Stuck up girls

[sadzzz]

Re: Stuck up girls

^ yeah :) dont be sad... be happy that ur parents were able to do that for u.

[Miss_Noland]

@Mrs_Saieen

Those with holier than thou attitudes...will be so whether they're stay at home moms or not.

Exactly...

[Reha]

@sadzzz

^ Reha, i do both things. And honestly, i think getting to work and gettnig out is a lot harder than being home.

Sure I lose a kilo or two when im at home and gain it back at work… but just the getting to work part, organising the whole family and day.. is teeedious But rewarding. Really really rewarding…

Ive done all the poopy wiping, toilet training.. still going through it… trying to mould my munchkin into a beautiful human being… its a hard job… BUT balancing two things is even a tougher task

If you’re doing both things at once…its definitely going to be harder on you. But here I think a lot of people are trying to compare full time mother-hood to full time career woman. Its unfair in my opinion to do that. It devalues being a stay at home mother which has its own place and importance.

@queer

i think my dear frandship pcg means women who stay at home all day even when their kids are grown up enough to be in school. newborn to a few years of age, sure. kids need the attention and detail. but what about older kids’ moms being unproductive at home all day long?

I havent met too many of those at all. Most of the girls I know with school-age children have part time jobs because their husbands are working full time. Someone has to pay attention to the little ones.

@PyariCgudia

If you offered me to sit at home and take care of my kid and keep house, and that’s all I had to do, I would do it with so much less stress than I conduct my career. Soooo much less stress.

Like seriously. SOOOOOO much less stress.

Now, yeah, I guess if you compare raising kids and keeping house to being some bored secretary who gets paid to thumb through magazines, or some other ridiculously easy job which is ridiculously overpaid, then sure, maybe in comparison raising kids is more difficult.

But in all honesty, if you actually WORK when you go to work, and you are a productive successful professional, chances are you are working your behind off. Chances are you do more units of work than a stay at home mom.

Don’t get me wrong. I think moms have a tough job. But it gets tough when you’re dealing with a behavior problem (in which case you probably suck as a mom, because if you established rules and boundaries in the first place, your kid wouldn’t be such a troublemaker). It does not get TOUGH when you are putting on a pot of DAAL.

Trust me. I just learned to make daal ka saalan this weekend, and it is a total joke. Seriously. You ladies really shouldn’t be complaining - if that’s really all you gotta do and sugar daddy brings home diamonds for you, you are SERIOUSLY getting a great deal. Lots of reward for very little work. :k:

Some of us actually like to put ourselves through some pain and misery to get that diamond ring.

Why is it about getting a diamond ring? I dont understand PCG. Why does that have to be the beginning and end of everything?

I dont think its fair to compare the two domains beacuse you havent actually experienced motherhood and neither have I. For me to say “oh you guys have it SO much easier” is wrong.

Productive successful professional…what does this mean exactly? You’re productive during your day, successful at what you do and a professional. How is that different from motherhood? They are not productive when they are taking care of their children? They are not successful when their children go to college and turn into decent members of society like you PCG?

Why would you take away value from the family structure we so prize in our culture? Its one thing we pride ourselves on…our families and how we pay attention to our children in every aspect of their life. This IS the correct way of doing things. Stay at home mothers are doing what they should be doing and probably contributing more to society and our future then you or I am.

[MIAinVA]

@Reha

Productive successful professional…what does this mean exactly? You’re productive during your day, successful at what you do and a professional. How is that different from motherhood? They are not productive when they are taking care of their children? They are not successful when their children go to college and turn into decent members of society like you PCG?

Why would you take away value from the family structure we so prize in our culture? Its one thing we pride ourselves on…our families and how we pay attention to our children in every aspect of their life. This IS the correct way of doing things. Stay at home mothers are doing what they should be doing and probably contributing more to society and our future then you or I am.

Well said Reha. :k:
PCG…When you become a mother that is when you realize its not all about ME ME ME, your whole perspective towards life changes… and thats when you realize how tough motherhood really is and how rewarding as well. Your child’s giggle, smile and a hug is more rewarding than a really prestigious award your employer gives you… playing with them, teaching them how to walk, talk, read & write is definitely productive… contrary to what people say bachay khud pal nahin jaatay, they are raised and brought up by hard working parents.

When I come home, I don’t cook… I prefer to spend my free time in the evening playing with my munchkin … and when she smiles and says “I love you Mama” … its when I feel the most happy, not matter how tired I am. I highly doubt any kid of job in the world can give you that kind of satisfaction and feeling of euphoria. I work to provide a good future for my daughter, not to feel productive or for a feeling of achievement/independence… and yes, my motivation changed AFTER I became a mother

[MixedBeauty]

@Oz1217

I’ve started to notice that there are quite a few girls 'round here (thankfully still a minority) who are so stuck up and so into themselves…they look down on any woman who is less educated or married early or stays at home wtih their children, or quit her job. they roast anybody who has an opinion that differs from there. Every single one of these women who has this attitude is a self-professed “educated, career, modern” woman. I mean…isn’t that an insult to real educated/career women, the majority of whom aren’t like that? Why are htey so miserable and stuck up?

Thats because they have a complex bless them. You laugh, Ignore them and move on.

[Oz1217]

If some people think pointing out an attitude problem amongst certain people is tantamount to my being insecure or jahil then they really missed teh whole point of this thread. But thankfully majority of the people posting here understood my point.

