts for family bk in Pakistan..

its normal for them to ask, but you dont have to get it for them unless they are sending you money for it. My cousins do the same thing!

But its not just cousins....one of my cousins (she is here in Canada as well), her FIANCE'S (not even husband yet!) sister asked for an iPhone4, and his other sister asked for a Rolex!!!!! Like honestly people!!!! It make me mad when they think we have so much money to dispose of that we can buy all this lavish stuff for them. For crying out loud, I dont buy myself most of the stuff they ask for!!

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I'm curious as to how this even came up. Did you just randomly mention that she wants you to buy a laptop? OR did you by chance ask her what she wanted?

Whenever I go back home...."gifts" never even come up beforehand. I don't ask anyone what they want and at least in my family, no one has ever "volunteered" their wants to me.

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I don't think it's that they think overseas (UK, USA) peeps are wealthier. For things like laptops and phones, it's that they are newer, better (more upgraded/feature packed) and possibly cheaper than they are in Pak.

But yes, it is normal for peeps back home to ask for expensive electrical things. :P

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Was she serious or it was just a random tongue in cheek comment?

I know people who took Iphones and blackberries for relatives back home...laptop for a very close friend or family would be normal I guess, provided you can comfortably afford it.

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yeah, it looks odd to me too.

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you can buy cheap laptop from pawn shop. :@:

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*asking for something is RUDE in the first place unless it's younger siblings or parents. when asked by the gift-giver, people usually reluctantly say, "whatever you wish!". *

it's an expensive gift to ask and you don't have to feel obliged to gift it. :)

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My dad is going there this w/end and must have mentioned I was thinking of flying over in a week or two as well.. She just sent me a txt saying she was glad I'm coming and mentioned to get her a laptop.. I do normally txt her does she need anything meaning little things (won't be doing that anymore lol).. Dad said just ignore and doesn't she have any shame..

Devilish Angel, I don't think there was anything wrong in your situation, husband and wife is a totally different and a much closer + special relationship.. Your other half prob thought it would be a good way to keep in touch with you as well :)

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y odd i was asking from my huby :(:(:(

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lolz actually deeba he just asked me wht i want since his mom was coming bck i said my laptop is getting old need a new one i was just kiding n he really sent me :)

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basically, you were newly nikkahfied and you immediately demanded a laptop which gave bad signals to husband/in-laws.

i would say first five years sacrifice from girl can make her queen of rest of life.

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She seemed totally serious.. I bought her a camera a few months bk for a couple of hundred pounds but normally just take inexpensive things like makeup, perfumes etc. I think dad got her a cellphone last year as well but the more expensive stuff is defo not a regular thing..

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i was newly nikahfied but previously engaged 2 huby for a year as well it depends on my frankness i think MIL created issue of a small thing if me n huby r ok no one else should pin point any thing