Actually I most definitely do not want to "qaboofy" my husband. why would you want your husband to cling on to you all day and forget everything else in the world? Someone can love you with all they have and still have their own life. Why try strategies to get him to be all over you? bakwas!! I would want my husband to have his own life and include me in it without me clinging onto him or him onto me.
If you want this sort of a man who is nothing but a whipped-no-lifer, then I suggest you get a dog!
Actually I most definitely do not want to "qaboofy" my husband. why would you want your husband to cling on to you all day and forget everything else in the world? Someone can love you with all they have and still have their own life. Why try strategies to get him to be all over you? bakwas!! I would want my husband to have his own life and include me in it without me clinging onto him or him onto me.
If you want this sort of a man who is nothing but a whipped-no-lifer, then I suggest you get a dog!
It's ghatya soch like yours that fuels the jahil mentality of our people today. Very sad and pathetic.
I said that because I felt that my friend might have been ingoring her responsibilities as wife as she was working (this I am not sure of) and the husband got to spend the whole day at the workplace with the colleague. I am NOT justifying the actions of the husband or saying . But I am forced to think what caused the husband to engage in an affair and physical relationship with his colleague within a year or so of his love marriage when the wife was expecting.
The qaboofying strategies I have been talking about actually meant caring and loving husband more than usual, being available to him, caring for the in-laws (of course not mandatory but just to create a strong bond with everyone including the husband) with the aim of strenghtening the marriage and not letting such incidents happen. If you think this is a jaahil soch, what can I say.
Why is everyone after me for using the word ‘qaboofy’? This is the word used when explaining when a husband is under his wife’s thumb and we have all seen such husbands at one point or another in our lives. Yes, we all seem to ‘hate’ such women and thats what I want to establish. Although the word qaboofy has a negative meanings associated with it, it can be taken as positive if the wife has been able to have a good relationship with his husband and the husband is happy and satisfied with the wife.
Wives can have best relationships with their husband without using all those nasty politcal strategies with the aim of making a husband under their thumb.
and the husband got to spend the whole day at the workplace with the colleague
Yeah yeah, justify the husband's cheating. Ignore the fact that she was pregnant when he cheated on her. How they met should not factor into this discussion. The fact remains that he cheated. End of story.
Some information here is missing. Like she got pregnant after two years almost. Her husband was so loving and caring that she never thought that he could do anything wrong in any way. They have very ideal relationship. She was shocked when she came to know the details and when she asked her husband he admitted that yes he had physical relationship with her. Still she didn’t leave her husband immediately because she was pregnant. But that LOOSE character woman came to her house and start living there. After birth of her daughter she started thinking about divorce. Alhamdulillah her family supported her in this hard time.
Now what do you think she didn’t try to save her marriage. She did her best but if she had physical relation with any other man, what would her husband do. He would definitely kicked her out the very next moment when she admitted her SIN. But she should be more seducing and more obedient to her husband when her husband is cheating and give him another chance? Why? Why we blame women that she must not be devoting to her husband that’s why he starting looking for another woman. Why everytime women has to be one sacrificing.
Nomi or rizla might read 
Why everytime women has to be one sacrificing.
