Re: Surname and Marriage
I don’t plan on changing my last name. My last name is my father’s name and it represents my family…my roots…where I came from…and I want to keep that with me throughout my life because my parents aren’t going to be alive forever. Maybe that sounds weird, but it makes sense to me.
Also, it’s my basic Islamic right to keep my last name. And it’s not an Islamic tradition for women to take on their husbands’ family name. Plus, whether a woman changes her last name or not…IS ABSOLUTELY NO INDICATION…of how good of a wife she will be.
**Sumorani…**I’ve even read that it’s not permissible for a Muslim woman to take on her husband’s last name because she should not attribute SOMEONE ELSE as her father. I’ve also heard during a khutbah (I think) that on the Day of Judgement, we will be called by our fathers’ name. Therefore it’s best to keep your maiden name. Maybe if you gently explain this issue to your husband using Islamic references…he might calm down. I’ve pasted some links below…I hope they help:
As quoted from the following website: Islam Question and Answer - Ruling on wife taking the husband?s last name if the husband insists on that
**"It is not permissible for a woman to take her husband’s name or his family name because that is attributing oneself to someone other than one’s father, and imitating the kuffaar from whom this custom was adopted. **
**Al-Bukhaari (3508) and Muslim (61) narrated from Abu Dharr (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Any man who knowingly attributes himself to someone other than his father is guilty of kufr. Whoever claims to belong to a people when he has nothing to do with them, let him take his place in Hell.” **
**“when he has nothing to do with them” means, when he has no lineage among them, as is highlighted in some reports. **
**Based on that, the husband has no right to force his wife to do that, and if he forces her to do it she should not obey him, because it is obedience to a created being which involves disobedience to the Creator. So she should persist in her refusal and explain to him that it is haraam, and look for Islamically acceptable means of establishing her rights from a legal point of view. **
For more information please see the answer to question no. 6241](http://www.islam-qa.com/index.php?ln=eng&QR=6241) and **1942](http://www.islam-qa.com/index.php?ln=eng&QR=1942). **
And Allaah knows best."
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