If you’re doing both things at once…its definitely going to be harder on you. But here I think a lot of people are trying to compare full time mother-hood to full time career woman. Its unfair in my opinion to do that. It devalues being a stay at home mother which has its own place and importance.
I havent met too many of those at all. Most of the girls I know with school-age children have part time jobs because their husbands are working full time. Someone has to pay attention to the little ones.
Why is it about getting a diamond ring? I dont understand PCG. Why does that have to be the beginning and end of everything?
I dont think its fair to compare the two domains beacuse you havent actually experienced motherhood and neither have I. For me to say “oh you guys have it SO much easier” is wrong.
Productive successful professional…what does this mean exactly? You’re productive during your day, successful at what you do and a professional. How is that different from motherhood? They are not productive when they are taking care of their children? They are not successful when their children go to college and turn into decent members of society like you PCG?
Why would you take away value from the family structure we so prize in our culture? Its one thing we pride ourselves on…our families and how we pay attention to our children in every aspect of their life. This IS the correct way of doing things. Stay at home mothers are doing what they should be doing and probably contributing more to society and our future then you or I am.
Well said Reha. :k:
PCG…When you become a mother that is when you realize its not all about ME ME ME, your whole perspective towards life changes… and thats when you realize how tough motherhood really is and how rewarding as well. Your child’s giggle, smile and a hug is more rewarding than a really prestigious award your employer gives you… playing with them, teaching them how to walk, talk, read & write is definitely productive… contrary to what people say bachay khud pal nahin jaatay, they are raised and brought up by hard working parents.
When I come home, I don’t cook… I prefer to spend my free time in the evening playing with my munchkin … and when she smiles and says “I love you Mama” … its when I feel the most happy, not matter how tired I am. I highly doubt any kid of job in the world can give you that kind of satisfaction and feeling of euphoria. I work to provide a good future for my daughter, not to feel productive or for a feeling of achievement/independence… and yes, my motivation changed AFTER I became a mother
If some people think pointing out an attitude problem amongst certain people is tantamount to my being insecure or jahil then they really missed teh whole point of this thread. But thankfully majority of the people posting here understood my point.
Whether a woman stays at home and takes care of her kids full time or she works to support her family, nobody has the right to look down on her. Someone brought up an excellent point about women who work but not in professional-office jobs. I’ve seen older desi women working at fast-food places who are still ridiculed by their more educated, career-oriented counterparts.
I find it alarming that people can justify having superiority complexes and this is where I refuse to mind my own business and let people live.
Okay, if you refuse to let “people live” at least make yourself worthy and go do something for humanity instead of spreading hate on a forum
How about that? I know plenty of stay at home moms who are involved in organizations/wellness centers/volunteer centers for the community. They’re changing the world more than I ever could. Go be one of THOSE women.
Theika leh rakha hai duniya ka multi? Seriously get a life, and if you have to say something, say it with your real nick. Gosh crazy people. Spreading hate on a forum.
**I dont see why it bothers you or anybody else that i used a different nick. I never intended to keep it a secret so..good for you making a big deal out of a multi nick. big whoop.
Um, no, i’m not spreading hate on a forum.
Nowhere did I ever look down on women who work or are educated…its sad I even have to clarify this.
-I find equating marriage to sex and money spreading hate.
-looking down on women who raise children is spreading hate.
-thinking you’re better than the secretary or the fast-food worker…spreading hate.
[note] ladies, it doesn’t really matter if we use our multis. There is no rule against starting threads with a multi. Some you you above have done that before. And don’t tell me you haven’t because I know it.
So let’s get back to the thread instead of creating a new issue. [/note]
dont be sad… be happy that ur parents were able to do that for u.