Whether a woman stays at home and takes care of her kids full time or she works to support her family, nobody has the right to look down on her. Someone brought up an excellent point about women who work but not in professional-office jobs. I've seen older desi women working at fast-food places who are still ridiculed by their more educated, career-oriented counterparts.

I find it alarming that people can justify having superiority complexes and this is where I refuse to mind my own business and let people live.

@cherryontop

Honestly, people need to LIVE and LET LIVE. Why do working women care if stay at home moms aren't working? What the heck is it to you? They are being productive members of society by raising kids and being there for your family. Productivity can also come from taking care of your family...it doesn't have to involve going out and becoming a freaking martyr.

And stay at home moms should also definitely respect working mothers for being able to balance their professional and their role as a wife and a mother. It's very tough to maintain a balance. This holier than thou attitude needs to be stopped from both sides. Women are so catty....it's so sad. If only they would support each other instead of running after each other with a freakin knife!

@sadzzz

^ it's not even that Pareezay. There are many mothers who have worked in factories, who have worked really difficult jobs. And whoever has the nerve to say that factory work is not hard, has another thing coming. It is damn hard work.. ** but these women get looked down upon by female doctors or people who are in office roles... seirously. I have seen it happen, but i have also see how there children turn out.... **

we should just applaud all mothers for trying

@Aishaaa2.1

^Right. At the end of the day we're all the same, we're doing the best we can, whether its working outside of the house, or staying at home, or doing both. We're surviving, excelling everywhere. So stop singling out people and creating these stupid rifts

[Niksik]

@PyariCgudia

If you offered me to sit at home and take care of my kid and keep house, and that’s all I had to do, I would do it with so much less stress than I conduct my career. Soooo much less stress.

Like seriously. SOOOOOO much less stress.

Now, yeah, I guess if you compare raising kids and keeping house to being some bored secretary who gets paid to thumb through magazines, or some other ridiculously easy job which is ridiculously overpaid, then sure, maybe in comparison raising kids is more difficult.

But in all honesty, if you actually WORK when you go to work, and you are a productive successful professional, chances are you are working your behind off. Chances are you do more units of work than a stay at home mom.

Don’t get me wrong. I think moms have a tough job. But it gets tough when you’re dealing with a behavior problem (in which case you probably suck as a mom, because if you established rules and boundaries in the first place, your kid wouldn’t be such a troublemaker). It does not get TOUGH when you are putting on a pot of DAAL.

Trust me. I just learned to make daal ka saalan this weekend, and it is a total joke. Seriously. You ladies really shouldn’t be complaining - if that’s really all you gotta do and sugar daddy brings home diamonds for you, you are SERIOUSLY getting a great deal. Lots of reward for very little work. :k:

Some of us actually like to put ourselves through some pain and misery to get that diamond ring.

If my husband gets me diamonds for making daal, I’m a lucky woman.

[_MuNiYa]

Re: Stuck up girls

this argument died like last year.

Do what you want and judge no and be not judged.

Daal for diamonds? I'm IN!!

[Sara516]

Re: Stuck up girls

My daal is THAT awesome that I deserve diamonds for it. Yup

[_MuNiYa]

Re: Stuck up girls

[Mehnaz]

@Oz1217

I find it alarming that people can justify having superiority complexes and this is where I refuse to mind my own business and let people live.

Sorry, but it’s alarming you couldn’t say all of this with your real ID.

[Aish]

Re: Stuck up girls

Okay, if you refuse to let "people live" at least make yourself worthy and go do something for humanity instead of spreading hate on a forum

How about that? I know plenty of stay at home moms who are involved in organizations/wellness centers/volunteer centers for the community. They're changing the world more than I ever could. Go be one of THOSE women.

[Dubaiwali]

@Oz1217

I find it alarming that people can justify having superiority complexes and this is where I refuse to mind my own business and let people live.

Theika leh rakha hai duniya ka multi? Seriously get a life, and if you have to say something, say it with your real nick. Gosh crazy people. Spreading hate on a forum.

[Mrs_Saieen]

Re: Stuck up girls

**I dont see why it bothers you or anybody else that i used a different nick. I never intended to keep it a secret so..good for you making a big deal out of a multi nick. big whoop.

**

[chanda_kh]

Re: Stuck up girls

aasman say gira khajoor mein atka.

[Mrs_Saieen]

Okay, if you refuse to let "people live" at least make yourself worthy and go do something for humanity instead of spreading hate on a forum

How about that? I know plenty of stay at home moms who are involved in organizations/wellness centers/volunteer centers for the community. They're changing the world more than I ever could. Go be one of THOSE women.

Um, no, i'm not spreading hate on a forum.
Nowhere did I ever look down on women who work or are educated....its sad I even have to clarify this.

-I find equating marriage to sex and money spreading hate.
-looking down on women who raise children is spreading hate.
-thinking you're better than the secretary or the fast-food worker....spreading hate.

[Aish]

"I've started to notice that there are quite a few girls 'round here (thankfully still a minority) who are so stuck up and so into themselves..."

Who's looking down on a secretary or fast food worker? Maybe I missed that?

[Niksik]

Re: Stuck up girls

[note] ladies, it doesn't really matter if we use our multis. There is no rule against starting threads with a multi. Some you you above have done that before. And don't tell me you haven't because I know it.

So let's get back to the thread instead of creating a new issue. [/note]

[Aish]

Re: Stuck up girls

No Niksik, there is no issue here. We're all saying the same thing...at least, majority of us

[Niksik]

Re: Stuck up girls

Thanks Aishaaa.